May 2013 Moms — The Bump

Where did everyone go!

HZ2012 — Tue, 03 Mar 2015 02:52:57 +0000

Ladies I've been MIA for a little and it seems as though you're all gone from here. I hope someone will check in and let me know where you are!

18 Month Updates

smg2302 — Tue, 21 Oct 2014 13:30:36 +0000

These are coming right around the corner, no? Should we sticky?

PS 18 months already??? Holy shit.

Hey Blue...we need a favor

caden1206 — Sat, 25 Apr 2015 15:47:45 +0000

Is the OG FB group still around? People want some of their birth stories. Can someone tag Blue or tell her we have a question.

The Bump Guidelines

BumpAdmin — Tue, 16 Jun 2015 14:26:45 +0000

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Please help an exhausted Mama

pilotswifey — Wed, 03 Jun 2015 23:47:04 +0000

Hi all--- I haven't been in for quite a while, so am sorry that I probably seem like a total random...but I don't know where else to ask! We're traveling with ds, who just turned two. We had about an 8-hour time change. He's waking up every two hours and having an EPIC meltdown. He screams at the top of his lungs for about an hour. He doesn't know what he wants. He's refusing a bottle, his pacifier...everything. We've tried Benedryl and Melatonin (by ped recommendation) and are getting nowhere. Please help. I feel like I'm being water boarded. I'm so exhausted I would gladly give up state secrets for some sleep. Ideas?!?! Thanks Mamas.

baby initals

coello1979 — Thu, 23 Apr 2015 00:04:37 +0000

Is it wrong to give my baby boy the initials SHE.? I love the first name we choose an the middle name is my deceased father's name.

Mirena users please step in

john5111 — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 19:48:21 +0000

I know I asked something similar quite a while back last year but I m wondering if any people have had recent experiences getting preg or theirs removed to help me decide when to have my mine removed. For those that have/had Mirena did your doc recommend waiting to try to get pregnant 1 month or 2 months or not at all? What was your experience did you wait or try right away? How long did it take for you to get pregnant. I wouldn't care soo much but we are both in a wedding in the fall so I kinda have to try and plan out when Id like to be pregnant..give or take a few months. I dont want to wait too long and then have to wait forever.. Im sure its different for everyone but was hoping for some advice. I just dont get why some docs say dont wait and others say oh wait 1 to 2 cycles. Thanks!!

Who Has Started Potty Training?

CNJ4EVA — Mon, 19 Jan 2015 21:23:41 +0000

Creative LOs

CNJ4EVA — Fri, 02 Jan 2015 15:45:51 +0000

In an effort to occupy my mind, I thought it might be interesting to have a thread to show off our LOs masterpieces. So let's see those drawings, paintings, constructions, etc !

need behavior fix help

huzzahuzza — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 01:51:25 +0000

J has been pulling my hair. We started time outs for other behaviors and it seems to have fixed/detoured a lot of things (hitting, being rough with the cats, etc) but it has not stopped this. In a moment of desperation, the other day I tried pulling his hair. I must've done it wrong because he thought it was funny:-P Does anyone have any other thoughts or ideas?!?!

Fighting naps

delino — Mon, 19 Jan 2015 17:18:20 +0000

Not sure if many folks are around anymore, but wanted to hit you ladies up. DD has been fighting naps the past two weekends. Like to the death. She dove out of her crib on Saturday. She'll pass out on me or H, but screams bloody murder in her bed. Goes to sleep just fine at night (knock on wood). Anyone commiserating? Anyone been through this? Can anyone assure me this is just a phase??? She (and I) need naptime. When I do finally get her down she sleeps for 2 hours.

Belated Birthday Present ( pregnancy mentioned)

ALP514 — Thu, 08 Jan 2015 17:26:37 +0000

After 7 months of trying, a week late & 4 negative tests I got a BFP this morning . My birthday was Sunday and I took a test that day and was super bummed out when i saw the results, yesterday was my anniversary and I took another test and got nothing. I had an extra test so when i woke up this morning I decided to take it because I couldn't stand looking at it anymore and BOOM! I still feel like I'm dreaming. Its still super early but please keep me in your prayers that everything goes well!

According to my last menstrual cycle my estimated due date is September 9th eeeeek!

Suv recs

john5111 — Fri, 23 Jan 2015 20:59:37 +0000

So I ve always driven a car and have just started to look at suvs..I was thinking I wanted a little bit smaller of one to start out with just needing some extra space. With my car now (we are both tall) the car seat is right up to the seat and if my husband is with me he is smashed right up to the dash. We went and started looking last week and test drove/looked at some.

We looked at the suv of my car--Mazda 9(it was decent) seemed a little big for me, havent heard much for reviews of this, the mazda 5 hated it..too small
Ford Edge-didnt like the shape of it at all
Santa Fe Sport-Loved it but wondering if it will be big of enough down the road, have one kid but plan to have another, Santa Fe- is the extra 10-15k worth it for an extra row of seats..how often would we use it?
My fav- Chevy equinox--thought I was set on this is what I want but after talking with several people theya re like nope youd want the traverse the equinox will not be big enough for 2 kiddos etc etc..

Any advice ladies? I was aiming for a smaller SUV but dont want to be disappointed a couple years later and think oh I wish we would have gone bigger. Its so overwhelming..so many options.

Off-Gassing Mattress

BLMarcus1 — Sat, 24 Jan 2015 13:47:10 +0000

Ladies, My husband and I just bought a new memory foam mattress. We were told by the store that the mattress would be stinky when they first delivered it, but just open a window and turn on a fan and it will be good to go by the time you go to bed that night. Well, I just woke up to go to the restroom, and I had a nose bleed. I never have nose bleeds. Ever. Like maybe 5 in my life. I can still smell the fumes from the mattress a bit, and I'm really concerned now that I may be harming my baby. Are these fumes toxic? Has anyone else experienced this?

ttc #2?

michgold — Sun, 25 Jan 2015 17:47:58 +0000

Any may '13 mamas pregnant or trying for #2? We just started ttc last month. Hoping it will happen in the next 3-4 months.

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bumptara — Tue, 20 Jan 2015 20:42:54 +0000

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Posting Limbo....

fancefpp — Thu, 15 Jan 2015 14:06:56 +0000

Ugh, I don't know where to post this with all the drama, so I'm going to my stand-by first, which is May '13 ladies! Posting it on FB group seemed weird to me, even though I know it's super secret. The trying to get pregnant board is silent but I'll probably post on the new board.

Anyway..... I got a faint positive on a FRER test this morning! I had a real squinter yesterday too but wasn't convinced it was real. Today's was a littler darker and I'm really only 11/12 dpo, maybe, so i'm hoping it's a good sign. My TTCAL brain is making it hard to be excited and want to stay in denial a little. I got really early positives with both DS1 and DS2, and a really, really late positive with my loss (always knew something was off), so I'm trying to be optimistic. I'm definitely not telling anyone IRL yet, not even my BFF, who knew about all my previous pregnancies the day I got a positive. I hope this one sticks - EDD 9/30/2015

Sorry...this turned into a Dear Diary.....

Beaubecca

Blueyed228 — Mon, 19 Jan 2015 04:02:25 +0000

Ygpm

OLJ1010

telicious2 — Fri, 16 Jan 2015 07:48:29 +0000

@OLJ1010‌ YGPM (or 2). Sorry if there is 2, I didn't know if the first one sent or not.

@beaubecca

c-elizabethf — Thu, 15 Jan 2015 18:16:13 +0000

Hey I wasn't sure who to ask since we have no MOD on july 15, but do you know who can make a post a sticky thread?

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GTKY - Perfume

bumpuser3155624 — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 02:14:59 +0000

What is your favorite?

infant tub?

DiFazette — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 03:49:08 +0000

Anyone's LO still in an infant tub? Ours is a plastic molded whale that sits in the real tub. O can't seem to deal with a big bathtub....he freaks. I've tried transitioning every way I can think of. Travel is very stressful since we do a bath as part of our bedtime routine and he's super hard to get down without one. Any advice?

Soft spot

gamg17 — Sat, 03 Jan 2015 02:44:21 +0000

My apologies in advance if I've missed a thread but looking for comments regarding my 19 month old's soft spot on top. Ped said it could take up to 2 years to close so I'm not overly worried but his is about the size of a quarter still. Anything to be on the lookout for? Thanks!

How do you put your LO to bed?

mommatotwo2 — Fri, 02 Jan 2015 17:38:45 +0000

Hey Gals.

So for almost 19 months I nursed my LO to sleep. When I weaned 2 weeks ago, we started rocking LO to sleep for naps and bedtime. But this can seriously go on for like an hour and a half. I don't have time to be sitting in the nursery for an hour and a half every night. Is there a way for me to just "train" her to go to sleep on her own in her bed, like, we do our bath, books, a few snuggles routine and then put her in bed and walk out of the room? She has her 2 blankets and a couple of stuffed animals, but nothing that she's overly attached to, like a lovey. I've tried having her cuddle with one of the stuffed animals while I rock her to try and make this lovey connection, but she's not into it at all. Please tell me there is hope.

New Years Plans

bumpuser3155624 — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 05:29:31 +0000

What are your plans for New Years this year?

@Linegirl313 - YGPM

snowgirl427 — Thu, 01 Jan 2015 12:09:07 +0000

for everyone else - my neighbor's horse. Happy New Year!

Footy PJ's

bumpuser3155624 — Tue, 30 Dec 2014 22:01:01 +0000

We put LO in fleece footed pj's at night and lately she has been slipping when she runs/stops on our hardwood floors. Any tips on how to get the sticky treads more sticky again?

@maymomny

ALP514 — Tue, 30 Dec 2014 17:34:02 +0000

YGPM

everyone else..

Books

bumpuser3155624 — Mon, 29 Dec 2014 02:14:17 +0000

I need some new book recommendations. Recenly finished the following: the giver, the best of me and gone girl. I am off work till the 5 so want to catch up on some good books while I can.