Baby and Church Related Question

sme14

Would you bring your 9mo old to Midnight Mass on Christmas?  I really don't want to, but DH is insistant on it.  Christmas Eve we have to be at at one side of the family by 6:00 and DH has to work and won't be home until 4:30, so we can't make it to the evening masses.  He doesn't want to go to the Christmas morning mass in the morning, so we can spend time with DD before having to rush to my parents house by 10:00, so he can help with the food.  I just wanted to see what you thought.  I know that DD would definately sleep through it, but I don't think that it is fair to her and want to convince DH, but he won't budge.

Sherriberry

Personally, I wouldn't do it.

luciagdelopez

DD is going to midnight mass just like we do every year.  Family tradition. I am glad she still fits in the carrier so she will sleep there. But regardless she will be going next year and the year after, etc.  

Why is it unfair for her? She will most likely sleep through it.

habsoilers

I would take her especially since she'll sleep through it.

sme14

The only reason why I say it is "unfair" is because of getting her in and out of the carseat, I know, will wake her up (she hasn't fit in her carrier for months now) and that she will be cranky.  Also, if she does wake and won't go back to sleep I know it will mess with her sleeping pattern for a few days.

texasgurl

There is no way in helll I would attempt this. We are going Xmas Day after her nap even though we usually do midnight mass as well. However, I have a high maintenance DD. OMG, she would be PISSED.

Mominator

No way! Christmas day will be crazy enough without messing w/ DC's sleep schedule. Your DH is crazy.

luciagdelopez

its really up to you, but midnight mass is a sacrifice I am willing to make. Next year I will have a 21 month old and a 9 month old and have every intention of making it to mass.

franciscaz

UGH!  Sleep time is just sacred in my home.  If we took him, he probably would get upset and scream the whole time!  Try telling that to your DH, that might help.  In fact we have 3 hr church every Sunday and I normally leave after the 2nd hour so Harm can sleep.  Otherwise he is a foul clown.

BlueRidgeMama

I always would go to midnight mass, until this year. We are going to the 4:00 (christmas eve) children's mass this year. That said, if it's all you can do, you could just see how it goes, and deal with any sleep issues as it comes. Depends on how portable your DD is when she is asleep. I would hate for DD to be overtired all day on xmas though.

Mama Jan

That's hard because no, I wouldn't do it.  BUT if it's that important to your DH and you know DD will sleep, maybe it's something to consider...

Jbauer

We are going to Midnight mass and he will most likely sleep through it. If he doesn't then we will go into the sound proof room at my church.?

In the back of the church they have a room that babies or young kids and their parents can sit and listen and not have the audience hear the kids fuss.?

But I think DS will do just fine.?

GRKaters

Not a chance.

 

Kateysomething

I am seriously considering it.  Midnight Mass is my favorite thing, and I have a pretty easy going DD.  Her sleep schedules are a little wacky as it is, so I don't think it would throw her off too badly, even if she were to wake up.

Also, I think the next two days are going to be havoc for sleep and routine anyway, so what the heck.

Crystal&Jason Murphy

Good Luck! I would not do it

rissa06

no . . i wouldn't wake DD up to take her to mass and then put her back to sleep.

jessicasuzann

I love Midnight Mass, but also know that taking DD in and out of her carseat at that hour is NOT something I'd want to do--especially since the next day will be so busy with visiting family and all. I think it's going to be important for my baby, who is "high maintenance", to get her rest as much as possible in order for her to be pleasant to the family we so rarely see. I feel like the events of the day are going to be enough to throw her for a loop--there's no way I'd need to add Midnight Mass and its effects to the list of "out of the ordinary."

 

Also--how does DH propose you actually do this? As in, logisitically. Will you put dc to bed in the crib at normal bedtime, then remove dc at 11:30 to get into the carseat, carrier, carseat, and crib again? What if dc doesn't just fall back asleep??  Just some thoughts. I mean, if you aren't doing anything big. like traveling or visiting a lot of people on Christmas Day, then maybe....

 

Well, good luck with whatever you both decide. 

SpartanGirl

I wouldn't do it.  DS is a terrible sleeper, and I would never mess with waking him up, putting him into and out of a carseat.  I know DS would NOT sleep through mass and we would pay for it with a cranky kid the next day.

jodynjames2005

Heck no. In fact, we're not even taking the babies to my mom's house for Christmas Eve dinner because we'd get home too late and it would mess with their bedtimes. The last thing anyone needs is overtired babies on Christmas. It may be a holiday, but it's still a normal day for babies, and keeping their routine is important to help them not be totally overwhelmed.

I'd highly suggest going to an earlier mass on Christmas Eve. Our parish has a 4:30 pm one for kids. Midnight mass is gorgeous and a wonderful tradition, but I don't think it is worth risking a screaming baby, a baby who won't go back to sleep, and a highly overtired baby on Christmas just to start the tradition before your DD will even remember it. My parents took me every single year... beginning at age 4. I do the same with mine... only when they are old enough not to have major sleep issues!!

If it were my DH insisting, I'd make him deal with her through any screaming fits, difficulties getting her back to sleep, and the next day!!

citygirl_

NO WAY!  He would likely scream the whole time and I do NOT mess with sleep.  Naptime and bedtime are sacred!

anna7602

we wouldn't do it.. DD would never go back to sleep during the mass after being woken up and taken out of the house.

wearewinelovers

I feel like she will most likely sleep through it.  Make sure she is fed and dry and comfortable before you enter the church.  My experience is that if Raegan is asleep when we get there she will sleep through church.

You won't know until you try it.  I think you will save yourself disappointment/stress if you don't have any expectations.  Go and see how it turns out and be prepared to accept it if you have to leave early.

 Good luck and Merry Christmas!

olivia_eve

No way.  It took us 7 months to get DD sleeping at night, and I wouldn't risk it.

There is a chance that she would sleep... but what if she doesn't?  Then you wouldn't enjoy the mass anyways.

LM2003

No way!

rorygirl218

GRKaters:

Not a chance.

 

 

i second this!