August 2012 Moms — The Bump

New job, horrible timing (m/c?)

abbyful — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 02:07:46 +0000

I just had my 2nd interview with a company this morning, and they called at 5 to offer me the job (which I will take). I start November 6.

Sucky timing though. I have an ultrasound on October 31st, and I'm 100% sure there will be no heartbeat. Measured way behind and heartrate under 100 at our first ultrasound last week. (And I am sure on my dates. I know for sure my ovulation date and when I got BFP, it is impossible.)

I was thinking of taking off Nov 4-8 to deal with everything, but that's not a possibility now.

I guess I should opt for the D&C as soon as possible (Oct 31 or Nov 1 if I can). I don't know if I do the medicine route if it will be done in time. If I don't start m/c-ing before my appt. I really wish I wasn't dealing with this all at once. I wish I wasn't having to deal with it at all. But I really don't want to be bleeding the first week at my new job.

I guess the silver lining is maybe the new job will help distract me.

Baby does have heart problem

sdlaura — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 22:03:02 +0000

We went back to the children's hospital for another fetal echo today, and our baby was diagnosed with heart defects. It is likely Tetralogy of Fallot (Amaite, I would definitely like to write/speak to you about your experience). A lot can happen between now and the end of the pregnancy (none of which I can influence with my behavior, I'm told), so the severity is unknown, but baby will likely need open heart surgery by 6 months. Now that we've had two babies with major heart issues, it's definitely genetic. I am so grateful for my healthy daughter right now and hoping that we end up with the best case scenario with this baby (a boy) and that he can have a full repair and is able to lead a normal life. Thanks again ladies for your support.

FFFC!

rp-chicago-mom — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 11:51:26 +0000

Time to pull out those flame retardant suits!

T&P & advice please

CRey13 — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 18:15:50 +0000

Just found out my older sister had a miscarriage. It was going to be her and her husband's first kid. If you could keep them in your prayers that would be awesome. Also, advice. We aren't super close and I'm not really sure how to be supportive. What I should say or do, etc. My mom and younger sis are headed over this afternoon. I'm leaving work early to pick up D but I'm not sure if I should go to or if that will to overwhelming. What say you? TIA

The movie, The Bump

CrazyDaisy8 — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 16:56:38 +0000

I just saw this on TTGP.

https://www.deadline.com/2013/10/fox-ties-down-wedding-website-the-knot/

WWA12D re: clothe size

brandyleighxx — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 16:05:57 +0000

I am going to order a Disney Baby brand hoodie to complete L's Halloween costume. He wears 18-24 mo. It's a hoodie he could wear beyond Halloween. 1 person reviewed it and said it ran small, said it was the same size as her daughter's 18 mo sweaters. Should I order 2T or 3T?? Halp!

Onesies underneath clothes?

Maizey06 — Fri, 25 Oct 2013 03:04:56 +0000

These is probably a really dumb question but now that it is getting colder, are you putting a onesie underneath your LO's clothes or pajamas?

UO

britvahok — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 13:07:00 +0000

It's Thursday right?

Sexy Man Thursday

britvahok — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 13:12:20 +0000

Ok, I just made this up... We need this post to get me through the rest of the week.

How damaging would this be?

rp-chicago-mom — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 21:42:31 +0000

Howell will not keep socks on no matter what I do. Last year I put those thin footy pants under his pants to keep them on but I doubt they make them in his size so I'm seriously considering tights. Too psychologically damaging? Probably.

Does anyone else have a LO that hits themself?

MuggleMomma23 — Thu, 24 Oct 2013 17:36:40 +0000

DD just started doing this last week. DH and I hate seeing her do it. We notice it's typically when she's trying to do something (puzzle, reach something etc.) and can't and just seems frustrated so she'll hit herself in the head with her hand(s). Anyone else experiencing this? Not sure how to break her of this except for doing what we're already doing which is stopping her and telling her not to hit but to be nice or gentle. TIA!

verbal vs nonverbal & walking vs non walking LOs

lady_tytah — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 10:55:53 +0000

Since everyone is talking about words and I'm sure walking will make another wave again. Lets go a pool :-)

Don't pack away maternity tops!

millerhomelife — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 15:44:45 +0000

I am totally wearing a Liz Lange maternity top BACKWARDS today and it looks über cute. The long belly part is perfect for covering your butt with leggings. Throw on a scarf and it looks legit. Since the fashion is oversized tops with leggings, these totally fit the bill. Oh, and it is quite comfortable. Are any of you still using your maternity clothes?

PLL HALLOWEEN!

zbeesma86 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:52:40 +0000

It's on tonight!

who's watching? I'm excited!!

Christmas gift ideas?

Reilly626 — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 01:56:35 +0000

I'm going to have some time off to shop soon. What are you getting your little ones? On my mind are bean bag chairs, a mini table and chairs, Thomas train stuff... Any other suggestions? A friend gave them a play kitchen which they like a lot, they love the fake food more! I already got them the FP laugh and learn house door thing (a hit), anything I'm missing? We have the Radio Flyer wagon and Little Tikes cars..

Scary perinatology visit today - sorry, long

sdlaura — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 19:43:30 +0000

I'm not telling my family (other than DH, of course) about this because I don't want them to worry yet...but I'm really worried. I'm 25 weeks pregnant today and had a perinatology growth scan because I have an abnormal cord insertion (velamentous). Baby looks fine in terms of growth and is measuring in the 76th percentile.

Now onto the scary part. A bit of background - at the anatomy scan with our first pregnancy in 2010, the perinatologists detected complex cardiac anomalies. They made it very clear at the time how serious they were. We had a series of follow-up visits with cardiac experts, all of whom told us that our baby would not survive long after birth, even with any amount of surgery, and we made the very difficult decision to end the pregnancy at 21 weeks rather than put the baby through any pain after birth. Since that time, we have had a healthy daughter with no known cardiac issues. With this pregnancy, the baby's heart looked normal at our anatomy scan at 18 weeks, and also looked normal at our fetal echocardiogram at the children's hospital at 20 weeks.

So at today's appointment, I noticed that the U/S tech was suddenly focusing a lot of attention on the baby's heart, and his demeanor changed a little bit. Given that I wasn't there to look at the heart, it was strange, so I asked him about it, and he said there was one thing that looked strange - the aortic artery is larger than the pulmonary artery, when it should be the other way around, or the same size. He brought in the perinatologist, who is a cardiac sonography expert (we know her from our first pregnancy). She had him test a whole bunch of other heart-related stuff, which all looked normal, but agreed that the aortic artery was larger than the pulmonary artery, and that was abnormal. She has the pediatric cardiologist who did our fetal echo at the children's hospital on speed dial, so she called her and asked her to get us in ASAP for a follow-up. She didn't want to provide any info on outcomes until we have more info.

According to Dr. Google, an aortic artery larger than a pulmonary artery is a strong indicator of congenital heart disease. It seems like it would strange to have this particular abnormality, however, without any other associated abnormalities. So we are crossing our fingers that it was just a strange view or something.

It's so strange that without the other reason for having an ultrasound today, I would be blissfully ignorant. At least if it is an indicator of a problem, we will know in advance and can deliver someplace where they can care for the baby's issues right away. Ugh, not what I was expecting as a result of today's appointment. Thanks for reading all of this!

Safe Handling of WCM

Toni79 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 15:48:01 +0000

This is a new territory for me ... I never had to worry about this stuff while BFing. And because WCM is pasterized I don't feel like I need to be as uber conservative as I was with BM in bottles (I'd always toss unused milk, etc).

1. Do you use the same sippy cup throughout the day and just refill it as needed? I'm still BFing (before and after work and at bedtime). But I've been offering her sippys when we're together too, and she gets them at the sitters. Whatever she doesn't finish I've been putting back in the fridge and refilling as needed. Its never left out very long. So I don't think its a big deal. And I dump whatever is left over at the end of the day.

2. When you're out running errands and you think you might be out of the house when your LO would get thier milk ... are you taking sippys with you? Do you put them in a cooler bag?

TIA

oh, snap! Isn't it Wednesday? And why is Wednesday spelled like that? It's like Wed-nez-day.*HDBD

gollywollypog — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 17:24:23 +0000

Da babies.

eta: crap. I was going to go pip from my phone but I forgot I CAN'T GET LOGGED IN EVER on mobile anymore. @bumpjackie. This sucks!

Anyway, this is supposed to be a HDBD post.

Parent Preference?

Toni79 — Sat, 19 Oct 2013 14:48:11 +0000

So DD is usually more clingy to me during certain times of the day. Like bedtime, she wants me close by even though DH is getting her ready for bed, etc. I've always just thought it was because I BF before bed, and she was eager for it, and/or was worried if I left the room she wouldn't get to BF. So I would usually stay close by.

DH understood that, and tried to not let it bother him.

But for the past week or so, its gotten really bad. I mean really bad! She'll ask for "dada" all day. She'll look for him in the bedroom, etc. She'll get excited when she hears the garage door open. She's excited when she sees him walk through the door. BUT ... as soon as he approaches her, she flips out!

I've been feeding DD dinner before DH gets home, so when he gets home she's almost done dinner. He'll walk over to give her a kiss, and she screams and bats her arms all around. He'll sit down at the table across from her, and she'll make a kiss face at him. So, he'll get up and go to give her a kiss and she just screams and waves her arms. This will cycle a few times. She's giving very mixed signals. I figured maybe she was trying to do the "all done" sign, so I clean her off and take her out of the highchair. But even then she'll want me to hold her, and not DH. She'll turn away from DH.

Then its bath time. Usually DH takes her up for the bath while I clean up her dinner mess. But recently she flips out if I don't go upstairs with them - arching back, screaming, etc. At first I would go up with them and still let DH undress her, etc. And she was fine. But after a few days of that, now she refuses to let DH undress her, and I have to do it. Same for bath time. I would just sit in there and keep them company while DH bathed her, but last night she started flipping out because I wasn't bathing her (and she LOVES baths). So I ended up just doing most of it.

DH's feeling are super hurt by this. At first he was just annoyed that I was "hovering", but now feels like DD "hates" him and DD won't let him do anything.

And I realized last night that I've probably made the situation worse - by keeping them company in the bath or just being in the same room while he gets her ready for bed. Honestly I thought I was helping distract her. But really she was working her cute toddler manipulation ... fuss to keep mommy in the room ... then fuss until mommy just takes over!

Not only that BUT I've been home with her now for almost 3 weeks (because I was furloughed due to the government shutdown) ... so I'm wondering if that has caused her to be more clingy to me? Or maybe she's going through a clingy stage? She goes back to the sitter's next week, so I'm hoping that will help things a little. And I'm hoping it doesn't make it worse - worried that she might get more clingy to me because she "got used" to being home with me.

Every Monday is Daddy / Daughter day (because I'm at work and DH has off). Since I've been off they haven't had their time. So as much as I don't want to go back to work, I'm hoping their Monday's together will help.

Anyone else deal with this? Suggestions?

Weird question (NBR)

mmknightly — Wed, 23 Oct 2013 14:40:08 +0000

This is going to be a weird question and possibly leads to my own body issues. How do I get past the feeling that if I don't work out, I haven't "earned" my food? I don't starve myself or anything; I just feel super guilty if I go a whole day without working out. On a related note, is it healthy to step on the scale everyday?

Getting rid of the video monitor at this stage?

Reilly626 — Sat, 19 Oct 2013 19:55:39 +0000

Hi all- are you still using monitors? Recently their video monitor broke. Since it broke I've actually slept better bc I'm not staring at it for every sound. My twins sleep in separate rooms upstairs and we sleep downstairs. I can hear them as we don't live in a mansion. The monitor is under warranty so BRU sent us the gift card to replace it. I'm really debating do we need it now at this stage bc I do sleep better or would you recommend us replacing it as they head towards 2 years old? Thoughts?

Nbr: Meds

stlmomma27 — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 02:44:39 +0000

I know some people may not want to answer this, but is there anyone currently taking any kind of antidepressant/anxiety meds? I was taking Celexa a while back and now I have a script for Zoloft. Does anyone take either one of these? Which do you like?

Chicago ladies/midwesterners

RNbock2 — Sun, 20 Oct 2013 23:58:15 +0000

Where are you guys!?

I totally want to have a meet up when I move back! Are there a lot of you? I am giddy excited.....possibly due to the fact that I am two beers deep...andplusalso I am finally going to be back home! Yipeeeee!

Was that too much? Ok, I am calm now

Can we talk ridiculousnesssssssss

CoUnTryBB1 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 16:59:01 +0000

Even if I had unlimited funds I don't realy see the point in a 15 carat diamond ring. One it would look ridiculous on my little hands but I also I just can't imagine wearing that thing . . . obviously talking about the KK ring. Now don't get me wrong if SO and I ever decide to make it legal I want some sparkle but that is just too much.

How many naps?

austenfan919 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 01:05:26 +0000

Sorry if this has been discussed a lot, but I've been away for awhile. How many naps is your LO taking these days?

food strikes and teething

gollywollypog — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 19:53:38 +0000

Does your kid go on a food strike when his teeth are getting ready to come in?

Em has 6 teeth and I'm pretty sure he's teething two more on the bottom. He goes into food strike mode when he's doing this, even for food he typically likes. Thank God we're still bfing or I'm not sure he'd be getting any nutrients. Any words of wisdom?

Twats!

britvahok — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 13:03:01 +0000

Who's a twat in your life!

@Gollywollypog !

rp-chicago-mom — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 23:49:29 +0000

I made that peasant bread you told me about tonight and we literally almost ate one whole loaf. I forced us to stop so I can make it into toast tomorrow but wow, soooo good! I want to try it with some whole grain flour next but the plain white was delicious. Thanks so much for sharing. Oh and the only thing was I wasn't sure if my mixing bowls are oven proof. I make them into double boilers but I didn't want to risk it so I used glass loaf pans instead and it worked just as well, or I imagine so but shorter cooking times.

NBR - Rhubarb

CoUnTryBB1 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 12:52:33 +0000

I have at least two pounds of rhubarb I need to do something with. I have jams already and there are no fresh strawberries around here this time of year. Any suggestions on what else this might pair well with? Recipes?

Why did I buy that: boob edition

NeneCakies — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 03:16:45 +0000

Another week but random day because I do what I want! Today's item(s): Cami secret and Strap Perfect Perhaps you find people struggle to make eye contact due to your heaving bosoms...and then you turn around and your over the shoulder boulder holder straps are showing. For shame! Offending people coming and going, what's a boobalicious girl to do? Cover that shit up, that's what. Cami Secret snaps around your bra straps in front, preventing pervy bosses from gaping at your poorly chosen v-neck shirt from Elvira R Us. A fake undershirt basically, for the layering challenged. But wait there's more! Strap Perfect clips to your bra in back, keeping those tacky straps from playing peek a boo and advertising that you have boobs and wear a bra. Ok, maybe they are on to something with this one. If you don't mind a slight hump on your back, and have limber arm joints to attach it, the thing does work. But with this much hardware stuck to your upper body, you will hate being a girl. Verdict: Get a real cami. Trap your straps if you want. Just pamper your boobs. Soooo, I don't usually rock the low cut shirts but my sis thought I could use modesty panels for Christmas anyway. I'm not a nun so Cami Secret is at the bottom of my bra drawer. I bought the Strap Perfect for myself; it's cheaper than a convertible bra contraption from VS. I use it a lot in the summer with tanks. What's your glamour secret weapon??

First real boo boo :(

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Tue, 22 Oct 2013 01:08:01 +0000

I know many kiddos on here have already taken pretty bad spills resulting in golf ball size lumps on their heads, but we've been lucky, as clumsy as this kid is. Tonight he knocked his head right on the corner of the door jam, almost breaking through the skin. Cue instant swelling and bruising and a freaking out DH and mommy.

We have already had him go to sleep and woke him up, he was fine. Had him play for a bit, walk around, he was smiling and laughing, and still had all his coordination like normal. He had a snack and his sippy and then I put him to bed. All the while we tried to ice it as much as we could. So I think he's fine but anyone want to take bets on how many times I'm going to check on him tonight?

Reassurance please!

Bottles

AmySmolos — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 00:28:21 +0000

Does anyone else still use them it am I alone? DS gets a nighttime bottle still and a morning one. I'm trying to break the morning but it's hat because he totally relates the bottle with cuddles an mommy time. He strokes my hair and holds my hand...it's adorable. I've tried a sippy but he doesn't drink and fusses for a bottle. I know he wants the cuddles and bond more than anything. Any ideas?

Flame-free Sunday confession

piphigirl — Sun, 20 Oct 2013 11:08:27 +0000

I ordered a leash for my kid yesterday: https://www.amazon.com/BRICA-By-My-Side-Safety-Harness-Backpack/dp/B00B7M7BMA/ref=pd_cp_ba_3

I feel 100% awesome about this decision. She likes to walk everywhere and I want to let her. Also, I think she will love packing things in the little backpack.

Anyone else using or planning to buy a safety harness?

miss you all!

Andreabks — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 19:24:15 +0000

i can't remember the last time i was on here. i've been so busy chasing DD around the house that i just don't have much time to get online anymore. i miss talking with you ladies and bouncing things off other people.

hope you've all been doing well! but as DD is finished with her lunch I'd better run again. wishing you all a happy Monday!

s/o hair

brandyleighxx — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 14:15:03 +0000

Anyone else have a bald toddler? It doesn't help that DS has a ginormous head and white-blonde hair. I feel like it makes him look more infant like (especially since he isn't walking) rather than a toddler.

Words (Follow Up)

sadeathe — Mon, 21 Oct 2013 02:02:50 +0000

Albert only says three intelligible words: mama, dada, and yeah. Sometimes he uses yeah in context, other times, not so much. He babbles a lot, but really I'm not hearing words. Anyone else's toddler not really speaking. I'm starting to get a little worried.

Thanks!

Bump Memories

AmySmolos — Thu, 17 Oct 2013 01:49:36 +0000

I've been around since December 2011 even though I was a dirty lurker most of the time. I posted rarely most because my old phone didn't let me post and I'm never on a computer (thus all the typos!). But I was thinking about old bump memories and then I saw the post about words that stuck from other bumpies. So, what fond or not-so-fond memories do you have? Mine are mostly drama related like the teen mom on the board and the book exchange drama and the corporal punishment debates, and all the outlash at k3pink early on and then respect that she at least stands her ground and takes the comments and keeps coming back. I also remember the one poster who had her baby first and rather premature (was it May?). And then all the other births, mucus plug posts, newborn posts, CIO posts, etc. Anyone else care to share?

Nbr-shopping!!

RNbock2 — Sat, 19 Oct 2013 23:48:23 +0000

Where is your favorite place to shop...wait for it......for yourself!? I like the loft. Mainly bc I can fit into the petite's, and I live in a small town with no other shopping right now. When I was back in Chicago, I loved nordstrom, White House black market, and Banana republic. I have a very hard body to fit, and I have to get most everything altered. Ughhh!

T&P please - baby #2 measuring behind

abbyful — Fri, 18 Oct 2013 12:58:18 +0000

Had my 1st ultrasound yesterday and both baby & sac are measuring 6 weeks. Baby has a heartbeat, I think it was in the high 90s but I don't remember exactly. Problem is, I should be 7.5 weeks. I know when I ovulated because I was using OPKs and doing a half-hearted attempt at charting. ( https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/370c26 ). There's no way I'm only 6 weeks, I got the positive test September 19. I go back in 2 weeks for another ultrasound. From what I've been reading online, it seems a 50-50 chance.

Any idea what this could be?

AmySmolos — Sun, 20 Oct 2013 17:21:01 +0000

My DS has a pink ring around his shin. Two of them actually close together. At first I thought it was an indention from his socks (thats what it looks like) but it's not and it's been about two weeks since I first noticed it. I though maybe it was a scratch too from walking around outside but its not. Its not raised, bumpy, or seems to bother him. It really just looks like an indention from a sock. Any ideas as to what this could be? It almost goes all the way around his leg. Thanks.