This is the situation, my sister will be in town from tonight till this upcoming weekend. Last time she saw DD she was 2 weeks old (2 mo ago). The plan was for me to take DD to my parents' tomorrow so that my sister could spend the day with her (my Mom takes care of DD while I'm at work). DH is home all this week, while I'm working today/tomorrow. Well, I come to find out that my Mom will not be home most of the day tomorrow. My Dad has never been w/ DD alone, has never changed her, fed or soothed her. He will be home only part of the day. This means my sister would be alone w/ DD. I do not feel comfortable since she hasn't seen her since she was 2 weeks old and has no experience taking care of her (feeding, diapering, soothing). Once I found out my Mom won't be home, I decided to leave DD at home with DH, telling my sister to come over (my parents live just a few miles away). MS is very offended that I don't trust her w/ DD. My viewpoint is that as far as DD is concerned MS is a stranger and DD is a totally different baby than she was 2 mos ago.
Am I wrong not to trust my sister w/ DD? Would appreciate your honest opinions. FWIW, my sister has no children but keeps reminding me of her babysitting experience (10 yrs ago).
Re: Am I wrong?
oh, I'm totally annoyned w/ my Mom for making this decision w/out consulting me!
I just feel that: DH and I made the decision and our family has to accept it; they don't have to like it but they do have to accept it since it's our child.
Sister or not, I'd be very nervous to leave a small baby with someone who babysitted 10 years ago. I'd also be mad at mom for assuming sister could handle a baby all day - a baby she's totally unfamiliar with. I'm totally with you. And she has a right to feel offended. Everyone has a right to their feelings.
Maybe to smooth things over you can try "I'm a new mom and I guess I'm just overly protective, but I really only want people who are familiar with baby to babysit" or "DH so seldom gets to spend a whole day with baby, it'll be so nice for you to spend the day with him taking care of baby..."