Tomorrow we have our ultrasound to determine the sex of the baby. I had planned on it being just me and DH like the other visits, but then my mom asked if she could come. I talked to DH about it, and at first he seemed a little hurt that I wanted her and not all of the grandparents, but now he says it would be ok with him. Did you take your mom or anyone else to this type of appointment? Thanks for the help!
Re: Anyone besides DH at ultrasound?
I considered taking my mom but the kids didn't like that idea.
I wouldn't, but then I'm not real close to my dad and my mom isn't in the picture. DH is only close wth his dad and he's just not like that.
The only reason I would say maybe to avoid it is to not hurt his parents feelings. It seems like a bit much to have everyone there for the U/S. Can you plan to meet them all for coffee/lunch/dinner afterwards and do a little "reveal"? Like just walk in with a pink or blue bow on your belly or something silly like that? Or have mini boy/girl gifts for them to open?
I do feel it's awkward for your mom to put you in that situation by asking. But that's just me.
I only wanted Jay at the ones we've had recently but after this next appointment (in 3 weeks) to check on Baby B's kidney, I plan on asking my mom and grandma if they'd like to come since it's a "new-fangled technology" and something I bet they'd enjoy.
For the big ultrasound, I'd take caution to make sure that everything is fine (and I'm sure it is, but then again, we were surprised by the kidney issue) and just take your husband. Afterwards, I'd bring your mom. If that makes sense. It just seems w/ this one, it'll be longer and more in-depth, so I'm sure nothing is wrong, but this is the time they'll probably find something if you know what I mean.
my parents came and it was so neat dh's mom did my first u/s at 8 weeks (she is a CNM) so i felt like it was important to offer the opportunity for my parents to be a part of one as well and those were the only 2 we had. we all cried and it was awesome to share it with them.
we had the u/s tech write on a card the sex of the baby and went to a picnic that afternoon and opened it just the 2 of us, so that special moment was saved for just us 2.
With DD, we had both of my parents and SIL. She was the first baby in the family and it was a way to get everyone involved. I did let everyone know it was a serious u/s, not just a gender check.
Dr. S is different, like Kim said, and they take a few measurements but it's mostly about gender. The 24w scan is much longer and involved. He was not my OB with DD, so that u/s was in a big room with an u/s tech and it seemed much more accommodating to a larger group. This time, we didn't have anyone else. Since he does the u/s in the exam room, I would have felt weird about having too many "extras" in the room.
I can tell you that my parents were really excited to be there and I think it meant a lot to them to be involved.
My Mom and Dad came with DH and I to one of the u/s appointments. I know this will NOT be your situation, but I was so glad I had my Mom there because she ended up passing away a month before I gave birth -- that was the only time she got to "see" my baby.
I say definitely invite your Mom.
Love that idea...so dang sweet!
Ditto. Plus my mom tends to stress me out, so I wouldn't have wanted that tension during the u/s.
Then again I'm also a me-and-DH-only kinda person when it comes to the baby being born. I think it's up to you and your DH and what you guys are comfortable with.