Anyone with kids that have more then a 3year age difference?

stacynikki

I'm thinking we may have to put off TTC until summer.  That would make DS 3.5 yo.  I hate that they'll be that far apart but I'd like to hear what others have experienced with this age difference.

katie277s

We are in the same boat.  But DS will be around 4.5 years if we wait to TTC until next summer/fall.  But you will make it work (at least that is what I am telling myself)

mrsterry

Nothing wrong with that at all.  It really not that far apart either.  DS#1 and DS#2 are 8 years apart, and they are very close and play together all of the time (they fight all of the time too).  It sounds fine to me.

MrsJLK

We want DD to be around 3 before we even start ttc again if that makes you feel any better .

DaiLyght

If I had to do it all over again, I would have spaced mine out to about that age. To be honest, we expected it it to take a lot longer to get PG so we didn't plan for them to be this close.

There's nothing wrong with that age gap. I think the nest gets us worked up sometimes. Like the longer you're on here, the stronger your baby fever gets. I think people get caught up in wanting their kids really close in age. In the non-nest world, it's perfectly fine. 

veloelle

DD is almost 2.5 yrs old and I have zero plans to TTC until at least the spring, if that. I love the idea of them being further apart. My sister and I are almost 5 years apart and get along good--for the most part. ; ) Typical sisters.

Cree629

My girls are 3.5 years apart, and so far it has been great!  DD#1 is so independent and a really big help.  She is SO proud and in love with her baby sister.  I also like that while she is at preschool 2 mornings a week, I get a little one-on-one time with DD#2.

stcroixbride

DaiLyght:

If I had to do it all over again, I would have spaced mine out to about that age. To be honest, we expected it it to take a lot longer to get PG so we didn't plan for them to be this close.

There's nothing wrong with that age gap. I think the nest gets us worked up sometimes. Like the longer you're on here, the stronger your baby fever gets. I think people get caught up in wanting their kids really close in age. In the non-nest world, it's perfectly fine. 

100% agreed

we're looking at AT LEAST a 4 year age gap, if not more.  So many reasons for it...

everyone out in the world seems to think that 2-3 years if the only way to go and are SHOCKED that we haven't had another yet.   Are they going to come watch my DD for me while DH is at work and school and I am puking my guts up and hardly able to leave my bed?  Oh, and are they going to give me money so we can pay our bills and feed our current child?  Didn't think so ;P

Actually, I'd love for DD to be in school already when I am pregnant with #2, just so I can puke in peace and then DH can take care of her after school since he will be done with school at that point.

MichelleWP

My oldest 2 are 7 yrs apart and it's worked well. Zak is great with his younger siblings and they adore him. It's becoming a bit more difficult with school functions as he gets older, but it works out.

mathteacher

My girls are almost exactly 4 years apart in age (5 days seperate their birthdays), I wouldn't have it any other way.  My daughters absolutely love each other and spend as much time together as possible.  My oldest daughter often says that her baby sister is her favorite person in the world!  Our schedule is perfect.  My oldest daughter is so independent, she eats, sleeps, goes to the bathroom, gets ready in the morning everything by herself.  She even loves to help with the baby.  When my youngest is napping I play, read, give attention to my older daughter.  We have our special time together.  My youngest still takes two naps a day so I get a lot of alone time with my oldest.  When the baby is awake we are both playing with her.  The baby tries her best to keep up with her sister.  Her face just lights up when her sister is around.  My oldest daughter goes to preschool three afternoons a week, this is my special alone time with the baby.  We play, read or even just snuggle and nap together.  I don't think it is possible for my girls to have a closer relationship than they do, no matter what age difference.  I love that I have time to spend with both girls individually and they have a lot of time to spend with each other. 

 Remember the best age seperation is whatever works for your family.  Good luck.

Kelly Madonna

I'm another Nestie thats planning more than 3yrs between kids. We're planning on TTC next Sep.

Angela814

I was originally planning 18-24 months apart.  As you can see, that didn't work out for us.  I think we'll end up with close to a 3 1/2 - 4 year age gap depending on how things work out with me getting a new job.  It is what it is.  I can't change the past, so this age gap is going to have to be great for us.