Ugh, DH refuses to help at night

tifvolley

DS spent two nights with my mom and slept from 10pm-7am both nights.  He also did this the first night we had him back.  Now we're back to the routine where he wakes to eat at 12am and fusses until I nurse him.  This goes on all night and I usually cave and bring him to bed with me.

DH keeps complaining that DS can't sleep with us anymore.  I told him maybe DS would stop if someone other than me tried to comfort him when he woke up and he agreed.  Of course, easier said than done.  DS just woke up crying and DH rolled over and told me I'd better nurse him, that he (DH) needs his sleep.  I'm so annoyed right now!

J+O

Tell him to go nurse him and roll over.

Punk.

tifvolley

I like taking DS to bed with me, making a ton of noise doing so, pulling the covers off DH, and then hogging the bed.  Screw his sleep with a comment like that!

changingnames

  We cosleep for a few reasons- not the least of which being that I can latch DS on and off w/o waking up all the way.  As far as I am concerned DH has no say in sleeping arrangements till DS is weaned off the breast and/or STTN.  If Dh wants your DS out fo the bed then he needs to do AT LEAST half of the ngiht feeds- plain and simpe (IMHO).  I've read several places that if mom is the one answering baby ten baby is going to want to nurse- that dad has to sack up and do night duty when you wnat to waen hi off the night nurse- maybe showing him a book with these details?  Or just tell him that if you get the baby you will be bringing him to bed to nurse- if he wants to break him of the habit he needs to get up- you will assume he is not that intrested in breaking him of the habit if he doesn't get up.