Getting over a miscarriage

K-I-S-S-I-N-G

I know the pregnancy loss board is great but I just like posting here better. I am feeling like such crap about this miscarriage, I am back at work for the first day since it happened and I can see everyone that knew I was pregnant looking at  me and not knowing what to say and then the ones that do tell me they are sorry have to deal with me starting to cry (which I do whenever I talk about it,) which makes me feel bad for them because I know how uncomfortable that is. I find myself even feeling guilty for feeling so sad because I know so many people go through so much worse. I wonder when I am going to just be at peace with it, I wonder when I will get pregnant again and now I am scared of another miscarriage. I am pissed that I just went through 10 weeks of feeling like absolute shit for nothing. I am jealous of my pregnant friends. I know all these are really normal feelings but seriously, it sucks. I feel like doing nothing- sitting at work kills me.

Tracy1011

I'm so sorry.  I had a miscarriage too and your post is word for word how I felt.

I know it doesn't feel like it, but it does get easier.  I got PG again two months later and I thought I would freak out all the time thinking I would miscarry again. But I didn't.  It was all okay.

It takes time to deal with, to be accepting of what happened and the unfairness of it.  But it will happen. You will feel better and you will get PG again.

It sucks, but something just wasn't right, and this was nature's way of telling you that.

Try not to be so hard on yourself. You have every right to these feelings and they will fade in time.

Hugs!

JOEBunny

{Hugs}  Sometimes words just don't work.

sweetie1528

I have no answers for you hon, but I wanted to tell you that you are in my prayers and I am sending you a huge hug.  we are all here for you!

kevschickee2

oh god I am so sorry.  You stay here and vent to us.  I can't imagine what you are going through and its not right that any woman has to go through this.  I know nothing I can say will make you feel better but I hope one day you will feel like your old self again. 

shopgirl78

I just want to hug you right now! ?(((HUGS!)))

AnneUCSB

I'm so sorry for your loss. ?I went through a m/c too. ?It's so tough. ?For me, what finally made me feel hopeful again was getting pg again (which happened the following cycle). ?My m/c was with my first pg so I was worried something was wrong with me and I'd never be able to have kids and I longed so much for a baby. ?I do still think of my little one every Feb. 5th (the due date). ?

(((HUGS)))) to you and I hope you're able to find some joy in your little man and a new DC joins your family soon. ?Take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve as long as you need.

amanda&rob

I'm sorry.  (((hugs)))

Heidisean

((((HUGS)))))

I know exactly how you feel and I totally feel the same. Know that many others are in your shoes and it does purely SUCK!  There is no nice way to say it.  My MC was Sept 15th with a D & E on that day and we will ttc starting next week again.  I was told to wait 2 cycles (we tried last month after 1 cycle and it was a bust so we'll wait until this one).  To boot, my bff is due 2 days before I was and her big US was today and she found out she is having a healthy little girl.  So, I am really, really sad today feeling sorry for myself. I baked a choc cake and indulged and cried today.  So, unfortunately it has been 2 1/2 months for me and it isn't much easier.  I really think it will take getting preg again to make me (us) stop feeling like this.  Everything you said is natural and how I feel.  MC are a cruel joke played on us.  I wonder everyday if, when I will get pregnant again. I hope we both get pregnant really soon so we can move on. 

almostjennifer

I promise you it will get better.  I didn't think I'd ever get over the pain, but I did.  You will never forget your baby you lost (though it will feel like everyone else did) but the pain will get better with time.

This may sound dumb, but something that helped me was I went and did everything I couldn't when I was PG.  I sat in a super hot jacuzzi, ate raw cookie dough, drank wine, ate sushi, etc.  That made me feel better. 

Travis&Jen

One of the most comforting things that anyone told me was from a friend.  I don't know what your beliefs are but for me it was very comforting.  She told me that she believes (as do I) that a baby is a baby at conception and although it isn't easy, that you will always have someone "watching" over you from above and when your time is done here you'll have someone waiting for you.  sorry for your loss.