May 2015 Moms — The Bump

30 Day Shred and c-section

Buckles0528 — Wed, 12 Aug 2015 17:35:02 +0000

Has anyone who had a c-section doing crunches yet? I really want to start 30 day shred and of course the doctor says listen to your body but I won't know until I try. My abs don't hurt anymore but my incision is still a little "uncomfortable" not hurting though. So, is anyone who had a c-section doing any real ab workouts yet?

Travelling with breast milk

TBsquared — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 04:33:20 +0000

i have to travel about 8 hours by car next weekend to be a bridesmaid in my friends wedding. I won't always be available to breastfeed LO so I need to have some milk pumped. Im only able to pump once a day, so waiting until I get there to pump what I need isn't an option. I've read that fresh milk is good on ice for 24 hours...so here's my question. I need the milk for Saturday. If I pumped once each on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday and brought that on ice does that count as "fresh milk" even though it's a few days old. And will the 5 day In the fridge rule still be applicable even though it wasn't consistently in the fridge because of transport? I've just never had to do this so any tips would help.

Baby too little for swim diapers

jesshowland — Wed, 12 Aug 2015 22:39:41 +0000

my little peanut is just now 11 pounds and tall with thin legs. The small reusable swim diaper isn't snug enough and the disposables are way too big. I want to take her to our community pool. Advice appreciated!! Thanks!

Tired mom life

mrscimino914 — Sun, 09 Aug 2015 07:47:44 +0000

Thought it would be funny posting things you did because your tired I just put hand wash soap on my toothbrush thinking it was toothpaste....

Car Seats

odawg — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 16:56:40 +0000

Not sure if this is all car seats but I figured I would post two things...

1. I just remembered I have to change the tilt on the carseat at 3 months. Look at the side of your base and there should be a color/what the color should look like and when you need to change it!

2. Make sure to notice when your baby needs their straps put on the higher level. My daughter is apparently tall for her age and all the sudden she was hating the car seat....i put her in it a week ago and sure enough it was to tight on her shoulders...so I moved them up a level and now she is happy! (it is still safe and snug! Don't do it unless they are still safe!)

Let's talk about that growth spurt..

aacorb31 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 21:36:01 +0000

So I had read about the timing of growth spurts that LO has passed and shrugged it off because there was really no change in him. But oh man the 3 month spurt!!!! LO is 13 weeks tomorrow. He has been all out of sorts the past 5 days or so.. Starting with sleep regression at night (we went from 8-10 hours straight and now waking 2-3 times) and today eating frequently and crying himself hoarse. To top it off, the pediatrician thinks he is teething. Yikes!! Anyone else feeling this or passed it already?? If you've already been there how long did it last?? Little man is breaking my heart!

Stroller troubles

Caileybug — Wed, 12 Aug 2015 00:56:23 +0000

I have the Graco Fastaction Jogger travel system and let me just say, my son HATES being in his car seat. He is in a fit within minutes. He even hates walks when he can look at me. I'm not sure if it's his car seat specifically, or if it's just the fact that he's strapped into something. Anyways, I am finding our stroller difficult to collapse and super bulky. It's hard to walk around in a store because it's very large. I've been looking at the City Select and I'm just wondering if anyone has experience with it? We want another baby sooner than later and I'm kicking myself in the butt for not researching better and getting the City Select to begin with because it can accommodate two babes. Any reviews would be much appreciated!

Coping with others caring for baby

blitzy23 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 04:06:56 +0000

I get so frustrated sometimes when others care for my baby. I know what he needs, and so often when I give him to others to give me a break, I find myself just so anxious while I'm "away." Tonight I pumped right before I got in the shower, told my husband that my baby just ate an hour prior, and that I should be able to feed him again before bed. I got out of the shower to see that he fed LO from the bottle that I just pumped. He swears my baby was "starving." LO only ate 1.25 ounces before passing out, and now I have to dump the milk out (as I'm in tears). My milk is so precious to come by, and I'm pretty sure my LO was just way over stimulated and needed to be comforted. Even if he needed some milk, I wish my husband would have thought to separate an ounce out until I got out of the shower just to tide him over:( How do you all cope with these situations? Obviously I can't live my life feeling like I'm the only one that can care for my babe...

Canadian Moms: Child Benefits

justkeeptrying — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 16:34:26 +0000

FTM. Just wondering if anyone has received child benefits yet? DS was born May 20th and we haven't gotten anything yet. Does anyone know how long it usually takes? And when does it come? Is there a specific day of the month for everyone or does it depend on when your child was born?

Anybody else not hitting certain milestones?

chipmk228 — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 19:59:29 +0000

Okay so I just had a initial screening evaluation with a Early Intervention coordinator and our primary concern was her poor head/neck support. However during the evaluation, my LO averted her eyes (rather than looking her in the face), didn't smile and kept her hands in fists. The coordinator said that this was unusual for a 13 week old. Now, we just moved to Orlando and I have no family/friends here (sigh) and this is my first child and I'm not regularly exposed to babies her age here (I tried meetups and such and have only briefly met 1 mom with a baby of equal age). So here's the issue.

My LO is 13 weeks old and smiles occasionally. She does not really coo (maybe 4 times a day) and definitely does not babble. If she's not crying for food or because she's tired....she's pretty silent. I would say she smiles maybe 5 times a day and perhaps more if she sees a ceiling fan. But she only occasionally smiles at us. She gives us eye contact but she gets distracted and does not give us that look like she is dissecting our face and does not reach for our faces. Her hands do open and close at times but they are mostly still in fists. When the coordinator used a light to check her tracking, my LO didn't give a darn. I read that babies at her age should start to imitate our faces. Ours doesn't unless she and I are both in awesome moods and we smile at each other. But this is just once a day max.

We have a pediatrician appointment this Friday and I have 2 pediatric neurology appointments set up. We also have a Early Intervention comprehensive evaluation set up as well for later this month but I just want to see if this is perhaps normal? Sorry if this doesn't make sense. I'm pretty upset right now. Google isn't helping as the more I read about this...the more I think she may have early signs of autism. My husband thinks I'm over-reacting and said that being a female lowers the risk...but now I'm super worried. I know every baby develops at his/her own time but it seems like she's significantly delayed

Traveling with baby

alayney5 — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 16:17:42 +0000

We are planning on taking a trip at the end of September and will be going to the beach for a week (LO will be 4 months) and need some help! For those that have traveled with your baby, do we need to check her car seat or will we be able to rent one (I'm assuming through the rental car company)? And if so, will it be one that we can take out and about (to restaurants etc.)? Also, do most places or resorts let you rent a crib? Sorry if these questions sound naive, but this is new to us! Thanks for your help! Any other advice is welcome:)

Bleeding on and Off 11 weeks pp ,any one with the same experience?

lully25 — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 22:48:30 +0000

so i have scheduled a transvag ultrasound and am waiting for the bleeding to slow down t do it,it has been a rough 11 weeks am so stressed and baby's father not being around when needed ,baby was a day sleeper but he is getting better,we moved into a new house and i did a baptism party and having to deal with a controlling inlaw and an escaping husband,could the bleeding be hormonal? From stress? From being overactive? Any mommies in the same boat?

Breastfeeding length Shortened

morgansWed105148 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 05:08:16 +0000

My son has recently cut his feeding in half., we went from 45-1hour feedings to 12-40 minute max feedings. Mostly 15-30 minutes. He also is always mouthing, eating his hands or putting stuff in his mouth! So I never know if he is really hungry or just playing. He sleeps from 12-7 before he eats again.. I read he's suppose to start having shorter feedings because he is becoming more efficient, however I'm having a hard time coping I guess! I keep thinking something has to be wrong! He has to still be hungry. I also really miss my 5 am feeding! Anyone else have babies that have done this ? Im also super worried about my Milk supply! If this is a fluke for a few weeks.. My milk supply is going to go down and I'm scared I'm not going to have enough for him. I'm sure I'll adjust soon or he will go back to the way he was and I'll be like dang it I take this rant back.. Lol

Baby & Pool

JanelleRubs — Mon, 06 Jul 2015 02:17:03 +0000

Hi ladies have any of you taken your babies into the pool? What are your thoughts about an 11 week old & swimming in pool with her?

nursing clothes

danibii — Sun, 09 Aug 2015 16:30:25 +0000

Holy monkey nuts (stolen from @marthaudani way back in April)- anyone have a good place to buy nursing tops? Sweaters/sweatshirts/tops? I've seen super cute ones on etsy, but they're mega expensive. Going back to work soon and with pumping would like something easy breezy but cute (if possible) Thanks

Rant

Brieb33 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 02:58:57 +0000

My husband's younger sister is getting married next summer. I'm asked to be a bridesmaid. For one I live in GA and she lives in Washington state. For two, my LO's will be 2 and 1. And for three she is also asking one of her BFFs who also used to be my husbands gf who he was intimate with, to also be a bridesmaid. I don't see HOW I can take my babies that far and also am I wrong for not wanting to hang out and do bridesmaid stuff with a girl my husband has been intimate with? I know I did stuff before I met my husband so no shame to him but I'm also not asking that he be buds with a guy I once was intimate with. I really don't know what to tell his sis. Even if she chooses to have the wedding here in GA I don't want to be in it but how would I say no? P.s. My husband doesn't get it which pisses me off even more.

8/7 Unpopular Opinion Friday (Oops im late)

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:13:26 +0000

what do you think that maybe not everyone agrees with? No judgment!!

Baby in Day Care, back to work in a week and hostility towards hubby.

jowen0606 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 11:38:12 +0000

I put baby in day care a week before I go back to work to make sure I get used to getting back up at 4:30 every morning and getting him to daycare by 6-6:30. It took a toll on me yesterday, but it happened. This morning I got there at 6:30 and left baby with the owner because the normal infant adult was running late, so baby was sleeping and he doesn't know I left. He is almost 3 months, so I don't really know how he will react when he wakes up. I would have stayed, but I need to learn to leave and I know baby needs to learn to wake up without me. It is still tough. Yesterday I went during lunch and fed him his bottle and the lady laughed at my craziness. But she is so sweet as she sends me pics almost every hour to reassure me he is fine. Having to go back to work is haunting me. We are out of money and I know we need me to go back...but I don't want to leave baby. I tell everyone I have Stockholm Syndrome. This past month I have also been very hostile towards daddy. He doesn't really do anything to warrant aggression, but he will do something or not do something I need, (I don't even say what I want half the time). This morning, for example, Daddy held baby and slept while I took a shower and got ready. I think the thing that set me off this morning is I'm trying to feed baby and pump in bed and spilled an ounce all over me because I have to lean back for baby and forward for pump...so huge mess. So here I am, covered in liquid gold while daddy is sleeping. I asked him, I understand why I took most of the care giving these past 12 weeks, but what are we going to do when I go back? He says, "I held him while you took a shower." I replied with, "And I fed him while I pumped, changed his diaper twice, got him dressed, his diaper bag packed, took a shower, brushed my teeth and got dressed myself. He literally gets out of bed 5 minutes for him to leave and puts on clothes and leaves. I get that he can't feed him from his boob, but he could make a bottle and feed him while I pump. He could not let the alarm go off for 3 minutes straight and go change a freaking diaper. I am not saying he doesn't try and help when asked...But I'm tired of asking. He has yet to give baby a bath because, he "doesn't know how to do it." and will not learn. I have to rock,paper,scissor him for every diaper change. I just want more help I don't have to ask for. He isn't using this last week to learn the process, so is he expecting me to do all of it AND go back full time?

And I already feel ungrateful and stupid. He is a great father, really. I am just stressed and don't know what to do but cry and yell. Thank you all for listening.

Stupid Question - How do you count how old your baby is?

MegsB1112 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 06:47:07 +0000

I feel incredibly dumb for asking this, but I always assumed you went by weeks (8 weeks 2 months, 12 weeks 3 months, etc.) vs actual months (May 15th, June 15th, July 15th, etc.). But my LO recently had an appt and they commented that she was 2 months (she was 12 weeks) and I said she was three months, and the lady replied that they go by the calendar so she wouldn't be three months until the 15th (born May 15th). Which way do you count?

8/7 Weight Loss Support

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:18:19 +0000

Lets lose that baby weight!! How is your weigh loss/fitness journey going??

Baby carrier and head rolling back when sleeping

chipmk228 — Tue, 11 Aug 2015 01:42:19 +0000

So in all of my carriers, my 13 week old tends to fall asleep. When she does, her head rolls back and her chin lifts up and off my chest and she likes to stay in this position. Is this harmful? She is definitely visible and kissable and she has more than 2 fingers under her chin (it's way more obviously). Everytime I try to correct her so her head is not at a 200 degree angle from her chin, she wakes up and gets upset. But it just seems wrong to have her head dangle back. We have the K'tan, a ring sling and a ergo. She screams when I put the k'tan cloth around her head, she still rolls back when I add the tail with the ring sling and her head flips back in the ergo when she sleeps. I don't know what else to do because I can't get stuff done without wearing her but then she sleeps and her head flips back. I'm afraid of causing some neck or spinal cord injury.

Does anyone else feel this way? I miss being pregnant

alanajfarnsworth — Fri, 31 Jul 2015 17:41:29 +0000

I gave birth on May 6 of this year to my beautiful baby girl Angela and I am so happy that she is healthy and growing at an incredible rate. I absolutely adore her and my boyfriend and I are so blessed and happy as ever. I got the Nexplanon rod placed in my arm a few weeks ago to prevent myself from getting pregnant again too soon. We want to wait til I graduate with my masters degree in 3 years before having another baby but part of me feels sad that I cannot get pregnant. Part of me misses being pregnant and feeling my baby move. I was induced and had a horrible labor experience that I was totally unprepared for and I feel guilty but part me aches to get pregnant again like now. I keep mind screwing myself into thinking I am pregnant and that the Nexplanon was faulty. I dream about being pregnant and in my dreams I am so happy about it. I want to be pregnant again even though being pregnant sort of sucked (morning sickness, heartburn, not being able to sleep, and then my poor swollen feet and ankles and my aching carpal tunnel in my wrists an hands). But despite all the yucky parts of pregnancy I miss it and I want it again! I want to have a normal labor and delivery as well. I feel sad that I have this birth control in my arm and I cannot get pregnant even though my boyfriend wouldn't want us to have another baby now anyways. I feel guilty and embarrassed that I feel this way so I haven't told anyone but you guys. Does anyone else feel like this or have you ever this soon after giving birth ?

Mom vs dad putting LO to sleep

harpyogi — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 15:02:34 +0000

Anyone else have the challenge of LO only wanting mom to be the one to put them down for the night? A few times DH has had to put DS to sleep as I'm working (yoga teacher teaching evening classes sometimes). He has a super hard time getting DS to sleep or when he does finally get him to sleep DS wakes up shortly after I get home screaming and only soothed by nursing followed by snuggles with momma. We have been working really hard with not nursing him to sleep but doing a routine of nursing, singing, reading a book or two and snuggles. When I put him down he'll sleep a solid 4-5 hour stretch vs 1-2 hours when DH does until I get home. I realize that part of it may be my husband being gone a lot (he's in the army) so for these 3 months of life I have been the only real constant for him, but would love the freedom of others being able to put him to sleep. Thoughts?

Turmeric safe while nursing?

alesira — Wed, 05 Aug 2015 06:32:26 +0000

has anyone taken turmeric while nursing? I just got my period back and turmeric with milk has always helped me with cramps , was really hoping to drink it. I've searched it but can't find much info.

BF Amount

justkeeptrying — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 15:03:45 +0000

How many times in a 24 hour period is your BF'ed LO eating? This is just out of curiosity. I know we can't possibly tell how many ounces they are getting.

Anyone have a nanny?

kailanick — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 11:39:15 +0000

I'm going back to work in a few weeks when LO will be three months old. I'm fortunate that I work from home and will have 15 hours of "flex time" each week. STILL. I'm so heartbroken about returning. We've hired a nanny part time to come to our home 5 hours a day while I work, and she seems great. Still, I just hate the thought of anyone else playing with LO, changing her diaper, etc. I plan to still change a diaper or two when nanny is here, and I will still nurse her during the day if possible. I'm thinking these things will help, but it's still another woman caring for her... After the nanny left from our play interview the other day, my baby smelled like her for hours. I couldn't help but cry and long for HER BABY SMELL, not another woman's. I think it comes down to (in addition to other things) fear that my daughter will form mother attachments to her nanny... And that I want to be the one to care for my daughter (as I think most of us do!). I know I have a great arrangement (I know, I know!), but I would like to hear from others how their nanny arrangement worked or didn't work.

Babies in daycare

ltcamacho — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 16:50:04 +0000

I start back at work on Thursday :(( and my LO will be starting at a small in home daycare. I absolutely adore the lady that will be taking care of her. We have a pretty good thing going here at home! She takes amazing naps and sleeps from about 8-6/6:30. I know there will always be an adjustment period when you change things up, I'm just wondering what some of your experiences have been so far. How long did it take for your LO to adjust? Are they still adjusting? I just need some reassurance. I'm getting some pretty good anxiety about things getting super hard when she starts going. I've really been enjoying my sleep! Haha

Holy sleep!

odawg — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 09:44:00 +0000

For those of you struggling with sleep....get your baby outside for more than a little walk would be my recommendation. My LO is sleeping like a rockstar now that we are up, active, and outside! I used to try the whole 1.5 he's between naps and she was not having it! We just went to a major league baseball game (dont panic she was in shade and had lots to drink and was perfectly happy) and she took a little nap when we got home. Bathed her, feed her and she was out like a light at 9pm. Normally I have to nurse her to sleep for like 2 hrs before I can lay her down...this girl was not moving last night and I woke her up at 5am to change and feed her because she didnt clustet feed or anything so I got nervous (plus my boobs could fill bowls of cereal). Ate for a little bit and is passed back out :) I have been digging these 8-10 hours so i figured I should pass on my tip!

8/7 In Laws/Family Vent

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:18:45 +0000

Go!

What am I doing wrong?

chipmk228 — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 17:23:11 +0000

My LO is 13 months old and sleeps for an initial stretch of 4 hours and then wakes up every 2 hours until 7:30 am. After that, she refuses to go back to bed. I am a SAHM and we just moved to Orlando, FL where I am not around any family nor friends. Either way, we live in a beautiful community, I have a wonderful baby and 3 year old dog and I should be happy. But I'm so exhausted! Every minute there is something to do! I see other moms with multiple babies who look well rested. My husband is a physician and said that he works with women with babies who are doing just fine at work while I feel like I'm losing my mind. I hardly have time to make dinner. Every time I try, my baby cries. She hates being in her carrier now and she lacks head support so I'm constantly having to lay her on my shoulder and lean back (kills my lower back and shoulder). I know I'm rambling but I'm so exhausted. How do other women do it and look so put together?

Teething

Kae42 — Thu, 06 Aug 2015 05:31:00 +0000

So I'm not 100% sure but I think my 10 week old is showing signs of teething. I don't think she's about to cut any teeth, but she is incredibly drooly, very fussy when not actively distracted and loves when I rub her gums with my (washed & clean!) finger. Like goes from a demon to talking and smiling with my finger in her mouth.She seems to be biting down lots too. Anyway whether or not this is the start of it for my daughter, I thought maybe we could start a thread sharing tips and tricks to help babes and moms through teething. Any moms: what are remedies that you have heard of (zany/out there remedies as well as conventional!)? Second time and up moms: what worked for you in the past?? What didn't work that you tried?

8/7 Taking Care of You

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:16:34 +0000

What have you done for yourself lately? Manicure, night out with the girls, new outfit?? lets discusss

8/7 Baby Sleep Issues

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:14:24 +0000

Bedtimes, schedules, CIO, cosleeping... lets discuss

No sex yet

ldmw — Mon, 27 Jul 2015 04:59:50 +0000

Anyone else not have sex yet? It's like that side of me has been shut off completely. I only identity now with being a mom. I don't recognize my body other than it producing milk for my baby.

Eczema

kmchugh3 — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 14:32:13 +0000

My son has blotchy spots on his arms and legs and I was wondering if there is a good lotion avaliable to help with these? Thanks!

Ingrown eyebrow Hair

carliejo7 — Mon, 10 Aug 2015 00:13:46 +0000

sounds crazy I know, but my little guy had a white course eyebrow hair since he was born, it fell out and I didn't think anything of it. The I noticed a tiny bump a week ago and nothing happened. Now within the last few days it's gotten red and raised. No fever, and doesn't seem to bother him? I've been doing warm wash cloth to help bring it out. Anyone else have this or any advice. Going to call ped in the am.

Tips/Advice for transitioning baby to crib-HELP!

KCE14 — Thu, 06 Aug 2015 14:19:30 +0000

LO has been sleeping with us in bed since birth... He wouldn't sleep in his cradle at all! It's not time for him to move to his crib so mommy and daddy can have a good sleep lol any tricks or tips that you can pass on to this ftm? I currently feed him, which puts him to sleep and as soon as I lay him down he's up agin. I usually let him try to soothe himself back to sleep (he sucks on his hands) but with little success! Help please :)

8/7 Milestones

lola2bee — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 19:15:30 +0000

Sitting Up, rolling, reaching, grasping... lets discuss

Milk of Magnesia for 3 month old?

MegsB1112 — Thu, 06 Aug 2015 22:04:10 +0000

My LO hasn't popped in three days and her doctor suggested a mL of Milk of Magnesia. Anyone else try this?

Struggling with a super crier!

kerriam26 — Sat, 08 Aug 2015 00:26:34 +0000

From day one I knew my baby was a crier. He has big, LOUD cries multiple times per day. He wakes up screaming every morning until I feed him, cries before every nap and then wakes from each nap screaming! The ped "diagnosed" him with colic but after reading the symptoms I don't think that's it. He doesn't cry for hours on end, he just cries a LOT throughout each day and can usually be soothed each time to some extent. There's so many times I've had to leave a store or DH and I had to ask for our meal to go at a restaurant because he will just wail and wail. He only naps in our arms with a paci, hates swings and rockers and can only do tummy time on our chests for a few mins before crying. It's truly exhausting and it breaks my heart. I feel like he's missing out developmentally because when he should be playing during the day, he's crying! He's on reflux meds and colic probiotics but at the end of the day, I truly think he's just a really fussy, high needs baby. Im really struggling to enjoy motherhood when all I do all day long is try to soothe him and once he's calm I get anxiety about when he's gonna breakdown next. Anyone else dealing with a big crier? How are you coping? I should add that he is almost 12 weeks, otherwise super healthy and thriving and the few moments when he is calm and happy his smiles and giggles are as big as his cries.