Anyone's DC hate to be held?

Gin*In*TN

When DD Is really sleepy and fighting it she cries and cries, but if you try to hold her or rock her or anything she screams to the point of no noise coming out. All she wants is to be put in a quiet dark room where she whimpers and fusses for about 2 minutes until she falls asleep. Seriously, you cannot console her at all. She just wants to be left alone. What kind of baby doesn't want to be held and comforted? Does anyone else go through this? I'm worried about CIO, so I do still stand next to her crib and talk to her while she's fussing to sleep, but I just don't know what else to do. I guess just letting her know I'm still there is all I can do?

Tricia107

My DD is not that bad about it but yes she would rather you put her down and let her comfort herself. shes not a fan of being held its the only time she will scream/fuss

LucyPevensie

hmm i don't know but just wanted to say it's good to "see" you and  i hope you're feeling better!

Gin*In*TN

LucyPevensie:

hmm i don't know but just wanted to say it's good to "see" you and? i hope you're feeling better!

Thanks. It's good to be "seen". I'm feeling much better. The meds are working and I'll start going to counseling after the first of the year. Thankfully DH is being really supporting through all of this and realizes how important it is for both myself and for our family.?

habsoilers

Gin*In*TN:

LucyPevensie:

hmm i don't know but just wanted to say it's good to "see" you and  i hope you're feeling better!

Thanks. It's good to be "seen". I'm feeling much better. The meds are working and I'll start going to counseling after the first of the year. Thankfully DH is being really supporting through all of this and realizes how important it is for both myself and for our family. 

I was going to say the same thing. Good to see you and I'm glad things are going better for you. Good luck!!

jenhum

DD is just now starting to let us hold her and soothe her. Up until she was about 4 months old, she wanted nothing to do with being held. If she was crying and someone picked her up, it would turn into screaming. She also just wanted to be lying down by herself, and she'd fuss for a minute before falling asleep.

I know it's hard to not be able to hold and cuddle when they are upset! But hopefully it's just a phase as it was with my DD. She still isn't the cuddliest baby ever, but she will finally rest her head on my shoulder without arching and trying to buck out of my arms .

susie1079

How old is your baby?  When mine was in his first month he did not seem to want to be held either, like he had to get used to the feeling.  Eventually he got used to it though and now loves it.  Also sometimes when he is so over-tired I can't hold him and arches his back and gets frustrated. A trick I learned is to bounce gently on a big exercise ball while holding the baby, it makes them relax into your arms and fall asleep even when they are fighting it from over-tiredness.

charlaNIKol

B isn't a fan of being held either, he'd rather sit and hang or play on his own a lot of the time.  Have you mentioned it to your pedi? 

Gin*In*TN

DD is 6 months old. I haven't mentioned it to the pedi yet, she's just pretty much been this way since we came home from the hospital, so I've accepted that she just wants to self soothe, but it's still weird to me and hard to know she doesn't want to be comforted by me.