For those who delivered w/o pain meds...

kertybird

My BFF is in labor right now and is doing it drug free! I want to stay posted but I don't want to make her crazy.  Is sending a text to her hubs every hour to check her progress really annoying? I know that he needs to help her concentrate but it is just the 2 of them and no other family is around.  I was the first one that she called on the way to the hospital, and the only friend who has gone through labor before.

 I had an epi, so I spent the whole time talking to friends while I was in labor.  What should I do? How long should I wait to check in?

Zenya

I didn't intentionally but for various reasons didn't get an epi until I was fully dilated.  I would have HATED people checking in on me.  I didn't update anyone except that I was going into the hospital.  But everyone is different.  The fact that it's just the two of them makes me think they are like me though. 

Samantha Thomas

I had a c/s but my bff delivered w/o pain meds.  She updated me every 30 mins to an hour then her H updated me after she got really far along.  She is the kinda person that always has her phone with her though and texts all the time.  If your bff isn't like that then I'd just ask if you are being annoying and I'm sure she will tell you

veloelle

I did 18 hours of 23 w/out pain meds. I would not have wanted DH distracted every hour. We were walking in the halls, he was keeping me focused. Maybe every few hours. In addition to people calling/texting, there's hospital staff, etc. After the first few I probably would have turned his phone off.

stacynikki

It was just DH and me and I had an epi but I called all my friends and texted them throughout the day.  DH was on his phone texting the entire time even when he was sitting behind me while I was pushing.  I finally had to tell him to cool it with the phone. 

I know that all my friends were glued to the phone while they were delivering whether through text or actual calls.  I would try every hour ot two from when he responds back to you.  But everyone is different!

jayhawk25

I would probably wait a few hours instead of every hour.  When I was in active labor, I definitely need DH's help in staying focused and relieving pain.  It was pretty intense-we had our family who was at the hospital stay in the waiting room until delivery was over.

r9stedt

For my BFF? ? I wouldn't have cared. ?If we weren't really BFFs, then I would have told my husband to put down the damn phone.

?

I had to stay in bed the whole time, and couldn't get up and move around.

I texted my BFF back and forth all day, until it got really bad. ? Then MH or my sister did.

ivybug

I did both labor and deliveries drug free.  It would be really annoying if someone kept texting.  I would actually be super pissed.  You need to focus on what you are doing and you want/need your DH to focus too.

isabella22

I was drug free for 10 of the 15 hours and was e-mailing my friends on my blackberry through the pain at the beginning.

I would text her husband and say you are really excited and please send updates when he can!  If he doesn't text you in 2-3 hours, send another one.  When the pain of backlabor got really bad, I would have killed DH if he checked his phone, so he probably just won't look at your text if he is really busy helping her.