Parenting after 35 — The Bump

Donor Babies

ellabella79 — Sun, 16 Sep 2018 08:38:09 +0000

Ladies has anyone had donor egg or embryo babies? Can you tell me more about your experiences? What is it like being a mother to such a child? I am staring down this road and looking for answers. Thank you

How long did it take you to conceive after 35

SleepingBeauty79 — Thu, 20 Feb 2014 16:44:56 +0000

Hi, if you conceived naturally ( no clomid, ivf, etc) how many months did it take? Thank you.

Extended family attachment

ohbaby2020 — Sun, 14 Aug 2022 23:33:10 +0000

Hi, my husband and I are new and first time parents over 35yo. Our daughter is 2yo now and has been attached to my sister since 6mo old. She was born in the hike of Covid, year 2020, so it was really only my husband and I caring for her until about 4mo. All of a sudden after my sister began to come around to help us out, our baby formed this really overwhelming attachment to her. Its so bad to the point she doesn't even want my husband and I to touch her when my sister comes around and she acts like that with my mom, her nana as well. My mom is her caretaker since 16mo old but she will turn on her as well when my sister comes. When my sister leaves from visiting we catch pure hell! This is really getting to be an issue especially since we thought she would have grown out of it by now but its getting worst.

Debating on another

nerrrty — Tue, 29 Mar 2022 00:21:08 +0000

Hey. First Post. In a nutshell i had my daughter at 33 and had a host of issues during pregnancy. I developed pericarditis with effusion which was fluid on my heart. I had pluresy... Sepsis.. Pneumonia... All related to the issues with my heart. The doctors never knew what flared it. It did go away but i faced my mortality when i was about 28 weeks. I thought we'd both die. My cardiologist said i CAN try again it MAY Not happen and I would be intensely monitored but i am scared. She is 4 in October and i have just turned 37. My implant runs out in September and i am so torn between not having another and just going for it. Also... Aside from the terrible experience i had i also have qualms about being an older mum. Don't know fully why... I just hoped i would have had my kids earlier. I know there is more risks associated. Bit of a ramble but keen to hear from other mums who've for one had difficult pregnancies and gone on to have more. And two older mums 35+ if i tried again end of the year.... Id likely be 39 when baby was born if i caught easily. Thanks for reading. I appreciate it

Im 37, just found out, excited and a little scared!!

jen361 — Thu, 16 Jun 2016 19:46:10 +0000

Hi all. Well, I just got 2 positive pregnancy tests today. Set to go to the dr june 28th. Surprised the hell out of me. Boyfriend and I wanted to get pregnant but didnt think it would happen. Went on ketogenic (low carb diet) and I guess I got healthy enough for it happen! Anyway, so I dont think its even sunk in yet. But I am already researching quite a bit about pregnancy after 35. I dont want to be paranoid but I do want to be aware of any risks. I do have 2 children already so this is my third. I also had a lot of bleeding when I delivered my daughter, so that is a little worrisome. I will talk with the OB about it. Overall, we are both very happy!. May be planning a wedding soon too. lol We had already been talking about it. I am curious what you all are taking as far as prenatal vitamins. I noticed that alot of prenantal vitamins now automatically contain dha from fish oil. Is this now considered safe?. I am not going to do anything without talking to my doctor, but I just wanted to get some opinions. Well, if anyone wants to talk let me know! Im curious to hear all of your stories. It has been 9 years since my last pregnancy so its all new again! lol

trying to conceive Later in life 40

butterflybull15 — Wed, 05 Apr 2017 23:39:25 +0000

I am trying to be positive...I am a late bloomer and I am 40 trying to conceive...I have never been pregnant and never had sex where a man ejaculates inside...so i know i sound pathetic..but its my story..i always had my BF pull out and never had the whole inside thing...anyway I dont know if I have fertility issues yet. I have a sort of short cycle i get my period every 25 days it comes on day 26 !!when im relaxed and not working, (i am a teacher) it balances out to a full 28 day cycle...i have PMS symptoms such as sore breasts, down in dumps, and fatigue. I bleed for three days. My ovulation app says my fertile days are 9through 14. I bought a predictor kit and last month it showed peak fertility on day 11 and 12 and this month it showed day 9 and 10.. This month i had sex day 9,11, and 13 within the window of what was supposedly the fertile window. it did not work out first month and this is the second month.I am scared it wont work out. I am trying to be positive but there are many factors that im worried about...anyway just checking in..any feedback welcome

Large Gap Between Kids

legoma — Fri, 12 Jan 2018 03:28:55 +0000

Hi I'm new here, hope I posted this in the appropriate section. Seems like the topic can apply to other areas as well.

I was wondering if there are any moms with large age gaps between children (15+ years)? Please share your story & experience. Would you do it all over again or do you wish the age gap between kids was smaller.

I had my first at 19, raised a single child with my husband, was a stay at home mom for 12 years, went onto study architecture, & purposefully did not have more kids to check off the things I wanted to accomplish in life. My first will be off to college next summer & I'm starting all over again!

This time I am 36, have advanced in my career, will continue to be a working mom, & will raise another single child since my first will start their own journey in life.

I LOVED being a mom to a single child & look forward to raising my second the same way. Although most parents are excited about their plans after kids leaving the nest, my husband & I are excited to relive all those moments again.

Daughter is turning 10 and I just turned 49!

2soontob3Jsmomma — Mon, 11 Nov 2019 19:22:43 +0000

Hello, everyone! I was feeling nostalgic and came to the community that supported me when I was pregnant at the age of 39 back in 2009. Well, now my baby girl is turning 10 on Saturday, Nov. 17th and it is so hard to believe that 10 years has just flown by! I am now 49 and having a great time watching this girl do her thing in softball, basketball, soccer, dance and cheerleading! She is in the 4th grade and loves reading and science. I am thinking about retiring when she leaves middle school in 4 years, which would be great to be there for her during high school and all of her activities which make me tired just thinking about it. The first 10 years was so much fun! We'll see how the next 8 go.

Thank you all and good luck!
Jillian's mom

Too chill?

hashtag_octothorpe — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 04:01:46 +0000

Because I am over 35, I am close to the last person in my extended group of friends to have children. The oldest of my friends' kids is a teenager and the youngest recently turned 1. That being said, I have been told by certain friends that I am very chill and laid back in my parenting and that I act nothing like a first time mom. I think it is because I have been around so many babies in my own family and through them, that I have realized what is cause for a necessary freak out and what isn't, if that makes since. Essentially, live and learn. What are your thoughts on this? Kind responses only, please.

4th child, at 35

starsjaime — Mon, 31 Dec 2018 03:39:59 +0000

I'm 35, husband 36. we currently have 3 children (7, 5 and 2). we are very much debating a 4th. But we are concerned that 35 is just a little out of reach for the age....what is everyone's thoughts? We are needing to decide asap to get started if we move forward!

We are thrilled and love our 3 kids. We would be happy with our 3...but parts of us think a 4th would be amazing too. Love our family either way.

Possible BFP with Mirena

oandmplus1 — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 16:12:47 +0000

I have no idea what group I belong in anymore. I am 36 and we have 3 kids and we were done. They are 7, 5 and 2. I have had Mirena in since after I had my 2 year old. I stopped getting AF recently in the past several months and I am paranoid, so every so often I test just to be sure.

Well I got what I consider a squinter with FMU with an FRER this am. It was within time frame and I can barely see it, but there is something (barely there) for sure.

I re-tested a few hours later and it looks pretty negative and now I am on pins and needles. Waiting to re-test til tomorrow FMU but I am freaking out. Our house is tiny, finances would be so tight and it would be stressful but I can’t help but just feel a little hopeful that it is positive.

Just looking for some support I guess. Or something to get me through til testing again tomorrow. Thanks ladies!

Losing baby weight fail

melissa11015 — Fri, 19 Feb 2016 02:22:18 +0000

i have always been active and, for the most part, in shape however since having my little guy I have lost all momentum to get back to working out. It's been 13 months and I even joined WW & lost the weight and then some only to have gained a bunch back (not sure how much, afraid to get on the scale). I feel super guilty joining a gym and going to work out 2-3 nights a week, not to mention incredibly tired and not sure I can even find the time! How have you all found the time? Energy? Get up and go? Dealt with the guilt?

Friend outing this weekend was fun but awkward.

Scrambles1 — Mon, 16 May 2016 14:28:30 +0000

Since we've had the twins our friends have been a little scarce. Their kids are all older and in sports so it's tough to connect. We went to a 40th birthday this weekend. It was fun. Everyone wants to see us or "get together" but it can be tough because their kids are all older. A few friends even offered their kids babysitting services. Which...is super nice.

My question is...when you get together do you find that all of your kids friends play together nicely but you're kind of a 3rd wheel when yours are still in diapers? Is it awkward?

4 year old and night training

jennahkross — Tue, 26 Apr 2016 14:07:07 +0000

Hello! I wonder what advice you may have for me. My 4 year old is finally waking up at night to use the bathroom, which is wonderful! But it then takes him an hour to an hour and a half to fall back asleep. He is up and down and up and down. Anyone experience this and can offer advice for getting him to stay in bed after he uses the potty? TIA

Weekly Check-in May 6

mindaa — Fri, 06 May 2016 19:46:38 +0000

How was your week?

Happy Mother's Day ladies! What are your plans to celebrate? (or relax )

Hello and Intro

mthoomom — Sat, 30 Apr 2016 19:01:30 +0000

Hi! I have a 6 week old baby and two teenagers-- all boys! I got remarried a few years ago, and my husband, who has helped me raise my older children, wanted one of his own, so we took the plunge and got pregnant through IVF. I live just outside the metro area of Portland, Oregon. I look forward to getting to know all of you!

Weekly check in April 17

Knottie1442268460 — Mon, 18 Apr 2016 00:19:35 +0000

hi. How's everyone doing?

i didn't know baby food is supposed to start at 4 months now. What's something you weren't up to date on as you parent?

Period questions

jerseygirl227 — Mon, 22 Feb 2016 15:54:38 +0000

Hi ladies! I miss being active on this board, but life has been so dang busy.

Okay, so let's talk periods. I gave birth on July 6 via C-section. I tried to BF for a month, but never really got the milk going. I had discharge for 10 weeks after having LO.

Got two super heavy periods toward the end of the year. Then, well, nothing. I mean nada. I have taken two pregnancy tests, just to be sure we didn't have another pleasant surprise. Both were negative. So, I am wondering if this is normal or if I could be peri-menopausal or something. (I'm 44 on Saturday ... yikes, lol!)

Thoughts?

Weekly Check-in 4/4

mindaa — Mon, 04 Apr 2016 16:22:33 +0000

How was your week? (or two)

QOTW: Let's talk about feeding LO's. Pick an age and tell us what your LO's favorite thing to eat was/is at that time. Any tips for developing good eating habits?

Weekly check-in March 20

mindaa — Sun, 20 Mar 2016 14:05:48 +0000

How was your week?

QOTW: what other Bump boards do you participate or lurk on?

Potty training... Thoughts?

niknak1208 — Mon, 27 Jul 2015 23:59:45 +0000

So DD will be 3 at the end of October. As of 9/8, she will be in the preschool room at school. She cannot be in diapers. So we started potty training today. She knows about the potty. She's sat on it several times. She's pooped in it twice before So here's my thing and I've never encountered this so not sure what to do. I swear to you.. She poops ALL the time. Literally every single diaper has a little poop Uin it. So she keeps popping her underwear. It's not always a lot. And it's not solid. It's never diarrhea but it's not solid either. So she's pooped her underwear like three times since 3pm. Why on Earth is she always pooping?? And how do I combat that?

Weekly check-in March 6

mindaa — Sun, 06 Mar 2016 13:11:01 +0000

How was your week?

QOTW: Easter is coming up, what are your plans, or favorite traditions?

Weekly check-in February 21

mindaa — Sun, 21 Feb 2016 18:19:30 +0000

How was your week (or two)?

Sorry for the long absence, I got a bit thrwon off by the long weekend.

QOTW- since it's still Valentine's month... What are your favorite ways/tips to make time for your marriage/relationship?

Weekly Check-in February 1

mindaa — Mon, 01 Feb 2016 23:18:19 +0000

How was your week?

QOTW: If you could ask the group any question, what would it be? (haha, I'm having a hard time coming up with one!)

Potty Training

jennahkross — Thu, 04 Feb 2016 16:10:48 +0000

Hello fellow moms! I was wondering if I can get some advice. My 4 year old still refuses to go poop in the potty. He will only go at night in his pull up! So we have two delimas, first we have to get him to start pooping during the day and then second to go in the potty. I was wondering if you all might have some ideas on how we can get him to poop in the potty!

Breastfeeding in public

niknak1208 — Mon, 04 Jan 2016 02:30:23 +0000

I think I found our solution. Lol.

Weekly check-in January 17

mindaa — Mon, 18 Jan 2016 02:13:22 +0000

How was your week? QOTW: it's flu and cold season - What are your tips for keeping you family healthy?

Weekly Check-in January 4

mindaa — Mon, 04 Jan 2016 13:18:03 +0000

How was your week? QOTW: What are you most looking forward to in 2016? Any goals or things you hope to accomplish?

Why am I so Insecure?

mindaa — Tue, 19 Jan 2016 16:31:37 +0000

Seriously, a woman's 30's are supposed to be a happy time of being comfortable in her own skin. And it was until becoming a FTM turned me into a mess of emotions, fear, doubt and insecurity. It's pretty ridiculous and I know DH is getting tired of my neediness. I think my New Year's resolution needs to be to focus on more positive/confident self-talk - I've got to get myself together!
Anyway, now that I wrote this, not really sure what I was looking for here... maybe just to vent.

Can I join?

superlowamh — Tue, 15 Dec 2015 03:15:03 +0000

Hi,

I was a little bit active on Pregnant after 35 board for a short while, and some on the high-risk board.

My DD is almost 3, and my son is five weeks.

I'd love to join the board and hopefully participate - if it's possible between a toddler, an infant, and work...

Greetings to everybody!

Weekly Check-in 12/20

mindaa — Mon, 21 Dec 2015 04:28:51 +0000

How was your week? QOTW: what is a holiday and/or winter season tradition that you are or hope to carry on with your family?

Weekly Check-in December 13

mindaa — Mon, 14 Dec 2015 02:37:41 +0000

How was your week? QOTW: I know we've had some discussion on travel here, but since its the season for it, what is your best tip or advice for traveling with kids? (By plane, car, whatever)

Question

jennahkross — Fri, 18 Dec 2015 19:57:40 +0000

Sorry if this is a duplicate question, but I am wondering if anyone else is expierencing this. I had a csection 3 months ago. I had what I thought was my first period at about 9 weeks, but I have kept bleeding on and off since then, especially after my work outs. Has this happened to anyone else? Not sure if I should call the dr or not...

Weekly check-in 12/6

mindaa — Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:43:30 +0000

How was your week?

QOTW: what about parenting has surprised you the most?

Push Presents/Gifts

jerseygirl227 — Tue, 24 Nov 2015 19:17:55 +0000

Did any of you guys get one of these? Is this a younger mom thing or just something that's new for everyone?

Just curious since my Yahoo feed said that Kim Kardashian (not that I ever pay attention to her) said she was looking for a $1 million push gift.

Personally, I didn't get a push gift, nor did I expect one. Of course, I never had to push since I had the schedule C, so I guess there's that, lol.

11/29 weekly check in

Knottie1442268460 — Sun, 29 Nov 2015 23:33:55 +0000

Hello everyone! How was your week? Did you have trips & days off? QOTW: What's your life saver baby equipment right now? At what baby age?

Weekly baby weight-loss checkin: 11/23/15

jerseygirl227 — Mon, 23 Nov 2015 18:28:04 +0000

1. How many weeks postpartum?

2. How many pounds do you want to lose to reach your pre-baby weight (most recent child)?

3. How many pounds do you want to lose to reach your ideal weight?

4. What is your overall plan?

5. How did last week go?

6. What is your plan for the upcoming week?

QOTW - How do you find time to work out? Share your tips here!

Always peeing out of diapers??

niknak1208 — Sun, 22 Nov 2015 09:18:08 +0000

Ok ladies I am totally perplexed! I've posted a lot about potty training my now 3 yr old DD. She is still struggling with constipation and still were at night. So I put her in a diaper at night. She sometimes sleeps in her bed.. Sometimes in ours. Probably most of the time in ours. Either way I am literally washing bedding and sheets every single day because she wakes up in the middle of the night completely soaked through her diapers.. Jammie's.. All over the sheets.. Blankets etc!!! I am beyond frustrated. I started putting waterproof pads underneath the fitted sheet so I at least didn't have to wash the mattress pad all the time too. But I JUST put clean sheets and bedding on our bed last night and I have to change them again tomorrow because she just peed all over again! Doesn't matter what she's in. Now she's in a Huggies size 6. She was in Luv's 5 and 6.. Either way she pees through it During the day.. I sometimes will have her in one if it's nap or something. She can have a totally dry diaper and she'll be standing in the kitchen or wherever and pee and it's literally a puddle all over the floor. How is this possible when she's wearing a diaper?? Is it too big?? I don't get it! She's within the weight range for the size she's wearing but it's like the diaper is dry but there's pee all over the place!! Ugh!! Between getting up every hour with our teething 5 month old and changing a wet toddler and a wet bed every night.. I am exhausted!

Intro

KateLouise — Fri, 30 Oct 2015 09:36:49 +0000

Hi ladies,

not sure if doing an intro is the thing to do on this board, but thought I'd say hi.

I'm 37, my youngest is 5 weeks old, and I have a 3 and 5 yr old. I'm in New Zealand.

hope you are all well, and am looking forward to getting to know you!

Weekly Check-in November 22

mindaa — Sun, 22 Nov 2015 23:05:44 +0000

How was your week?

QOTW: what are you most thankful for right now?