Would this annoy you or am I just hormonal....

JennyLbride

I don?t have the best relationship with my in ?laws.  I get a Christmas card from them today.

It?s a card that says ?TO MY WONDERFUL SON, and his family?.

(Originally when I saw the front of the card I thought ok maybe she included the twins inside, but there is no mention of them. )    

Umm, Family I generally think of as kids, well we don?t have any yet.  Guess she didn?t want to acknowledge me as his Wife and get the typical ?To my son and daughter in law?.

JGirl2005

yeah that would probably get me upset, but you are asking other hormonal women. 

MayDayGirl

Part of me would be annoyed, but I could totally see my mom doing that and then I would think nothing of it.

kathy34

yeah, that would annoy me!

JennyLbride

I feel like she does little snarky things that only a "women" would get....so that my hubby doesn't think anything about it and just thinks I'm being picky. 

She does things like this all the time and my husband just tells me I'm overreacting and I'm reading into things.   

M&S1007

um yea, that would totally get under my skin.  but then again I imagine that was the point of wording the card that way.

DenverGrl

I would be annoyed.  It sounds like they aren't the most thoughtful people.

laura&dan05

It would probably annoy me but at the same time I call DH and I "family."    Our parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins are extended family. You would think she could find a card that said son and daughter-in-law when it's just the 2 of you!

axr8111

I really don't think it would bother me because you are family. Do you think she loves her grandchildren any less because they weren't specifically mentioned? I don't think so. Hopefully she didn't mean it snarky. It's the holiday season, try to let it go.

skoorbnibor

well, her son is wonderful... but you are just family! : )

I feel you on that one.. I feel you! Yes I would be annoyed.

 

desabean

It would annoy me-- but I get annoyed when I get "lumped in". It's like you don't really even exist, you are just some appendage to her son.   I didn't take my husband's name and 70% of the holiday cards we got this year were addressed to Mr. & Mrs. Wesley _____.  I know that is a "traditional" way of addressing a card, but I find it antiquated and offensive.  I have a name and it isn't Mrs. Wesley ____. I didn't get married so I could get a new name-- at least put Susan and Wesley ____.

We've been married almost 4 years and everyone knows I did not take his name, they just don't give a crap.