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Potty Training HELP!!!

knottie5c6c70cd73f4fde8 — Thu, 15 May 2025 17:05:47 +0000

On May 1st, my daughter wanted to a fashion show in her underwear and afterwards she ASKED to go on the potty (yay)! Now, she’s always had number 2 issues, very bad. She holds it, crosses her legs and hides. She likes to wear her underwear, just putting that out there. When we started the potty training, she wasn’t terrible at it. She had a few accidents here and there but nothing major. For the past couple of weeks though, she does not want to go on the potty. My mom and I think the reason why is because she doesn’t want to go number 2. She still hides when she goes. I need some advice, I really don’t want to put her back in diapers.

What was something that helped you when potty training your toddler?

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Potty Training a Non-Verbal Autistic Toddler?

kyrenora — Sun, 15 Apr 2018 01:55:16 +0000

My daughter is getting close to 3 years old and I’m having trouble communicating the use of the potty. She’ll sit and wipe, but she won’t “go.”

Potty Training special needs kids

knottie4b21de29edf789ed — Tue, 29 Jul 2025 03:20:39 +0000

I apologize this is long post but the drtails ae important to the question. Any tips from mom's or dads of kids with special needs for potty training? My kid has PTSD, Anxiety and a speech disorder. He has symptoms similar to autisim but ptsd, anxiety, also have very important differences and things you can and cant do with them you could with autisim and visa versa. I relate to autisim as more parents have knowledge about this in kids and there is some overlap, where the other conditions aforementioned people don't know much about unless they have it or their loved one has it. He was potty training well and now refuses after a bad traumatic incident involving using the potty and using underwear at home like he did before. Having trauma caused when tbey have ptsd is a major setback in any situation. I will never have the total details of what occured since he cant verbally tell me all.of it. He has told me when discussing the potty and when he came home that, bad happen, scared now, they mean to me, or saying yes or no when asked if someone scared him or was mean to him. Which that much he has told me. As to exact details to counteract it better have no idea and never will as it occured outside the home in the other pare t and families care. They will never say (they have been asked and ci fronted about the incident and issur) He returned terrified which he had no fear or reluctance prior. How do I get him to use the potty and make him feel safe other then making sure its me and telling him he is safe and no one is gonna hurt him. With that he will often calm down and sit on the potty but he resists at first and tou cant safley force it. He most times will then leave the room and pee in his pullups after being on the toilet. He does it on purpose and then asks for a change of clothes saying i pottied. He knows when he has to go and can hold it, say when he has gone. He knows provacy is important and asks for it but will go elsewhere then the bathroom. He sees us go to provide a real life example and tbat diesnt bither him and he unferstands the proccess. It isnt a lack of understanding. For example he will not.go in a swimsuit is in a seimsuit or in water. He will gwt out and insist on a pull up and then go potty. So he understands thats not the hurdle like most kids. He flat out refuses and refuses to go without a pull up he has bad panick attacks sometimes if you wont use one. The typical tips and medical advice to motivate them with a toy or activity for efforts or success doesn't work with him if he doesn't want to do something no bribe or special offer or explanation is gonna convince him otherwise. Due to trama if you force it or anything it has negative impacts on his mental and e.otjonal health and wrllneing. Flashcards visual aids dont motivate him. His PTSD has similar symptoms to autisim without any sensory issues if that is belpful in understanding . He isn't scared of the noise or feel or anything sensory wise for anything including bathroom and toilet use. Long stoey simmed up how do i moti ate him to go back to suing the potty. I felt the details important for people to see what the situation ism. Any ideas aside from the typical visual aids and reward them with stickers or a desired item or activity is appreciated. .

Bedwetting after being 7 months trained?

estresha — Mon, 12 May 2025 02:17:44 +0000

Hi moms. Anyone experienced having a well potty trained child and after being sick, all of a sudden there’s consistent bedwetting 5 months later? Please help.

Potty training

enarson — Mon, 15 Jul 2024 17:34:29 +0000

Hello my name is Viri and I have a daughter that is 21 months old , today she start taking off her diaper with poop putting in the trash, but the rest of the poop was in the floor because falls after she removed her diaper. Anyways I’m here to ask for your opinion about this is the time to start potty training how to do it.

I’m going to start reading a lot of information about this topic too.

I hope all your experience with this topic helps me to understand how to do it better.

When I could pull down my pants

fernt — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 16:00:15 +0000

At 29-months-old, while I couldn't pull down my midway boxer briefs undies that were still on my body.

Cloth training underpants

fernt — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:58:28 +0000

By 7-months-old, I wore cloth training underpants, due to I wore plastic underpants above.

Cloth diapers

fernt — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:56:45 +0000

I wore cloth diapers by 3-weeks-old.

3.5 YO Not Potty Trained

mom2fallbabies — Tue, 19 Apr 2016 16:09:29 +0000

I have a 3.5 year old daughter who refuses to potty train. Long story short: she hates the little potty and refuses to sit on it; she is scared of the big toilet but will sit on it if I'm there (only me, not my husband, and since I work FT outside the home and he's a SAHD that presents a problem); we've tried treats, stickers, rewards, and everything else - none of it works; we've tried making it "her" idea, getting her excited about it, buying her special underwear, promising presents, "showing" her how we both do it, and leaving her naked all day - she's indifferent to it all; she tells us after she has gone (this is new) but not before; if she's naked she just goes on the couch; she HAS gone on the potty, but only if we leave her there for hours at a time; if we try to make her go on a schedule she just holds it (pee and poop) until her pull-up/diaper is back on. I'm at my wits end. With another LO due in November, I'm despairing at having 3 in diapers. And then there's the joy of hearing how everyone else at work got their kid potty trained at 18 month and the looks that tell me that clearly I am a failure at parenthood. Is there anyone out there who had a very late potty trainer? Do you have any encouragement for me? I'll take any advice, but I'd really just love to hear that I'm not alone (even though I feel bad that anyone else is in the same boat...).

Potty Training

eboniyoungblood — Wed, 24 Aug 2022 19:53:40 +0000

Hi guys!
My daughter just turned 3 and I was wanting to get the ball rolling on potty training. She will sit on the toilet just fine, but won't actually go on it. She knows how to wipe herself. I am open to all suggestions as I want to make it easier for both me and her... I also work majority of the day and would only have time to work with her either on my off days or when I get off some days at 5pm...thank you!

4 year old/almost 5 and not potty trained!

knottie235cbb4a3846f8b3 — Thu, 14 Jul 2022 21:21:52 +0000

I have been having so much trouble with my son and potty training him. I made a prize bucket, bride him with buying him things, bought him a bunch of different varieties of potties or potty seats. The last few days I have hid the pullups and just keep putting underwear on him. He stays dry for a while but then when he pees he doesn't tell me. He has only shown interest a few times and has actually peed in the potty. I'm at such a loss!

3 1/ 2 year old not fully potty trained and having issues

PsyDr04 — Wed, 28 Mar 2018 13:57:14 +0000

Hi Ladies,

It's been awhile since I've been on the bump, but wanted to come back to this community in hopes of getting some advice or feedback. My first son potty trained at 3 years and 4 months. I was convinced he would go to college in diapers but one day he just got it and we were lucky that he basically night trained at the same time. I figured my second son would be easier - I assumed he would watch and learn from his brother. WRONG! He is a little over 3 1/2 right now and still not fully potty trained. We are at the point where he has JUST started pooping in the potty (since last week) and he goes pee in the potty sort of randomly. My biggest concern, however, is that he pees VERY frequently, like every 15 minutes or so, at least some of the time. Last night I put him in underwear and we were on the 4th pair within an hour and a half because he would wet them. It's not like he's necessarily soaking them, but it's enough that they need to be changed. On at least one of those occasions, he didn't even realize he was wet. I'm wondering if anyone else has dealt with this or if it's something that should perhaps warrant a trip to the pediatrician? We need him to be fully trained by mid-August so he can start Pre-K at his brother's school but I'm worried.

Potty trained 3 1/2 year old stopped pooping in potty

csicuso311 — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 22:24:55 +0000

I successfully potty trained my 3 1/2 year old daughter at the end of June and she had been doing amazing with it. A few weeks ago she went through a bout of constipation and after a couple days, finally pooped after we put her to bed (she wears diapers/pull ups to bed as she isn’t night trained yet) Ever since, she has not pooped on the potty. She is at the point that she will hold it until bedtime when we put her in her diaper. Either she will cry for us to come change her after or she will fall asleep and husband or I will go in and change her before we go to bed. This is every single night for the past few weeks.

She is speech delayed and cannot communicate her feelings very well so we don’t know what has changed that all of the sudden she will not go on the potty. She still tells me when she has to go pee or goes straight to the potty herself with no issues. I’m at a loss here! Any advice is appreciated!

3 year old daughter potty training

knottie4e62c6606f108603 — Mon, 11 Jun 2018 02:01:50 +0000

my daughter just turned 3 last month and I have been trying to potty train her now for almost a month. She will go to her potty and have no accidents at all ONLY if she is naked from the be waist down! It’s horrible. She refuses to wear panties, if she wears them she will pee in them and number 2 in them. She won’t wven alert like there is an issue she will continue on as if it’s fine! She also uses a pull up as if it’s just a regular diaper she makes no attempt to pull them down an potty. But she can go perfectly every time on her own if she’s undressed like I said. Idk what to do, I’ve tried all her favorite character panties and explained relentlessly to not pee or poo in them but she doesn’t seem to care much. I’m desperate

How to get my 3 year old potty trained?

sel_151620 — Thu, 20 Feb 2020 21:20:40 +0000

I'm due in May with my 2nd little boy, I also have a 4 year old little girl and a 3 year old little boy. My 3 year old isn't potty trained, I've tried everything to get to use the potty. His dad and I have a joint custody, so it's hard because his father and I aren't on the same parenting page. What can I do to get him at least somewhat potty trained before this baby is born?

holds it until she is in pain!

ccoslp — Wed, 19 Feb 2020 19:24:37 +0000

This is my first post here so hello! Let me start by saying I have 6 yr old twins so this isn't my first rodeo but my 2 year old daughter is proving to be much more difficult to potty train (she turned 2 in October). She shows signs of being ready because she tells us when she pees, poops, and will sit down on the potty etc. She can hold it FOREVER which is really the problem. She will sit on the potty when I ask her to but she wont (or doesn't understand how to) release the pee or poop. It gets to the point that she holds it all day (until nap when I put a pullup on her then she will pee in it) then again will hold it all evening until she is literally dribbling down her leg and screaming in pain from trying to hold it in. We have tried having her naked all day, sitting her on the potty every 20 minutes, a timer, etc. and nothing seems to help because she just keeps holding until she is miserable. What should I do? Take a break from trying or is there some method I am missing?

Night time potty training help

horsegirl0189 — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 22:18:15 +0000

hello! I have a 4 year old little girl(turning 5 in July). She has been potty trained for around 2 years now but we still are having issues with night time. I have tried cutting off all drinks atleast 2 hours before bedtime and have even woke her up before I go to bed for a potty break. Her bed time is 9 and I usually go to bed around 11 or 12. Is there anything else I can do? We want to stop using pull-ups every night. Any help you can give would be great! Thank you!

Night time potty training help!

horsegirl0189 — Tue, 11 Feb 2020 21:22:11 +0000

Can't get him to #2 on potty

mrsbenjamindaniel — Tue, 02 Aug 2016 14:08:00 +0000

so my son is going to be 2.5 in September and I only diaper him now when a.) he is napping or sleeping for the night or b.) we are in town doing something. I'm not in a huge rush and am pretty relaxed about the whole potty training process and think he is doing great considering his age--he pees on the potty all the time, stays dry in undies if we go every 30+ min. BUT I cannot for the life of me get him to go #2 on it lol. We give him stickers (which he loves) whenever he goes and sometimes a little gummy the rare times he does happen to poo, which when he does we make a HUGE deal out of it and celebrate like crazy. We've tried to have him sit there a while, sing songs or read books but the boy will not poo. He will literally wait to poo til he is in a diaper or pull up for nap or nighttime (for whatever reason he never goes out on the town lol no idea why). And he does not like the way it feels either and he poops pry about two times a day, at predictable times. Any suggestions of what to do? My husband thinks we shouldn't do diapers at nap and then this will force him to go on the potty but if it fails, what a fun mess that will be to clean up lol (especially since he sleeps with a ton of stuffed animals and id hate for them to get icky haha)

i sort of think he may be a tad confused and thinks right now pee is for potty only and poo for diapers. How do I help him understand both go in the potty?

if all else fails, like I said I'm super relaxed and not in a hurry and have an attitude of it'll happen when it happens:)

How to Teach a Kid to Potty Train

rebecca_raymond — Sat, 19 Aug 2017 07:39:33 +0000

it is a magical moment the first time the notion crosses your mind that your toddler may be ready to be potty trained. before you get too far on this fantasy, you’ll need to test with reality and determine if your baby is absolutely prepared to start lavatory training.

Why is this critical? now not checking for potty training readiness signs and symptoms before starting toilet training is probably the largest mistake dad and mom make concerning potty training. If the child physically and emotionally readyto train, you will be setting up both you and your baby for frustration and disappointment. And possibly delaying completion of trainingfor weeks, months, even years.

teaching a child anything new it desires strength and endurance. You ought to be organized for infinite visits to the toilet, greater laundry and not to mention immoderate cleaning of puddle everywhere. on this annoying time, you're expectedto live calm and carol cline potty training reviews smile no matter how irritated you feel. You ought to additionally recallthe position of your spouse in potty training. if you and your spouse are busy with new jobs, dealing with some disturbingstate of affairs or adjusting to parenthood, it will be alright to postpone potty schooling for some time. if you are notgeared up to make your baby learn potty training, it’s good enough to just accept it and deliver a hazard to modify and learn what you can do to make the process easy. recollect, it’s teamwork, and also you need the assist of your spouse in that.

let’s look at some common potty training readiness signs and symptoms you may look for in your baby.

Naptime dryness. Does your toddler ever wake up from a sleep dry? in that case, this is an extremely good readiness signal. To be equipped for toilet schooling, your little one will want to preserve her urine for at least two hours; longer is even better.

by way of the way, maximum of the time, urine training comes before bowel movement mastery. There are exceptions, of direction, but frequently that’s the way it really works for kids. strive taking your baby to the potty right after those dry naps. If you can catch his potty inside the potty chair, you’ll help him get the idea.

Asking to be modified. Does your toddler ask to have her diaper modified whilst moist or dirty? Does she appearuncomfortable in wet diapers? Do you ever discover her doing away with her used diaper?

All of these are readiness signs. take note of how frequently they occur and the way frequently. (See my author’s aid boxfor a potty readiness log you could use.) See if you can pick out your toddler’s bodily and facial cues earlier than wetting or soiling. This information will help you get her potty at the correct times.

Being cooperative. Does your toddler truly need to please you? Your child will want to be in a mostly cooperative mood to potty train well. that is a difficult readiness signal. in spite of everything, toddlers are not known to be supportive people! if your toddler is truly belligerent or stubborn, you’ll need to enhance upon that earlier than potty training.

also, test the extent of strain in your house. If it’s too chaotic or undergoing tremendous change, it is best to put off toilettraining until things calm down.

massive boys and big girls. Is your toddler excited to be growing up? Is that a favorite topic of conversation? He’ll want to be eager to “be a big boy” to be ready to potty train. this is an area you may work to your advantage. if you’ve got an independent soul who wants to do everything “by myself,” you may permit him repeatedly understand which you’ve were given an appropriate challenge for him to do – all through himself.

It’s known as potty training.

In summary, this isn't an exhaustive list of potty schooling readiness cues, however it'll get you began. take note of your child about this listing for a couple of weeks. If numerous of those signs are normal and regular, you in all likelihood have a toddler prepared to be taught. The greater readiness cues your infant presentations, the better.

Be excited whilst speakme on your infant about those signs so she can seize your enthusiasm approximately the manner. Do your research, gather your supplies and clear your schedule for your first toilet training event.

click here to visit official “start Potty training” website

The 3 Day Potty Training Method That Works!

l-romulus_123 — Sun, 16 Jul 2017 08:44:10 +0000

Free video that helps moms and dads who are having difficulty potty training their toddler.
https://shapeyourchild.com/index.php/phonics-and-products/potty-training-in-3-days/

Day4-Resistence-OCPT

ItsGreen — Mon, 03 Apr 2017 00:16:00 +0000

Read Oh Crap Potty Training and days 1-3 went well. Day 4 she totally resisted. Not afraid but refused almost all prompting. She was so excited yesterday and the first two days she was just going without telling us! I'm really confused and I know resistance is expected but I'm wondering if I start over? And if so how?

3 day potty train method - toddler terrified of toilet

rspurlock813 — Fri, 03 Mar 2017 15:08:51 +0000

I am on day 3 of the 3 day potty training method. Day 1 and 2 were LONG days. And ALL accidents. 9 accidents the first day, 6 accidents the second day. She has not pooped at all during this time. She knows peepee and poopoo go in the potty now, she knows it's not supposed to happen in her underwear, she TELLS me she has to go either pee or poop and yet I sit her on the potty and she get off immediately because she doesn't like it. On day 1 she had a successful pee on the potty and seeing and feeling her pee come out is (i think) what has made her terrified. She cried the whole time and even swatted at her pee because she didn't like it. I can see how that would be scary seeing that for the first time. On day 2 she was in mid-accident, so I sat her on the potty while she was peeing and was screaming crying and scooting herself off while peeing. Then we had to rinse her off in the shower because pee got everywhere...all why crying....probably added trauma. I am not giving up after we have gotten this far. And I will not tell myself "don't force it". I am not forcing it, I am just not giving up. She knows she has to pee, knows she has to poop, tells me, but is scared of the potty. These are great things. I just don't know what to do to help her not be scared to sit on the potty. We have watched videos, she has watched me pee, flushed the toilet for me. But when it comes to her, she is so scared to let any pee come out. I ALWAYS have to catch her mid accident, and run her to the potty. They say it will just "click" with the 3 day potty training method and they will get it, but I am wondering WHEN or if it will take longer than 3 days for her to not be terrified of the potty or for pee or poop to come out.

2 year old training advice

mnajib92 — Wed, 15 Feb 2017 02:31:58 +0000

I am having trouble potty training my 27 month old. I know he can tell when he has to poop because he often tells us that he does, and when he doesn't, we can tell and sit him on the potty. He hasn't pooped in his diaper for several weeks (maybe even a month now).

He recently had two events where he made a physical indication of having to pee, and did so, in the potty. One time he directed himself to the potty , lifted the seat, and began to pull down his underwear under no direction or suggestion from me. But a couple weeks after the last incident he never again indicated he has to pee in the potty. He says he does sometimes but I don't know when to take it seriously because nothing will come out when he asks to potty. I got tired of having him in underwear after 2 weeks because he was peeing more on the floor than in the potty. The last few days were only accidents and no successes except for when he needs to poop.

I don't really know what to do except wait and try again because it was stressing me out to clean the floor 6 times a day, and bath him as often.

I would take him to the potty every 40 minutes (he holds his pee well) then every 10 minutes if he didn't go after 40. Was that doing too much? He makes no indication at all of having to pee, not even while doing so.

What age did you potty train?

izziebee — Wed, 23 Jul 2014 13:24:50 +0000

*Cross posting in Toddlers*
My 20 month olds daycare sent home a letter asking us to let them know if we want them to start potty training.
We didn't potty train DS1 until he just turned 3 - we delayed it a bit b/c we were moving from NY to FL, plus, the baby was just born and that was about all I could handle with my husband traveling every week.

Anyways, at what age did you start potty training? Did you have success at 20 months? I'd LOVE to get him out of diapers and don't want to miss a good window of opportunity like I think we did with my DS1 (he still won't poop on the potty, only in a diaper at night).
Just looking for opinions on starting at this age.

Thanks!

Potty Training & Language Development

jdanczyk — Wed, 06 Apr 2016 19:15:43 +0000

I have a couple questions!
My DD is 18 months old (in a few days), my original goal was to start potty training at 18 months. However, she doesn't talk. She makes sounds and such but she doesn't use words. She understands many things, can point to animals/body parts etc. Can do simple tasks such as "Give to momma" or "close the door" etc. So I am worried, how do I potty train a kid that won't tell me she has to go?

I just found out I am pregnant again (yay!) and I've altered my goal to: only 1 kid in diapers at a time!

So I'd love to know if you have had any language barrier issues with potty training and how you overcame them.

Also, I just ordered the book: "Oh Crap! Potty Training" by Jamie Glowacki - has anyone read/used her methods before?

Also...a little bit odd, but how do you get an 18 month old to sit on the toilet (the big toilet with the seat on it)... I just can't see her doing that! (I do have a little potty for her though, but seems like many people skip that step)

and one more final question, I used disposable diapers with DD, with the new one, I am contemplating doing reusable diapers. Any input? How the heck do you clean the soiled ones?!

3yo won't keep undies knot pants on

asick-2 — Fri, 29 Jul 2016 16:01:34 +0000

anyone doing the 3 day potty training thing? Do you keep them butt naked or with undies?
My son refuses to wear any pants unless he has a diaper on. How do I teach him that it's ok to not wear a diaper?

Thanks!!

Night time training

EBathory997Wed74688 — Sun, 07 Feb 2016 01:00:27 +0000

My daughter is 4.5 and my husband thinks that she should be getting out of the pull ups at night. She does not wake up dry in the morning, even with limited liquids, nor does she wake up in the middle of the night to go. He wants to go cold turkey, thinking she will wake up when she goes. Last night she slept straight through and soaked everything. I want a more gradual approach. Has anyone used the alarm to help their child realize they are going and they need to wake up?

Potty training while still in the crib

linzandjer11 — Fri, 19 Feb 2016 06:00:00 +0000

hey all you mommies who potty trained before 2!

i think my 23 month old is ready. I want to try just going half naked all day and then cold turkey at night for a week and see how it goes. I don't have high expectations, but he's seemed ready for a few months now and I want to see if he can do it!

My only question is at night if he's still in the crib... Do you get them up in the middle of the night to go? Do you rush in in the morning to sit them on the pot? (He wakes up dry every now and then, but is usually freshly wet and poopy.)

Almost 4 YO, pooping issue

TechieGirl1 — Tue, 05 Jul 2016 02:11:54 +0000

Hey there everyone!

I have 2 boys 1 is almost 4, and the other is almost 1. The almost 4 YO has been having issues with pooping in the potty. He is usually good while we are out, traveling, etc. However if we are home he has issues. He was good for a while and down to 1 accident every couple of days off and on for the past year.

A lot has happened in the past year. DS1 obviously has added a sibling (which he loves a lot!). However another issue is that my mom has been in and out of the hospital. She has many health issues, and is currently looking into a heart and lung transplant. So needless to say it's serious. DS1 is very empathetic (I am as well), and he knows something is wrong (which I have talked to him about), and therefore I have been not home for 4 to 5 hours chunks of time. Now my mom is getting testing to see if she can be a recipient for a heart and lungs (which the site for testing is an hour and a half each way). If she is approved, she will be at this location until she receives the organs. If not, this is her last option. :'(

So anyways, I'm pretty sure it's a regression based on this. Is there any way I can prevent him from having poop accidents 3-5 times in a day? Some days he will be clean all day, however the majority of the time he will have an accident 1-3 times a day, and I know he can do it (he has before). We have tried many things:

-Reward systems
-Removal of toys
-Removal of big boy rewards (video game time with me)
-Sitting him on the toilet for an extended amount of time after he has had an accident
-Reviewing what the proper choice is
-Prompting him
-Asking him what the difference is between a baby and a boy

Any other ideas?

Sorry this became a novel!

I need some help

iceandsnowflakes29 — Sun, 05 Jun 2016 15:03:24 +0000

Hi everyone,

I'm a regular on the TTCAL board but, I've never posted here.

I could really use some help because I feel like I've tried everything.

I started trying to potty train my son at 3 years old.

For awhile, he did GREAT. I thought we were like at least 80 % potty trained. And then he regressed. He will use the potty at preschool and come home and want a diaper. I regret the day I consented to him wearing a diaper after school. I've never wanted to push him so I let him wear one.

Now MONTHS later, I have a child that refuses to use the potty at home and wants nothing to do with underwear at home.

I've tried bribery, begging, 500 pairs of new underwear with his favorite characters on them and nothing works.

I have bought him 2 different pottys.

He is almost 4 and a half!

I feel like a complete failure and I don't know what else to try.

If anyone has any input I would greatly appreciate it.

I'm concerned and embarrassed about his age His preschool teacher and many friends have assured me it will happen but, I'm starting to worry he will go to Kindergarten in a pullup. We still have one more year of preschool to get it together.

Almost 3 y.o. boy won't poop in the potty - Go back to pull-ups?

clw617 — Fri, 11 Mar 2016 15:06:13 +0000

Sigh... Around Christmas time, we made the switch to big boy underwear and only used pull-ups at nap time and overnight. Now he stays dry all day and night when it comes to pee. He's got that down. So he wears underwear all day long. But my son will poop in his pants every day. At first I wanted to keep at it with the underwear. I was using my fair share of OxyClean soaks and it was fine. But here we are months later and it's still happening daily, usually while he's at daycare (which means they aren't as quick to get the underwear off of him and I come home every day with a bag of dirty underwear that's a lot harder to clean after sitting like that all day). I'm wondering if I should just keep him in pull-ups during the school day to save my laundry efforts. But I hate to go back to pull-ups all day just for his #2s when otherwise, he's doing great with the potty.

What is your opinion -- keep your kid in pull-ups until they're 100% potty trained (including #2s)? Or just keep on the with the underwear and one day we'll get there? BTW -- I'm doing all the usual tactics for trying to get him to poop in the potty... asking him, sitting him on the potty at his "usual" times, incentives, having him watch when we empty from the underwear to the potty, blah blah. He's not interested. My worry with the pull-ups is that it's like reinforcing that it's okay to go in his pants. Not sure how to proceed. Thanks!

Introducing Underwear with my Little Boy

cupcakes710 — Sat, 30 Apr 2016 15:49:18 +0000

Hi. I just started potty training my 2 year old boy about 4 days ago. I let him go completely bottom-less all day while we're at home. He has been doing SOOO well. Yesterday evening, I put him in underwear and he had his first accident all day. This morning, I started him in underwear. He had an accident and refused to put clean underwear on so I just let him stay bottomless. Now I think his confidence may be shaken because he's had 3 accidents today even when bottomless. (after zero accidents all day yesterday)

I don't know what to do about the underwear situation and we actually have to leave the house later today. I *don't* want to put him back in diapers and confuse him, but I think he thinks underwear are diapers. I even bought cute ones with his favorite characters - Thomas & Ninja Turtles.

I guess my questions are: When do I transition him to underwear (I think I tried too soon), and what do we do when we have to leave the house (I don't want to do diapers or pull ups), other than obviously bringing extra changes of clothes?

Thanks

Boys & Public Bathrooms

xxbrittanyxx182 — Tue, 01 Mar 2016 23:39:19 +0000

Our LO is 23 months and has been showing an interest in the potty for the last month or so. At home we use a stool and padded potty training seat on our toilet for him. I jumped on the opportunity to potty train him while he is expressing an interest in it. Over the past few weeks we have transitioned from diapers full time, to undies at home and pull ups while we are out and about as well as during nap/night time. He never has accidents at home anymore, he is great about going to the potty to pee pee and poo poo. The step we are struggling with is when we are not at home. As I mentioned, we usually put him in a pull up when we leave the house and frequently ask him if he has to use the potty when we are out. I have also started making the habit of immediately taking him to try the potty when we first arrive at each destination. I am finding that he is distracted in the public restrooms and does not go and relies on his pull up. I make sure he goes potty before we leave the house to try to avoid accidents.

Anyone have any successful tips on potty training while out and about in public bathrooms? Also, to parents of little boys, do you have them sit on public bathroom seats and just help hold them up (he would fall into the seat if I didn't) or do you have them stand on the seat and support under their arms? My LO is still too short to be able to stand on the floor and be able to reach the toilet bowl without a stool.

Thanks!!

First time poster- need advice

bpietronicco — Thu, 07 Apr 2016 00:34:27 +0000

hi!
my dd is 2 1/2 and was actually pretty easy to potty train. She has been trained since Christmas. The problem is she will ONLY use her little potty. She will not use the small potty at her preschool- she will not use the big potty at home and I even have a little travel potty for her that can be a stand alone potty or sit on top of the big potty. Anyone had this happen? any advice? TIA

First time poster...

20thirteen — Thu, 31 Mar 2016 13:54:08 +0000

Hi everyone!

I have an almost 3yo who I've been trying to potty train for what feels like an eternity but in reality is probably only 9mo. I'm a working single mom and feel like I'm just struggling with routines here. DD showed a lot of interest in the potty around the time she turned 2, she even started pulling her steps to the "big potty", climbing up to sit on the big potty and then would pee in her diaper, get off the potty and pull her steps over to the sink (where we would wash our hands). After a week or two of this, we started buying pull-ups and started trying to use the potty without wearing her diaper and, for a while, she seemed into it. But, as more time passes, it's just not happening. I've tried rewards, charts, and I've tried a couple potty apps, I have some books to read her about the potty, showed her some videos and sometimes she goes on the potty and sometimes she doesn't. She never tells me she has to go, the staff at the daycare center tell me she doesn't tell them either. I do put her in "big girl panties" as often as possible, but she'd rather pee in them rather than go to the potty. I think the cute little thing that made me think she was ready didn't mean she was ready, that I misread her behavior.

I live with one of my parents, but because she can't take care of herself (physically disabled, on lots of narcotics which affects her memory), it feels like I'm taking care of two toddlers instead of one. So, if I am making dinner, I have to turn everything off if the potty app tells me to take DD to the potty (grandma is unable to cook, and either doesn't want to help with training or doesn't know how to help, it's a toss up). I have a BF but he doesn't live with us and, due to our schedules, comes over only 2-3 times a week. He thinks I've been being too forceful (especially lately) about the whole thing which might be turning DD off, but I think if I am, it's because I'm totally frustrated and feel like a failure because I just can't get her to go. I'm trying so hard to ease up, I'm trying to make it comfortable for her, but it's just not happening. Also, I don't know if the daycare center is working with her the way I am even though I've asked them, too. I've been told they've been doing it but it's not on her sheet when I pick her up so I just don't know.

Any advice, help, anything... I could certainly use it so I can stop feeling like:

3 year old-staying dry but withholding urine for hours and poop for days!

bawags — Fri, 01 Apr 2016 18:43:04 +0000

I need some advice for my 3 year old daughter. She has been peeing on the toilet or potty chair for months now and I can't remember the last time I had to change a just pee diaper. She will not poop in the toilet w/kid seat or in the potty chair (we have both) and usually hides to do so. For awhile she was actually going and using the toilet on her own without us suggesting it or taking her there at wake up and before bath. Now she gives us a hard time any time we even suggest she use a toilet. She will just hold her urine for hours ( we're talking 6-8 hours during the day). We already ruled out a UTI. She also refuses to poop in the toilet and just hides and does it in her underwear or pull up. She did have food sensitivity related constipation issues, but is on miralax and has no hemorrhoids or fissures anymore. I am just not sure how to proceed. Would you just not even suggest using the toilet to her and remove all perceived pressure about it? Would you keep putting her on the toilet at regular intervals? Should I try to force more liquids into her so she has to pee more often? I feel so judged by others for having an untrained over 3 year old, but I don't want to give her anxiety or anything. Help!

Not Telling When He Has to Go

pupluv0410 — Sun, 05 Jul 2015 18:18:40 +0000

My son is 2 years 10 months old. A week ago we ditched the pull ups and put him in underwear. At first, he was afraid to poop on the potty...but we seemed to have gotten over that. Now our issue is that he does not tell us when he has to go to the bathroom. We take him about every hour or so, but he still has accidents. He has NEVER told us that he has to go, he knows he should tell us and he knows where his poop and pee should go. Anyone else have this issue? Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. TIA

21 month old Suggestions

nano1 — Sun, 16 Aug 2015 23:05:59 +0000

today is so hot that I decided our 21 month old son could go diaperless around the house. I brought his little toilet out (it's usually in the bathroom where he frequently sits on it and makes poop noises but has never actually gone poop or pee in it) he imediately went and sat on it and told me to sit in a nearby chair so I did. After about five minutes I started trying to entertain him so he'd stay sitting there and he finally ended up peeing. I gave him many applause and he ended up pooping and peeing in it several times over the next couple hours. He was very excited and proud. He's now napping (in a diaper) and I'm a little surprised at how well it went and kind of shocked and unsure of how to proceed! Has anyone had luck with potty training NOT with the three day method? We probably won't be at the house all day everyday for the next few days but I'm wondering if he has a few hours a day diaperless if that would work. Any other suggestions or comments appreciated!!