I got a question for the wedding ettiquite nerds here
My brother just got engaged on Saturday and I'm so happy because I absolutely LOOOOOVE his fiance. I mean I love her so much I already refered to her as Ollie's "Auntie Maren" but my brother has been married before. What's the ettiquite for throwing her a shower from my side of the family? Is it rude to ask for gifts for the wife to be of my brother, since we already threw a shower for his last wife?
I really want to throw her a shower, but I'm not sure what everyone else would think.
Re: Speaking of 2nd showers
Im no "etiquette nerd" but what if you just did like a gift card shower? Just instruct everyone to bring a $20-$30 (or pick a demonination) gift card to their favorite place. This way, it does take much stress on the family's part to think of a gift and she will still get some great stuff.
I personally wouldnt be offended to go to the shower of my brother's 2nd wife if it was her first wedding. If its the 2nd for both, then a shower may not be the best idea, IMHO.
I would definitely throw her a shower. The shower is really for the bride anyway. Plus it doesn't have to be something huge. I'm sure whatever is done she will appreciate it. It's a nice way to welcome her into the family.
Definitely throw her a shower.
I love the name Maren, btw.
aokiedokie
Umm yeah, have you ever been part of a catholic family? people here have 3-4 showers each usually. Since when are brides limited to one shower thrown by her family? And technically bridesmaids are supposed to throw showers.
Totally acceptable. I see it as a fresh start for both of them, why not?
I love the name Maren, too.
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wtf?? DH and I are both catholic, but I didn't get multiple showers! Someone should have ?passed this memo on to our families! ;-) jk
However, if we're talking "traditional etiquette," I second the point that bridal showers are technically supposed to be thrown by the maid of honors/bridesmaids. The baby shower is technically supposed to be thrown by the in-laws. With that said, both my showers were thrown by my mom and sister (sister was maid of honor). In-laws didn't even come to my baby shower, let alone throw me one.?
Also, my husband was previously married, but like I said, I still had a bridal shower and would've been pretty pissed if I didn't get to just b/c he was married 10 years ago! However, DH's mother did happen to throw the first wife a big bridal shower. I guess I was lucky that she even attended mine. :-P
I'm a bridesmaid so I guess that takes care of that.
P.S. Now that I'm on a roll, I can't help but throw in here DH's brother's wife is currently pregnant. MIL is "co-hosting" her baby shower (with SIL's mother). I love how the talks all excitedly to me about it and shows absolutely no shame whatsoever that she didn't even ATTEND mine. Her excuse at the time, in case you're wondering? She "doesn't really believe in showers" and "thinks it should be all about the baptism once DC arrives." She also was uncomfortable "driving so far by herself," and was "worried she wouldn't find my parents' house on her own." Yeah, she's been there before.
But I'm not bitter. Really.?