What's the best/worst time to decide on future kids?

VivaAmore

Even though I'm having another easy pg, I am already feeling like I don't want to do this again. Is this a bad time to decide?

DH has always said he wanted 3 but when I shared my recent feelings with him he seemed totally fine so there's no issue there.

juniper19

Well it seems like there's no point in deciding while you are pregnant, since you can't really do anything about it right now.  Even if you decide not to have another, you can always change your mind.

mrsterry

I think during or right after a pregnancy is a bad time.  It might even be a bad time when you're nearing the birthday of an existing child (or your own for that matter).  Anything that can cloud your judgement makes it a bad time.  lol

sweetie1528

you guys are such a cute couple and you make such cute kids that you should have 10!

xbrooklyngrl

I don't think you can make a decision on #3 while PG, Giving birth or in new born stage. You have to give it two'ish years.

katie277s

Well you won't really know if you want more kids until after your next child is born.  We have always said we would like 3, but I am not 100% positive that will happen. 

VivaAmore

10!?!?!? Good god! I don't think I could handle more than 3 no matter how cute they are LOL! But thanks for the compliment.

I guess you guys are right, but I hope you guys will remind me of these feelings if I start talking about #3 a few years from now. LOL

joseysbride

I don't think while pg, right after, or maybe even in the first two years you can make the decision.  (Of course, some can, I'm just saying...)  Anyway, I never understand why people think they have to have all their kids right in a row.  Why not wait 6 or 7 years and have another one or two if you want more and you have the financial means to do so?  I know we won't be having another in two or three years after #2, but I am definitely not going to rule out a #3 and/or #4 several years down the road.  I guess I'm still young enough now that it could be a possibility for us in the future.

VivaAmore

That's true Joseys although I already feel like I don't have the energy for a newborn right now, so I imagine I'd feel even less up for it 7-10 years from now! (at 40!!! EEEK!!!).

ashleyvc1

VivaAmore:

10!?!?!? Good god! I don't think I could handle more than 3 no matter how cute they are LOL! But thanks for the compliment.

I guess you guys are right, but I hope you guys will remind me of these feelings if I start talking about #3 a few years from now. LOL

 

We can be buddies then, I am all set with this whole process.  However I said that last time too and 1 day after having DD I wanted another.

REOM

We are pretty sure that we will have a third, but decided not to make any decisions until after DD#2 is one.  I think being pg/having a newborn is not a good time to make any decisions like that.  God knows I am not rational right now