BFs, or anyone, with 2 under 2....how do you do it?

tunanuna

Hi,

I have a 1mo who I am currently BF and doesn't like to be put down and a 17mo.  DH has been home for the last month so things have been manageable but he will be going back to work soon and I have no idea how I am going to deal  with them both by myself.  I hate to say it but I am scared.  How do you do it?  Any advice is very welcome.

SarahMay77

I'm curious to see what people say.  I'm BFing my first child and it's putting a major strain on me and my marriage.  I feel completely tied to the baby all day long.  DH doesn't have to do anything at night (and actually shut the bedroom door last night because he was annoyed that we were making too much noise during a diaper change in the nursery) and I resent him for that.

To top it off, I started my first PP period and DH and I have been in 3 of the worst fights of our entire marriage in the past few days.  DH blames it on hormones but really I'm just super annoyed that he hasn't been helping me around the house as much as I wanted.  He went on a big cleaning spree yesterday, so hopefully we'll be able to start fresh and smooth things over now.

cuwife

I have a 15 month old and a 3 month old. I EBF and it is not easy. My DH has been off periodically since birth and has had the whole month of December off (I went back in December). He now understands how hard it is. I have a decent freezer supply so him being able to bottle feed her is never an issue. We took turns at night in the beginging, now she is only up once and I just feed her. I do most of the cleaning(since he is horrible at it)

Needless to say, he swears he will never let a friend talk bad about his SAHW ever again. He constantlly says "I don't know how you do it? When he comes home from work to a clean house and napping children.

kellyjustin

I dont have much advice on breast feeding, sorry.  But i do have 2 girls 18 mo apart.  how do you do it?  you just do.  some days suck.  some times dd#1 waits and cries, some times dd#2 waits and cries.  it will get MUCH better an easier as they both get older.  my girls are now 22 mo and 4 mo and i actually enjoy my days!  try to get as much sleep as possible, keep your cool knowing you are doing the best you can, and enjoy it when it is all going smoothly.  at night, dh and i always tell each other our favorite thing of the day and it helps me focus on the good parts!