does thinking about next baby

beachbride5

make anyone else feel guilty for their current baby? i want to wait until the summer of 10 to try for #2 so dek will turn 3 before that baby is born, but i find myself constantly thinking about that next baby. especially now that he is getting to be a big boy and chewing cheerios! i feel a little bad like i should be content to just be with him and not think about the next one. i'm not trying to rush him to his third bday...

i know, crazy. oh well. not AS crazy if i'm not alone...anyone????

Michelle110

Nope, I don't feel guilty at all. But, you're not alone to feel the way you do.

princess4u81

our plan is to "actively" try next fall. If it happens before than we are okay with that, too. I guess I don't feel guilty because I am a SAHM and pretty much spend all my time with DD. I usually leave her with DH to run to the grocery store and that is it.

destea1

Actually, yeah. I'm a SAHM but... I don't know, I feel like if I rushed into another baby I wouldn't be able to spend some special alone time with her (which is what I cherish right now). Granted, poor #2 won't get that kind of 'special' attention so maybe I should feel guilty about that? LOL. We can't win... I had a dream I was pregnant and I was SUPER sad because I felt like I was cheating sierra out of another year of being an only child. It seems weird, considering I KNOW we want to have 2. I'm sure it's all great either way...

beachbride5

ps- this is in no way meant to be an insult to those that are ttc or pg with another baby so soon. purely my own weird thoughts about my self inflicted timeline for my children.

Michelle110

No worries! I didn't take the original post to mean it that way.

Desert*Flower

I understand what you are saying.  No matter when you have #2, #1 is going to have to share you.  Just think though, you are giving #1 a priceless gift - a little friend!

loquinn

I've actually been feeling like this alot lately!  I've always wanted 2 children but sometimes I feel so guilty for DS.  Like I don't know how I'll divide my time and stuff. But I guess it will all work out. 

la79al

I think about the next baby but honestly if I accidently got pregnant right now I don't know if I would be ecstatic or start crying.  I want more, but I am not done spending time with just DD yet. 

almost momma of two

I don't think DS remembers what life was like without DD. He could care less if he's with me now. He loves going to preschool and going to his grandparents. I used to feel that same way, but I really just try to cherish all of the moments with both of them now and I make time for each individually.

beachbride5

it's not really that i am worried about splitting the time. that's why we decided to wait until he is three to have a sibling. this way he will be more independent and less of a baby himself.

i just feel that i just had him, why am i already thinking about the next one?! oh well. i guess that's just the way it goes.

thanks fo all the replies! makes me feel a lot better! and a little jealous of those that are pg already!!