August 2012 Moms — The Bump

Because I can't talk about it IRL

sourapplemartini — Sat, 19 Oct 2013 23:06:16 +0000

DH and I may be in talks for a fourth in the spring/summer. Who knows if it will actually happen but the idea is kind of exciting (and a little scary!)

Diaper preference?

stlmomma27 — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 12:18:41 +0000

Tell me what diapers you are using and if they hold a lot of pee from overnight.

We have been using Luvs, until ds was waking up soaked. We tried Huggies and I just don't like those. They sag way too much with very little in them.

I just want to find a diaper that fits, doesn't leak and does what it is supposed to.

Switching bc... Ring to pill. Nervous.

exc1tedforbaby1 — Sat, 19 Oct 2013 00:49:09 +0000

I got mirena after I got the all clear. Loved it for the most part but was having some issues after a few months so had it removed. Now using the nuva ring. It's $50 for 1 month or $100 for 3... Well we aren't in the best financial spot right now and cutting everything we can. [wishing I kept mirena... Darn it, issues or not. They weren't that bad] but I'm terrified that the pill I'll forget or something and I'll end up pregnant. We also use condoms 95% of the time but he ALWAYS also pulls out. Which I know isn't totally full proof. But I figure with everything else it's better than nothing? Ugh. I just don't know what to do. Can't afford another baby. Can't afford the method of bc I choose. I also have bad migraines so I have to be careful which pill I take. Anyone LOVE their pill?

Baby girl gift recommendations

amaite — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 02:38:05 +0000

I'm looking to get a gift for a new baby girl. She already has a big brother. I have no idea what the family has or doesn't have. I would like to keep it to $40-50, but don't want to get a gift card. Any ideas?

NBR: Salary Negotation: Updated

jillybean7582 — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 21:19:04 +0000

I mentioned last week that I had a job interview yesterday. Well I was offered the position this afternoon. The salary and benefits package is fairly decent and if it is the "Best" they can provide I will accept. However, I feel like people expect you to counter their original offer in some way so most do not offer the max they are willing to give off the bat. My husband on the other hand thinks they only expect you to negotiate if its an upper management position which it is not. What says A12? Try to negoiate a slightly higher salary or just accept what was offered? I don't want to offend or come off as pushy because this really is an ideal position for me. To clarify when doing research there is about a 20k range in salary for this position nationally depending on cost of living, education, and experience. We live in a low cost of living area. But I have a Masters and am on the higher end of the experience range. They are offering at the plus 7k area of the range. I think I should be at the plus 10k range so I thought I would counter at the plus 13k range and hope they split the difference. What do you all think? Update: I ended up only being able to squeeze another 2k out of them BUT they did write into the contract that I would get a guaranteed 15% bump in salary upon completion of my registration exams. (There are 7 and I have 2 left) so I am pretty happy with the outcome!

LNCI

CRey13 — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 09:13:02 +0000

It's 2 am on the west coast. Who is out there? Sorry I have become a dirty lurker. Going back to work and having a wild toddler who still wakes 2-4 times a night is a bump time killer. Question of the night: if you could live anywhere in the world where would it be and why?

f*ck

RNbock2 — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 22:33:30 +0000

Help guys!

My 3yo heard DH say "f*ck" the other day in the car, and now he won't stop saying it. He uses it in perfect context, and with perfect annunciation. For example, we were at the pediatrician's office yesterday, and he fell off his chair and said, "fuck, I fell down". I thought the doctor was going to die. It is so embarrassing.

I've had DH apologize to DS and say, it was wrong of daddy to say, it is a very bad word. I've tried ignoring it, putting him in time out. Now, the latest is we were at Target, and he was walking around saying, "we don't say fuck, fuck is a bad word".

Local police logs

brandyleighxx — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 17:34:06 +0000

These gems are copied & paste straight from the online police log from my town:

3:41 a.m. — A deer becomes venison on Exit 13 of the turnpike.
6:41 p.m. — Ten people fight on Ela Court. One is a batman.
9:41 a.m. — A River Street resident let a homeless couple into his home last night. The pregnant lady started drinking, so he asked them to leave. They stole an Xbox.
10:42 a.m. — At the Washington Street Shell, four gentlemen surround a Dodge pickup and yell at a lady. They manage to retrieve an Xbox that was concealed on her person. A fifth gentleman takes off into the woods.
4:04 p.m. — A fight brews on Warren Street. “People are yelling about drugs and pregnant people.”
9:35 a.m. — On Portland Street a woman paid a man to do some plumbing, but rather rash, advanced him cash. The plumbing? He ain’t coming.
7:06 p.m. — On the Common two men sit beneath a tree where it’s unlit. Do they crochet? Do they knit? No, they chug beers before they split
12:53 p.m. — On Knight Street two folks argue for reasons yet unknown, the incident is moving though, for suitcases are thrown.
1:06 p.m. — Two young men slug it out on Hemlock Street. They are shirtless. Yup.
8:56 p.m. — A blue bike has been abandoned in a Cross Road ditch for two weeks. No wonder it’s blue.

For your amusement

BluepointToasted — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 01:09:36 +0000

Put your LO's socks on their hands. It was like watching a dog try and walk in booties for the first time. Hysterical.

Hi. Some recent M pics!

poppyseed1017 — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 12:56:41 +0000

Just want to AW my bebe a little.

**poof**

Please don't quote I will DD.

Creating Messes in Public

millerhomelife — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 16:29:26 +0000

Do you pick up after yourself and kids?? I went shopping with a friend and her baby and I offered her Cheerios to keep her DD happy. I went to hand them to the mom so she could monitor them, but she said to just give them to DD because she could care less if they spill all over Target, and that is exactly what happened. Walking behind her, I heard a crunch under my feet and they we're all over the carpet. I was embarrassed, but didn't want to make a scene or "undermine" her by picking them up. I, personally, do not think that is acceptable... Especially at restaurants, I pick up our mess. What do you do? Am I being anal?

Daily injustices

BluepointToasted — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 01:08:20 +0000

What did your LO throw a fit about today?

DS got heated because he handed me a puzzle piece and I wouldn't do what he wanted. Still a mystery as to what that was.

As I type he is mad because he can't crawl and carry over a big book at the same time. Maybe one day it will occur to him to walk.

feel like i'm losing my DH

Tapthathank — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 17:51:10 +0000

I feel like he has given up in our relationship. He doesn't want to talk about the issues, he doesn't want to do couples therapy. He doesn't believe a word I say, when I say that I will change. I have been a huge jerk to him, just basically not treating him with respect. We can't afford counseling - even for just me. Money is very tight.

I feel so sick. I don't want to lose him. How can I show him that he is my everything? How can I change me? Any self-therapy tips out there? How can I let the annoyances go and just be nicer to my husband? It shouldn't be this hard!

I've been dealing with PPA, it got better and I went off my meds. We moved into a new house and things are tight with money so I am stressed out and my anxiety is getting the best of me. Literally. I called my doc and I'm going to go back on my medication - low dose of Celexa.

I'm just so sad - he seems as if he has given up on us...on me.

Speaking of names...

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 19:12:21 +0000

I heard this one the other day. Sugarie. As in, that frosting is too sugary. Wtf? Any other name winners lately?

Swaddlers vs Cruisers

BluepointToasted — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 02:04:53 +0000

What is the f-ing difference???

People disgust me.

CourtneyEeps — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 05:09:28 +0000

I just need to vent a bit. There's a pitbull at the local shelter who has been there far too long. He's going "kennel crazy" - losing weight, circling the kennel, etc. He's such a sweet boy and good with all animals. He thinks he's a lap dog and is super mellow. I posted his picture and info on Craigslist in the pets section because I've had good luck getting the shelter more exposure there. Well, I just got an email from a guy that said "Gas that fucking useless pitbull." You know what, dickhead? Fuck off. I thank you for your concern and empathy for other living beings. I just can't believe how disgusting some people are.

UO!!

britvahok — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 13:03:34 +0000

Let's hear it!

Sleep. Help us!

skooz — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 03:09:26 +0000

I am seriously at the end of my rope. DD will not go to sleep on her own anymore. I have no idea what else to try. She screams, not just cries, but screams when I leave the room. She had an ear infection a couple weeks ago so I held her more than normal for a few days (sometimes rocking her to sleep or holding her for naps), but I don't see how that could've thrown things this far off. I guess I'm bad at cry it out because I never make it past 30-40 minutes because she's screamed until her voice is gone by then and I feel like I have to do something. She has dropped down to one nap, I don't know if it's because she was really ready for that or I just couldn't deal with the screaming twice a day. She does the same thing at bedtime. I have no idea if this is related either, but she's had more sleeping issues since DH came home about 2 months ago (he was gone for about 5 months). I'll take any suggestions at this point. I can't deal with the nap/bedtime battle anymore, I feel like I'm about to go insane and it makes me want to just let her play until she passes out from being so tired. Oh and our routine didn't change other than the few days of ear infection. Brush teeth, read a book, sing a few songs, and put her down sleepy but awake.

Running Question

britvahok — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 14:38:48 +0000

I want to start running. The last few nights after dinner I've taken my dog on a 1.5 mile run and love the "me time"

Can someone recommend some good running shoes for under $100? The shoes I have now are Nikes but I've had them for at least 3 years.

Moose or hockey player?

Msbean22 — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 17:37:50 +0000

Those are the two options we're going with as Halloween costumes for Evie. For the moose costume, I was going to sew felt antlers on a brown zippy/hoodie, brown pants, black socks, and a little tail. Maybe a black nose.

For the hockey player, she'd wear her Penguins jersey, carry around a mini hockey stick, and wear her penguin (actual penguin) fuzzy touque.

The moose was my idea, the hockey player was my husbands idea - I'm clearly partial to my own genius

What do you guys think?

Need input on tantrums.

stlmomma27 — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 13:40:29 +0000

Is anyone else dealing with major tantrums? Ds will be fine one minute and then the next, he's throwing his body around and screaming. I had no idea that the tantrums would start so early.

Things he does, during a tantrum:

Stiffens body

Bangs head on everything!

Screams

Cries

Doesn't want to be cuddled or soothed at all!

Scoots his body across the whole room

What do you do in these tantrums?

pumpkins

Toni79 — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 13:29:17 +0000

Sorry if this already been discussed. I've been MIA .since being furloughed (dd has been keeping me busy!) Anyway I wasn't planning on carving pumkpins this year. But we are still going to the pumpkin patch to get pumpkins. I got a pie pumpkin at the grocery store that I planned to cube and cook for finger food for dd. I'll freeze the rest to thaw out for other meals. But I was wondering two things. First does anyone know a way to cook the seeds in a way that's safe for our LOs to eat? I don't think it would be safe but maybe there is a cooking method that could work? And second, has amyone let their LOs play with the pumpkin "guts" yet. I thought it might be a fun tactile activity. But I'm not sure what I'm getting myself into! Lol! TIA

brandyleighxx

BatDaughter4Eva — Tue, 15 Oct 2013 15:20:02 +0000

YGPM llaaddyyy

Can we talk poop for a minute?

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 16:32:33 +0000

We haven't discussed poop since the newborn days, but I find myself wondering, what should T's poop consistency ideally be now that he eats like a normal person? On days when I notice they are a little harder, I give him more raisins, but then I wonder if it should be harder and not pasty anymore. I don't know. And I don't really want to ask Dr. Google.

PSA- Chicco NextFit on Target.com is $202 right now

vvvvvfee — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 15:18:06 +0000

If anyone is looking to get a 2nd car seat, the Chicco NextFit Convertible is on sale at Target.com right now and the total price is $202.29! For some reason there are 2 15% off discounts applied. Free shipping and no tax (at least in my state). One of the discounts is through 10/19 only.

We already had one NextFit and love it, and my mom has the Britax Roundabout (which is just okay), but we needed a seat for my car, and I was reluctant to spend list price on a 2nd one. This is an amazing deal! We paid $230 on sale at Target for the first one.

edit: here's the link

Constipation

AmySmolos — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 12:49:36 +0000

DS has been so constipated this week. Sunday he was screaming and his whole body was rigid due to the discomfort. We did prune juice and milk of magnesia. He ended up getting relief later that day. I've kept giving him prune juice every day this week but this morning he was laying I the floor on his belly with his whole body straight and rigid again crying:( I have him more prune juice and milk of magnesia. The sitter said he was laying in the floor crying. She gave him some mineral oil and he went. She said he is playing right now. Any ideas as to what's going on? He eats mostly fruit because he's so picky. He eats yogurt, pumpkin bread, advacado, cheese, deli meat, noodles, and am and cheese. He hasn't had many bananas lately or Mac and cheese so I'm confused. He loves canteloup and peaches and eats those daily. Any ideas as to what I can change in his diet? I will ask the doctor at his 15 month appointment in a couple weeks but goodness it's awful to see him in such pain.

For those whose kids have had this year's flu shot

alrighthamilton — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 13:14:33 +0000

Did your child have any after effects? Kate has hers this Saturday and I'm just curious, because I got cold like symptoms after mine last year. Her flu shot last year was combined with her 6 month vaccinations, so the vomiting she experienced the night of the vaccinations could have been from any of them. She did not get the booster as her Pediatrician ran out. How did your child react this year?

practical boots

Toni79 — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:08:39 +0000

What kind of boots did you get for your LO for fall/winter? Rain? Snow? Fashion? Anyone find boots that tick more than one box? Its was super rainy last weekend so we skipped the pumpkin patch. Hopefully it will be dry enough this weekend to go. Anyway I started to think I'd get dd a pair of rain boot ... but so far I've been unable to find them in her size (4). But not sure if they'll get used enough to justify buying them. But with winter coming I got a cheap snow suit - pants and jacket. Super cheap - $6 new after sales, coupons, etc. So I was thinking of getting her boots she could wear in the snow too. She'll wear the jacket all winter but again I'm not sure I can justify buying snow boots that she may only wear 1-2 times. I'm in southern PA / MD so the weather is pretty hit or miss. Some winters we only get 1-2 small snows and other winters we get tons. I'd like to get her a pair of fashion boots for the fall ... but she really doesn't need 3 pairs of boot! Lol!

Randoms

shakinros — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 16:12:55 +0000

Flying with a toddler... Is hell, ladies. Total hell. Bonjour! H, DD and I went on vacation for a week! Got back yesterday afternoon. We flew from CA to NJ and stayed two nights with my in-laws. Then DD stayed there with her grandparents (!!!!) while H and I went on to meet friends in Montreal. Things that are glorious: 1. Traveling just with adults 2. CANADA! 3. Adult vacation time. It was our first nights away from DD and it went fine. I love staying in bed all night. Then DD spent the whole 6hr plane ride yesterday clinging to me, trying to throw her food on the floor, and doing acrobatics across our laps. Oh, and screeching. We are STAYING HOME for Christmas. I am the decider and I have spoken. Wednesday random done. How you doing?

BluePointToasted - YGPM

Tapthathank — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 20:58:25 +0000

Thanks!

What does A12 think of this?

britvahok — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 13:33:38 +0000

I saw this story on the new this morning. I think its all about publicity ad promoting her book and websites. I'm surprised that she could be so judgmental especially after dealing with an eating disorder herself.

https://fox40.com/2013/10/15/whats-your-excuse-sacramento-mom-comes-under-fire-for-facebook-post/

---->C_Mo<----

gollywollypog — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 16:29:50 +0000

Personal defects

RNbock2 — Mon, 14 Oct 2013 23:58:03 +0000

I was lurking on September 13, and saw this thread. My personal defect: I canon pretend to like someone. If I don't like someone, I can act respectful/cordial, but not "friendly". Also, I do not travel well. I always get stomach upset, anxiety, etc. You??

Britvahok and SJandVA

rp-chicago-mom — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 14:21:47 +0000

We went to Pumkinville Saturday and it felt like an episode of Scooby Doo. :) Of course no one else wanted to be there because of the weather. Howell has a blast though, so that's all that matters.

Be honest

brandyleighxx — Mon, 14 Oct 2013 23:58:25 +0000

I've been around since DS was about 2 months old, soooo for a year now. I rarely get noticed. No one comments on my discussions. I have one I made this morning. It's the ONLY thread on the first page with zero comments. What gives? Am I really that uninteresting or did you guys all get together and decide not to post on anything I was involved in? I normally wouldn't care but I'm 2 beers in to a crappy day and getting stood up by a "friend" so feeling a little extra emotional. I've never felt like I fit in this place. With most of the "regulars" gone or on FB, I thought it would get better for members like me. Guess I was wrong.

Twats!

rp-chicago-mom — Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:34:53 +0000

Who in your life is being a twat and serving it up for breakfast with maple syrup and a side of bacon?

Baptism Gift

Tapthathank — Tue, 15 Oct 2013 19:00:44 +0000

Our niece is being baptized this Sunday. What does one give for a baptism gift??? (we didn't baptize Sammy, so I don't have any ideas...)

If I would have planned ahead, I could have crocheted her a blanket....maybe I'll just do that for Christmas.

Money? Cute stuffed animal & money? DH and I aren't very religious, so I don't want to get something overtly religious.

Why did I buy that?#%!

NeneCakies — Tue, 15 Oct 2013 21:35:36 +0000

Another week, another product! Today's Item: The Clapper Did you share a room with a sibling and fight every night about who would turn off the light because the switch was across the room? Did you cave every time because you need it dark to sleep and your annoying sister could sleep through a solar flare? Do you find yourself having the same argument with your hubs and wish for a magic wand to flick off the damn lamp with zero effort and gloat, hahaha take that motherfuckaa!?! Well the Clapper is for you. Or is it? At first the novelty is fun. You each will want to be the first to do it, so you'll have a clapping war. Then you figure out the Clapper is fickle. Sometimes you need to clap twice slow, later twice fast, and sometimes 3 times in case you clap wrong. How do you clap wrong, you ask? It must be loud. Loud enough that your palms sting from trying different clap sequences and heaven forbid you have guests that hear the cacophony from your room and think you are crazy...or spanking each other in there when you really just want to sleep already. And you finally walk over to the lamp and turn it off. Or get really smart and buy bedside table lamps. Problem solved! Verdict: fuck you Clapper! Any clapper fans? What's your favorite convenience item?

Brandyleigh

RNbock2 — Wed, 16 Oct 2013 11:15:04 +0000

YGPM

Blankets

twoitalians — Tue, 15 Oct 2013 14:58:18 +0000

If you are giving your LO a blanket to sleep with at night, what kind are you using and are you doing anything to keep them from getting twisted in it?