i'm tired of trying to do everything "right"

yankee42 · December 2008

seriously...why do i have to put my babies in the cribs awake, and not pick them up when they wake up and cry? and then have them scream..me get upset, them start coughing/throwing up because they are so upset..screw it! im gonna feed them to sleep, cuddle them, rock them, do whatever i can to make them happy, and you know what? i will be happier..i don't care if i have to wake up once or twice a night, we will get through it..ugh..

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gymrat · December 2008

I'm with you. It sometimes takes 10+ trips to put a paci back in. We also get up twice a night to feed each of them. I don't deny my preemies food. Mine only get madder if I let them cry. We've let them fuss but not cry it out.

yankee42 · December 2008

oh.....and might i add that all of those freaking books don't really give any good insight about twins and sleep/nap stuff...i mean when one screams they wake the other one up...i need to get them to sleep...and i don't have extra rooms in my house to have multiple nurseries at this point..

gymrat · December 2008

Yeah the napping thing is not working for us right now either. Sometimes one can sleep through the crying and other times the slightest noise will wake one of them up.

I told my DH the other night that "trying to do everything right" all the time is making us into really uptight parents. We were getting really hard on ourselves for "failing."

Mr.&MrsS · December 2008

You need to do what is right for you and your family...that is the right thing to do!!

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skoorbnibor · December 2008

You know what Nora, I think all parents should do what works for them!

I also think that if you tried to put them down awake and it only got them more upset, they just aren't ready! So you do what works for you and when they are ready, they will let you know!

And you are doing what is RIGHT!

gabbeyh · December 2008

I've kinda given up on that. There are so many opinions on what is "right", I can't keep up. Eli is now sleeping on the couch by me, when I go to bed I'll give him a bottle and put him in his crib...asleep. Oh well.

niknak1128 · December 2008

I agree. My MIL was over the other day and was giving us grief about going to him every time he cries. She said we need to let him scream sometimes and not give him his paci every time he wants it. I disagree.. I will go to him EVERY time he cries and I will make ten thousand paci trips if that's what it takes.. I don't care. I could not agree with you more.

firegirl_05 · December 2008

tthank you so much for posting this! I was getting ready to write close to the same thing. I feel so much better after reading replies and this post in general. I have been dealing w/sleep issues from the start and did everything I thought I was supposed to and now I feel more comfortable just doing things my way. If no one else likes it screw it I want my baby to feel happy and safe.