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baby wearers - a question

When your baby was 6 weeks old, how much time/day would you estimate you were wearing her?  I get worried that I'm not "holding" her enough sometimes and then other times I get worried that I'm doing it too much!  I know that she'll let me know if she wants to get out, but I was just wondering what other people do (have done).

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    I wore DS probably 3-4 hours a day, DD1 pretty much all day, and I'm wearing DD 2 about 2-3 hours. Just do what feels right for you guys. There's not a right or wrong answer. And I don't think you can hold them too much, especially at this age.
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    I agree with pp, I don't think you can hold them too much at that age. I held or wore DS almost all day at that time, still do?image. The only time I didn't really hold him was if he was sleeping in his swing or playing on his playmat.?
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    If he wasn't sleeping we were probably always holding or wearing.
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    Thanks, ladies!  I feel much better now.  I think I need to come over here for parenting advice in the future.  It seems like there are more people whose feelings are in line with mine.  Sometimes I read posts on other boards and feel bad - like I'm hindering my child's development or something because I'm not raising her to be "independent" and do things like self-soothe when she wakes up in the night or learn to sleep in her own crib.  I get worried when people post about how co-sleeping will hurt my marriage and drive a wedge in between my DH and I. 

    In my heart, I know that there is something to be said for teaching DD that her needs will be met as soon as possible and that "independence" is not a reasonable goal for a 6 week old baby.  I know that she is comfortable and well-fed despite the facts that I have no idea how many ounces of breastmilk she's getting each day or that she is in her Moby for most of the day.  I also know that waking up in the morning with our beautiful, smiling miracle of a baby in between us is making my DH and I closer.  But, sometimes my head starts questioning my heart.  Thanks for making me feel better!

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    I wore or held DS all the time and we still have plenty of days where he won't let me put him down or he won't stray more than a foot from me.  After reading Dr. Sears though, I've come to the realization (after 10 months of his particular behavior) that he's probably high need which is not a bad thing.  And knowing that in itself has made life so much easier because I can handle his needs a lot easier when he's making constant demands some days.
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    imageberty12777:

    Thanks, ladies!  I feel much better now.  I think I need to come over here for parenting advice in the future.  It seems like there are more people whose feelings are in line with mine.  Sometimes I read posts on other boards and feel bad - like I'm hindering my child's development or something because I'm not raising her to be "independent" and do things like self-soothe when she wakes up in the night or learn to sleep in her own crib.  I get worried when people post about how co-sleeping will hurt my marriage and drive a wedge in between my DH and I. 

    In my heart, I know that there is something to be said for teaching DD that her needs will be met as soon as possible and that "independence" is not a reasonable goal for a 6 week old baby.  I know that she is comfortable and well-fed despite the facts that I have no idea how many ounces of breastmilk she's getting each day or that she is in her Moby for most of the day.  I also know that waking up in the morning with our beautiful, smiling miracle of a baby in between us is making my DH and I closer.  But, sometimes my head starts questioning my heart.  Thanks for making me feel better!

    You said it best yourself!  You are a great  mommy.  Do what you know is right for your baby.

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    imageberty12777:

    Thanks, ladies!  I feel much better now.  I think I need to come over here for parenting advice in the future.  It seems like there are more people whose feelings are in line with mine.  Sometimes I read posts on other boards and feel bad - like I'm hindering my child's development or something because I'm not raising her to be "independent" and do things like self-soothe when she wakes up in the night or learn to sleep in her own crib.  I get worried when people post about how co-sleeping will hurt my marriage and drive a wedge in between my DH and I. 

    In my heart, I know that there is something to be said for teaching DD that her needs will be met as soon as possible and that "independence" is not a reasonable goal for a 6 week old baby.  I know that she is comfortable and well-fed despite the facts that I have no idea how many ounces of breastmilk she's getting each day or that she is in her Moby for most of the day.  I also know that waking up in the morning with our beautiful, smiling miracle of a baby in between us is making my DH and I closer.  But, sometimes my head starts questioning my heart.  Thanks for making me feel better!

    You're doing great! I've found that our hearts are always right. Always go with your gut. 

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    Wearing - probably 3ish hours a day. Holding - basically all day! There were a few hours where he'd be napping in his swing or playing on the floor a bit so that I'd get a break but other than that, someone was generally always holding or wearing him. I agree with all the pp's, you can't hold a baby too much! Soon they'll be big like my 'little' guy and you won't have the opportunity to snuggle with them anymore so enjoy it now!
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