Why do I feel like its so much harder making the decision on when to have #3 versus when we were trying for #2? I am SO glad we got pg with DD right away, otherwise I would've been terrified and get wishy washy about it. A big part of me wants to stop BC as planned at the end of next month and see what happens....but when we did that last time I got pg RIGHT away. I am ok with them being 2 years apart, but would it be easier to have another 3-6 months under our belts? who knows. And it could take longer this time...so who knows. I know I am over thinking this

My BIGGEST concern is that DH is gone a lot. We know we want #3, but I am trying to figure out when it would make life a little easier for me while he is gone...while not waiting too long. 

Thanks for any input...and letting me vent  

I'm thankful that breastfeeding has been going a lot better this time than it did with DD. (She had latch issues and I got frustrated and EP'ed for about two months before switching to formula). I'm a lot more determined to EBF this time, so I've really been working at it and he's been latching/BF'ing pretty well. It's definitely not easy yet, but I'm confident it will get easier.

Just wanted to stop by and share!

I have always liked Ethan, even before I met DH. Ethan is DH's best friend's (more like a brother) name.

I really like Colton (nn Cole). I think it's different without being weird.

The middle name will be Thomas.

Anyway, are there any working moms that have done anything close to 3u3? How do you handle the whole car situation? And I guess just tell me about it? Is your life absolute chaos? I know I dont have 2u2 yet.. I am just thinking ahead. If this situation occured and I was working then I definitely would be paying someone to clean our house. We also have a lot of family that would love to watch any of the kids anytime, but of course I don't rely on it.

 I would love to have 3 so close in age. So I'd love some/any advice. Thanks

I've been looking into bum genius one-size diapers so that both boys can use the same diapers and then I'll (hopefully) have to buy fewer. Have you used them?

ETA: There is a lot for sale on craigslist for 18 Bum Genius 3.0 AIO, 18 Microfiber Diaper Doubler, and 18 Adjustable Microfiber Diaper Inserts. Is this a good deal?

I am due Apr 4 but with my diabetes, it'll be a March baby.

DD and DS are 14 months and 1 day apart.

DS and #3 will be about 14.5-15 months apart.

w00t!!!!

So #2 is due November 9.   I want to get a double stroller but was thinking of waiting for a few months after baby is born.  

I love to go for walks around town with #1 but was thinking of using a baby carrier for those beginning  weeks and then it will be winter.  I don't see myself talking them both out too much those first few months.  

Those of you with 2 already, what was your experience?  Was it a necessity in the beginning?  

Thanks  

FYI -   #1 will be 15 months when the baby is born  

So, DS2 will be Ethan Thomas K. DH is thrilled and I'm happy that we'll finally be able to give DD and DS1 something specific to call the new baby. Although, with DS1 we're working more on just saying "baby" at this point.

Thank you all for your help! Here's a picture of our new little man!

DH and I spent Monday night in the ER with DS after he spiked a 104.3 fever, even after tylenol. Wednesday he was super clingy, wouldn't let anyone but me hold him and he wanted me standing up/walking the entire time. His fever finally went away Thursday morning.

This morning DD woke up at 5:30am, after vomitting in her bed, with a 102 fever.

I need a day off! I love my kids, but I just want to sleep and maybe lay in bed all day without interuption.

I think I've finally won DH over to the dark side! We are going to go look at/test drive some used vans on Friday.

Sell me on yours or tell me why you don't like it.

We are most likely to buy either a gently used Town and Country or Grand Caravan for cost purposes, but are open to suggestions! 

 I also need one that will go decent in snow. We usually only get a foot (at most) a few times per year.

Go! 

(TIA!)

Did you plan for 2u2?  My husband and I really want to have one more baby.  He seems ready but he works long hours at 2 jobs and isn't home a whole lot.  I am a little concerned about:

1. Being pregnant with a young toddler and 2. Having a breastfeeding newborn with a young toddler as well.

Can you offer any words of wisdom or encouragement?  I just stopped BC and we are using protection for a couple of months to get the BC out of my system before we actively start trying.

Thanks so much!

I posted a couple of weeks ago about our son's birth mom contacting us and telling us she is pregnant again.  She wants us to adopt this baby, and is due in October.  Our son will be 17 months when the baby is born.

We still haven't made up our minds.  Our first concern is the cost of childcare, but it looks like we might be able to swing a part time nanny instead of a full time center like we use now.  However, I'm really worried about the stress of having 2u2 since both of us work.  We also aren't going to be able to afford to hire help as far as someone to clean or help around the house - at least not for a while.   

Would we be insane to take this on with both of us working full time?  I just want to do what is best for our family, and I don't want to create such a stressful situation that everyone is unhappy. 

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There really are no two room (two bases) monitors out there but the video monitors can do this. One thing I read is that when it goes to sleep at night (the monitor that we'd have in our room) so the screen isn't on all the time, it only does the audio from the last room it was on (can't remember which one I read this about).  I don't want to leave a video up on the parental unit all night so I can hear them both as I'm told that's also really bright.

I want to be able to hear into both rooms at all times, even rotating between rooms every 30-90 sec. is fine, but not just one.

My brother has twins and just had to buy two different sets of monitors as two of the same will interfere. if we have to do this, that's fine. But as we are getting ready to buy a new one, might as well buy one that does both rooms if I can find it.

Do any of you have any of the video and audio monitors with cameras in two rooms that you are happy with?

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If we have to we'll get another crib but I don't want to buy a second just to buy a toddler bed a few months later.

 They live local to us, and know our children better than most friends we have do. We asked them what they were doing this morning, and if they'd mind sitting with both LO's for a few hours at best because DH had a court matter to take up today, and it was kind of important that I went along. As soon as we asked, the two of them exchanged glances as if rummaging through their minds to find every last excuse as to why they couldn't do it. Then they look back at as, both rambling off excuses at the same time "Oh uh, he might have to work tomorrow - he's gotta call his boss in the AM." "Oh, Abby has an eye appointment tomorrow.. at some point." (Abby's their daughter.) and so on and so on and so on. It's like, if you don't want to babysit, just say so. I don't think all the excuses are necessary.

So therefore, I didn't go with DH, DS won't take a bottle for anyone, so perhaps it was best I didn't go anyway. But still, it's the fact that two really good friends of ours couldn't be bothered to sit with the two of them for a little while.  

Lo #2 will be arriving in Nov and i will prob be home alot during the winter months so i guess i'm looking for rec of good carrirs for when LO#1 will be 2 and new baby around 4 months.

I really like the moby from previous posts but not sure if something else will be better. please help!!

We are happy to be adding to the family, but as a stay at home mom, I am worried about my sanity and having 3 kids 3 and under.  Any advice is welcome!!

I'm starting to put her into her crib or the pack n play while I'm cleaning or cooking or doing something else, just to get her used to playing on her own, etc. Of course, so far she's crying the whole time, despite toys, music, my constantly telling her it's okay and giving her reassuring hugs.

I'm sure it will all work out, but wondering if anyone here has any tips that have worked or are working to get #1 to be patient or alone, or just more content if they are not the center of attention?

thank you!!

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But I'm not having a shower for this baby and she's a girl, so I have to get new clothes (DH says we should just have her wear all DS's clothes, but I'd rather not explain to people she's a girl all the time). I've picked out some of the gender neutral stuff of DS's and it's mostly newborn and 0-3 month sleepers and onsies.

So my question is, would you try to buy a few things in each size now or just wait until you need something? I just feel like a newb because I can't even think of how many of what size she'll need and what kinds of clothes .

 For me the best thing is when I can get them both to laugh together. And when Lo #1 just hugs or kisses LO#2 out of the blue.

What is the hardest and best thing for you?

If you do, what do you use and/or recommend? I've seen a couple longer fences on amazon that we're thinking about ordering.