DH's ILs suck (long?)

manic mama

Yep, my parents.

My stepmom has twice made comments to other people (specifically my nephew) about what she thinks about things DH says. The first was when he said he wasn't going to do our room demolition the way she wanted to. The second was when he asked for a fee for a photo she hung on the wall that was his. The first was a very short version of what happened and was after some heated discussion. The second was a joke. My nephew, who is somewhat socially inept, told DH what she said and so he called and tried to straighten things out and make sure they were on good terms.

Now she sent us a link to a news story about how the attorney general of NJ is going after a wedding photog/video company that stiffed 600 ppl. She sent it to us because after more than a year, we never got our photos. DH responded the AG was not going to help us for one case with a one-man company. The one in the paper was more of a class action. She responded curtly and he felt like he had to explain himself again and is worried she's going to be pissed yet again.

As for the photos, DH has been calling, emailing and even went to the guy's house (he moved). And all of this when really my Dad was the client. When DH talked to Dad after driving to the jerk's house, Dad asked about our house renovations. When DH told him we were getting carpeting, he said, "must be nice to have money." We don't and DH parents are helping us with these renovations.

So now I'm crying because I feel like DH is misunderstood and they pick on him and I feel alone. I don't want to get involved, but there is part of me that wants to call them up and get hormonal on their @sses.

Neudorfer

sweetheart, you NEED to get involved.  it is absolutely not ok for your parents to treat your husband this way.  you should tell them that if they don't start respecting your husband then you and he will no longer be a part of their lives.  when you get married your hubby becomes your number one and they are second in line... they need to understand this.  plus i think it is so sweet he has been trying so hard to keep smoothing the water.  don't let them walk all over him, it is not ok.  it is your job to stop it as it is your parents. 

babyformeg

I completely empathize. My DH and mother DO NOT get along. My mother is a drama queen who says things she shouldn't after a few beers. My DH though is not as nice as yours and basically acccepts her challenges. He will not be bullied by her which she is used to doing. Someday I think he may tell her to f-off and not feel bad about it. She also has unrealistic expectations of her future involvement with the baby. I hate the drama.