I feel really nervous, scared and lost now. 35 weeks.

VVT3111

Throughout my pregnancy and doctor visits I've never really had any questions for the doctor and now I'm 35 weeks and I feel so lost. I feel really scared actually.
I'm sitting here googling everything and writing down tons of questions and i just hope they're not silly questions. This will be my first baby and right now I just feel so lost. I feel like I don't understand anything. I thought I could go to my cousin and ask, but she said "are you really asking me these questions?" I'm not sure what she meant by it but i felt like she expected me to already know these things. I feel like I don't know ANYTHING and I feel like I'm missing things and I'm always asking my DH what else we need to get for the baby.

Also I feel like what if something is wrong and i didnt notice it? i've been going with the flow throughout my pregnancy and so far everything is good or at least i hope and all my visits the doctor says she's good and healthy and growing. i try not to worry because what if the dr missed something also.

I mean it's normal right ? to get scared as new parents?

anotherlady2013

It's normal.  You should look into taking the parenting classes at your hospital ASAP.  I think that would help you a lot.

SnoopyLuv

Well obviously you should post the questions here, too.

CaliforniaDream87

Yep, it's normal.

jlbhz2275

Yep this is normal! As you get closer to birth you get these mommy worries. Things you need for a baby immediately , car seat properly installed, food wether you breast or bottle feed, clothing, diapering either disposable or cloth and safe sleeping spot, the rest are details that can always be bought as needed. As far as did you miss something wrong, not likely. All we mothers can do it try to eat right, be as healthy as we can, follow the dr orders and their do and don't list. As long as you have done your best in these areas that is all we can do.. Your body is the best incubator for growing a healthy baby, the rest is up to God or nature as you see fit. But ask questions here or with the dr, but it will all be fine and you will be fine and second questioning yourself is normal, even for the most confident self assure women.

lalamakita

It's never too late to get a book. 'What to Expect' or the like. I'm feeling the same, and am on #3! I just found myself rehashing all the things I haven't done enough of this pregnancy, like exercise, perfect eating, yoga, or even cooking meals for when baby is here or cleaning up nursery. I had to stop myself! I think it's just hormones.

Take a deep breath, write down your questions and take them one at a time. You'll do fine!

mcg512

I'm almost 33 weeks and have been feeling the same way.  We're going to a child birth prep class in a couple weeks and I cannot wait to get some of my questions answered.  The ladies here are also great at answering questions.  If you don't want to ask all of them, try searching keywords and read some of the responses that other posters have received,  I've found that to be very informative.  Don't stress!! 

sfeebs13

Yes. It's very normal to be nervous. DF gets upset with me when we leave the doctors office and I didn't ask one question then we get in the car and I ask him 100. I just don't think of them til after we leave. Haha.
It will be alright. Try to relax.

inthelost

I think it's normal. This is my first child too, and I have no idea about anything either! I get more anxious and worried the closer it gets to her being born!

achadwick19

Yeah, now that I'm getting farther along I have a TON of questions. Before this I didn't have many questions and now it's like I'm finally realizing what will be happening soon and I have all kinds of questions. Totally normal! I'm also sure everything is great with your LO, try not to worry too much, even though I know it's hard.

CNYBride05

Normal-ish. Don't be afraid to ask your OB anything, ever. Being a FTM is totally anxiety provoking. If you think it's beyond typical anxiety for you, consider counseling as well. Good luck!

dandymum

No question in silly in your quest for information!! Being informed is half the battle.

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I agree with reading books, doing Internet searches (read things objectively though), and taking prenatal classes if you can. I took a series of child birth classes and had a lot of my worry about child birth eased. I am still nervous, mind you, but I feel more confident that I can have a positive birth experience knowing more of what to expect. Pregnancy is as good of a time as any to learn more about your body and the changes it is going through. If people you know in your life are not supportive of you when you ask questions, medical professionals are always there for you (or they should be anyhow!). 

EMunion777

Heck, this isn't even my first and i'm nervous. Just read, read, read. It's all you can really do. I've learned some new things this time around that I wish I would have known the first time. And i'm sure it will be that way with each and every pregnancy. Just write all of your questions down and take it in with you to your next appointment. It's your job to ask questions and your doctor's to help prepare you. Feel free to ask us here too.

Rowcate

Its totally normal to get scared. With my DD i was pretty calm and going with the flow the whole time and then week 39 I freaked. I felt completely unprepared. I am on #2 due in a couple weeks and I am scared about this one too, with the first I was anxious to get her out with #2 I want to keep him in! Truth is it all works out. Don't be afraid to ask for help or ask others questions. Trust me other mothers usually love being asked for advice on things and like to offer help (at least in my experience). Also a good pediatrician who really takes their time with you is a life saver.

foxyroxy

It is normal to get scared, but I am concerned at your high level of anxiety. Have you been reading books, talking to BTDT moms, etc? At your next appointment, you need to tell your ob about your fears so she can help you manage them.

Hollywogg

It sounds like you are developing some anxiety, which is very normal during pregnancy. Is there someone that you can talk to about it that wont be judgy and bitchy like your cousin was? I find that talking to some of my friends who were pregnant has helped quite a bit. I usually preface with, I know I'm being paranoid but I need to talk it out and they typically give me reassurance and talk me out of my anxiousness. If I didn't have them I'd talk to my doctor about anxiety if it was getting bad.

kennazebrowsky

It is normal to worry! But stay away from google. It will make you freak out.

lys733

I'm in the same boat! I have had the same anxiety wondering what if something's wrong how will I know and each time id tell myself the dr would catch it but I still worried! Now I go every week (I'm actually past my due date)but the dr keeps saying everything is ok..I still have some anxiety but every time I hear her heartbeat it gets better and looking at her ultrasound picture helps! It's also my first pregnancy and I was so paranoid through the first and second trimester! Find someone who you can go to with questions even if its your dr or a stranger and I know it won't help but hang in there! You are almost there!

VVT3111

kennazebrowsky said:

It is normal to worry! But stay away from google. It will make you freak out.

omg it really does!

AprilAngie

I would take a prenatal class ad get some great books.  Your pregnancy week by week is a good one.  Also, the What to expect when your expecting as pp have said.  This is all normal. 

also, for lists on what you need for baby- you can goggle. 

mainly you need, diapers, wipes, a place for LO to sleep, some clothes, and a car seat.. the rest is all for us. 

You will be fine. 

 

leahaustin

It is normal to become anxious and worry especially as your due date approaches. Try not to freak yourself out on Google though. Ask your doctor whatever questions you want...remember you are the patient and the doctor works for you! You will be fine though.