August 2012 Moms — The Bump

point of no return

Toni79 — Sat, 16 Nov 2013 23:51:37 +0000

So its 6:45 pm. Dd usually goes down for her afternoon nap around 2:30/3:00 and is up around 4. Today was a crazy busy stimulating day ... family photos with lots of exploring outdoors and lunch out at Olive Garden being on her best behavior! Anyway she didn't go down for her nap until 4:15. She was out! I figured she'd sleep about an hour. I laid down on the couch and accidently fell asleep myself. I just woke and she's still asleep. She's been asleep for 2.5 hours! I'm torn. Her bedtime is 8 pm. At this point I'm afraid if I wake her she's not going to want to go back to bed in 1 hr 15 mins. I'd literally wake her to feed her and start our evening routine! If I hadn't fallen asleep myself I probably would have woke her at 5:15. And she would of had about 3 hours of awake time before bed. She did have her 15 month shots a few days ago (Monday) and although has napped well at the sitters, I haven't given her the chance to go to bed early this week. I've got a feeling no matter what I decide I'll regret later tonight! If I get her up I might not be able to get her to go back down. But if I let her sleep she might wake up at 10 pm or 3 am and be wide awake. WWYD? Sorry so long! And sorry for spelling - its tricky from the phone.

Sunday Randoms and a gif

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Sun, 17 Nov 2013 15:24:26 +0000

We are going out to visit my little sister at college and celebrate her birthday. It's kind of crummy out, but I'm kind of hoping it will stay that way so I can put T in his new winter coat to walk around campus. It is the cutest!

Oh and I'm totally hoping I have time to go out and buy a leash for him before we go, because I like for him to walk around and trying to hold a squirmy toddler's hand is tough enough, add to it some puppy mittens on those squirmy hands and forget it! Flame away.

Also, I made this chocolate chip cookie dough dip

The other day for a movie night at a friend's house, and I totally had the leftovers in between two Eggos yesterday morning, and I'm still feeling guilty about it but it is soooo good!

And one more random. Good morning!

Fluoride drops?

brandyleighxx — Fri, 15 Nov 2013 18:34:24 +0000

At Logan's 12 mo check up, I received a kit to test our water for fluoride. I just received the results, no fluoride, so his doctor recommends giving fluoride drops. I'm waiting on a nurse to call me back to explain, but I don't understand why he needs it? I understand what fluoride is but how important is it? Anyone else giving drops?

Dress my baby

binklesss — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 18:20:56 +0000

Got some time to kill? Help me find a Christmas dress for DD... what's the cutest one you've seen?

Stranger comments

amaite — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 20:13:44 +0000

Last week ds waved to and said hi to a man on the subway. The man said hi and then said, "what is he, 6 months?". Today a woman in the supermarket asked if he is a newborn.

Head banging and squinting?

stlmomma27 — Sat, 16 Nov 2013 19:58:36 +0000

So, I have asked this before and wanted to see if anyone is still experiencing this too.

Ds likes to randomly hit his head on things, the floor when he's mad, pretty much anything his head touches. He'll do it and then look at us. I am guessing he's doing it for attention, but it concerns me.

Also, I've noticed lately that he is squinting. Anyone else seen this?

Why does everything always point to Autism?

Who's with me?

stlmomma27 — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 17:54:30 +0000

I can't believe that next month is when I conceived ds, one year ago!! I have been having major baby fever and trying to talk dh into it is frustrating! I want our kids to be close in age, I never got to experience that...my sister and I are 5 years apart. Maybe I can convince him!

Who else is wanting to get pregnant?

Ladies, does any of this sound like you?

Msbean22 — Sat, 16 Nov 2013 14:51:30 +0000

https://thoughtcatalog.com/chelsea-fagan/2013/10/27-bizarre-things-that-all-women-have-done-at-least-once/

Almost all of these are me...I've never done 19, but it certainly makes me think twice about shaking hands with other women

Independent toddler?

stlmomma27 — Sat, 16 Nov 2013 13:41:58 +0000

My ds is a pretty independent toddler. He could care less when it comes to interacting and playing with other toddlers. Everyone says it is good that he is so independent. He loves to do his own thing, most of the time. He is at home with me all day and maybe a couple times a week, we go over to my sisters house or someplace. She has a 2.5 year old (boy), 4.5 year old (girl) and 9 year old (girl). Her neighbor has a little girl that is 2 months older than my son, she seems to be the same way.

Anyone else have a pretty independent toddler right now?

Do you parents ever forget?

AmySmolos — Fri, 15 Nov 2013 01:46:45 +0000

I swear my parents forget what toddlers are like. They swear my brother and I were perfect angels who never whined or threw fits! My dad is especially funny. He was telling me this morning about my ds climbing on the couches and standing up on them and how he shouldn't do that. He was saying soon he will be running on them and then he will fall and start whining. I kindly reminded him that he and my mom allowed my brother and I to do flips over the back of the couches which resulted in my brother busting his head open! Oh how they forget what it's like:)

UO!!

rp-chicago-mom — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 12:29:27 +0000

Lettemmmmmmm ROLLLLLLLLL!!'!!!!!!!!!,!1!!!!!'!!!

Knock knock! (PIP)

PhillyGal34 — Fri, 15 Nov 2013 16:45:13 +0000

Long time no see... I barely come on anymore but I have lurked a bit. I just wanted to stop in and let you know how one of the oldest A12's is doing!

E is a total crazy kid! Walking, talking, tiring mom out! He's caught up on everything as far as milestones go and he is amazing! He is 17 months old now and keeping up with his older cousins.

I posted some pics in this link over on the preemie board if you want to see my handsome guy!!!! (totally worth the extra click haha)
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12162270/total-aw-pip#latest

I hope everyone is doing well. I cannot believe how many of you have another kid or are KTFU! We are waiting a bit longer in case we have another preemie but I have totally baby fever reading your posts!!!!

Daycare Moms

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 16:56:43 +0000

Do you have to pack a lunch for LO? At our old daycare, meals were provided and it was awesome. But the new daycare he will be attending since our move does not provide food, except for a morning and afternoon snack. So I have to buck up and start making his lunch as well as my own.

How do you do it? Pack the whole week at once? Just pack leftovers? Do you have any kind of lunchbox gadgets you can't live without? And what are some of your best lunches for LO?

Real or Fake

britvahok — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:20:13 +0000

I'm trying to decide if we should get a real or fake tree this year. It's our first Christmas in our new home and I've never had a real tree. But with DS and a crazy dog, I'm starting to think that having a real tree would be more of a hassle. What are you getting real or fake?? Why???

Starbucks Buy 1 Get 1

britvahok — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 18:11:43 +0000

https://www.starbucksholidayjoy.com/?promo_id=3

how have your LOs surprised you lately?

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 17:07:04 +0000

We haven't done one of these threads in a while. Share your LO's new tricks!

T recently started patting his diaper when I asked him where his diaper is. But yesterday, he walked over to me while patting his diaper because he had pooped and wanted to be changed!

And the other day, we were looking at our word book, and I asked him, "Where is the doggie? Can you show mommy the doggie in the book?" and he pointed to the dog! It was awesome.

LO's starting to be afraid?

vic8504 — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 02:40:55 +0000

So DD has started a new phase it seems...she is starting to be afraid of things. I didn't notice it until Sunday night, we were all watching America's Funniest Home Video's and they started showing clips with mascots....DD started crying like she slammed her finger in a door or something! Just totally freaked out and whenever I would try to hug her and turn her away from the TV she would struggle with me to try and see the TV still.
This has now turned into freaking out while watching Sesame Street today when some of the monster ones came on and put a butterfly net over one of the peoples heads. I mean she always used to be afraid when the mail man came up to the house but she is over that now. Maybe time to tell my mom to limit TV time more during the day.
Has anyone else noticed their LO's starting this phase? My sister wants to take all the kids to see Santa this year, I think that might turn into an interesting afternoon now!

HDBD

britvahok — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:00:48 +0000

Let's see those toddlers!!

Chicken pox

Msbean22 — Thu, 14 Nov 2013 02:09:39 +0000

We had them for about 24 hours.

Evie had her vaccine a week and a half ago, and Monday night she was covered in red dots. Not raised or irritated, just bright red spots. Someone on Facebook had asked if her throat seemed sore or if she had had a runny nose, and I said no then - however when I thought about it, she had been sniffly the day before, and her head had felt warm to me. But she was in good spirits, although she did have a few bouts of atypical fussiness.

Anyway, seemed to be a reaction the vaccine, and since I caught it (despite that I had chicken pox in grade two,) it was obviously still contagious. Her doctor agreed. It's a great thing that she didn't get very sick, and now quite likely she never will because of the vaccine, but that doesn't really help when you consider that we had her out in public at a store and in a restaurant.

I'm worried we single-handedly started a case of chicken pox in our town

Need help weaning!

AprilAngie — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 04:41:37 +0000

I can't nurse for one more day!!! I haven't slept in WeEKs! Nights become an all night nurse feast and yes she is nursing! It's like when she was a NB! I'm going nuts! She is 15 m old. Doesn't take to bottle will only sip from it. No soother!!!! I'm over BF! I need sleep. She crys all night "mama". I tried last week cold turkey! I'm desperate and pleading for advice tia

Speaking of Xmas lists - what about for husbands/SOs?

sdlaura — Thu, 07 Nov 2013 19:57:06 +0000

I can't come up with anything this year. DH has been wanting an extra freezer or fridge/freezer for the garage, but that is so boring.

Last year I got him a Sonos Play 3 wireless speaker which was a huge hit and we use it all the time.

What are you getting your husbands/partners? Especially if you typically do some kind of big/fun gift?

Is it over? XP from mc

abbyful — Wed, 13 Nov 2013 01:39:21 +0000

I'm impatient waiting for answers on the mc board, especially since today was my 2nd day of a new job, I really want to know what to expect in the next few days to try to be somewhat prepared. And unfortunately I know a lot of our Aug12 moms have been through this before. (THANK GOD this didn't start really getting into it until I got home.) Thanks in advance for any insight!

Copy/paste of my post:

On Halloween, we found out there was no more heartbeat (should have been 9.5 weeks). A few days later, I started spotting and light bleeding. The past couple days I've had a little more bleeding. Today in the afternoon, I started having light cramps/contractions and passing clots. By the time I got home, they were getting pretty bad, and turned into how I felt when we were checking into the hospital to give birth to my son. They got fairly intense, I did a lot of rocking back and forth, tapping on stuff, etc. to deal with them. Had lots of big clots. I was starting to regret my decision to wait for nature to take it's course because it was getting quite uncomfortable.

Then finally, I think it was the placenta that came out. (TMI, it looked really nasty.) Cramps and contractions suddenly stopped.

So is it over with? I expect I'll have a little more bleeding for a few days, but is "the event" over?

Slippers

Maizey06 — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 19:28:05 +0000

Anyone find any good slippers for your LOs?

We usually have DD barefoot but now that the weather is cooler and we have hardwood floors I want to get her slippers. I got her some Circo slippers at Target but they keep slipping off.

What would you do...

NeneCakies — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 19:07:38 +0000

...if you were asked to do a short Game of Thrones skit as khal drogo and the khaleesi?! And write in a toddler who was not cursed? I have to do this (along with other family members as other GoT characters) for a birthday video. It's what we do and I'm all for it - last year we did a spoof on Les Mis- but I just don't know how to script this. Any suggestions?

T&P for my grandma please - update: it's over

abbyful — Tue, 29 Oct 2013 00:49:51 +0000

My grandma was just diagnosed today with ovarian cancer and bone cancer, and something is going on with her liver they are testing tomorrow and suspect it's liver cancer. She's 84. She also has diabetes and a pacemaker, so she may not be strong enough for treatments, and when I talked to her today even if she's offered the treatments she may say no because she doesn't want to go through chemo and radiation.

UPDATE: My mom called about an hour ago to tell me she passed away. Now I'm laying in bed exhausted but can't sleep. I'm going out tomorrow (6 hr drive), part of me is sad she passed before I got there, part of me is happy she's no longer in pain. I'm glad I got to talk to her yesterday, she could barely say anything more than "I love you" and she sounded absolutely horrible.

Twats?

AmySmolos — Tue, 12 Nov 2013 16:32:52 +0000

Is this a further sign of our board dying??? What am I going to read when I'm procrastinating at work if not the bump? Who's a twat? For me it's a stupid driver I get behind some mornings. He doesn't like to brake so he goes so slow as soon as he sees a stop ahead. It's awful. And now he's taken to turning right at traffic lights to swing a u turn to then turn right all to not stop and stay straight! He makes my blood pressure rise.

Recipes

CrazyDaisy8 — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 21:44:28 +0000

Where do you find yours? I am in a cooking rut and need new ideas or options.

Moms who have moved with LO

fastcarsandfreedom3319 — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 16:51:54 +0000

Please help! After our big move from AZ to CT, I am looking for a new pediatrician, and I am not exaggerating when I say that I have called like 10 places and no one is accepting new patients except for newborns! Oh, and all the staff in every doctor's office in CT is super extra rude this lovely Monday morning. Fun times.

How did you do it?

sometimes being a mom sucks. UPDATE

gollywollypog — Sat, 09 Nov 2013 13:37:43 +0000

Today is H's grandmas funeral 2.5 hours away. Last night I set out all our funeral clothes, packed a bag with a change of clothes, snacks, etc. My mom was going to come with us to take care of Emery while the service was being held, then we were going to stay in that town for the better part of the day to visit with family and see the family estate and farm (where Grandma was born and raised, not where she's lived for the entire time I've known her). We were supposed to leave half an hour ago. Instead, H left without me and I get to stay home with the kids because Joaquin projectile vomited all over the hallway and bathroom at 2 am last night.

I desperately needed the closure of this funeral but I'm not going to get that. This sucks hard.

I also had horrifying nightmares last night about death and apocalyptic type stuff.

I guess this is turning into a vent. Last year around this time I sunk into a depression and it was triggered by the 4 month pp period and the Newtown shooting. I couldn't even enjoy the holidays last year. I keep thinking about the Newtown shooting lately and I'm scared I'm going to fall into a depression again. I don't really have a history of depression but there is a sordid family history with it, including suicide and alcoholism, so it's always kind of following me around and I know it's there to be had, you know?

I'm not being fulfilled by my H and I'm feeling emotionally betrayed by him in a lot of ways. I hope putting all of this out here will be a sort of release to help me work through this stuff. Any words of wisdom are appreciated. I know I need counseling, I tend to bottle stuff up and I know I need an outlet to work through my issues as they come up. Easier said then done, right? If it was easy I'd be in counseling right now.

I'll end my rambling there. Thanks for listening guys.

**UPDATE**

Can I just say first I love you guys? Really, sometimes the thing you need most is a listening ear and a I've been there and you are not alone. Thank you so much for that.

So H came home this evening and we were able to really talk on a deep level for the first time in a really long time. I was able to get a lot of things off my chest and he was able to listen and really understand what I meant. I am feeling hopeful. We have a lot that we need to work through and I'm going to find a counselor this week to see, just me, because my way of trying to maintain a healthy relationship with my husband is not working. I need help figuring that out, and that's okay.

I'm still really sad I had to miss the funeral and there's still a lot to work through there, but I feel like if my H and I are on more solid ground right now after this "come to Jesus" talk, the rest will follow much more smoothly.

You guys are the best.

Who's still on bottles?

shakinros — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 14:43:21 +0000

Perhaps this should be my FFFC but DD still has two bottles a day: one first thing in the morning (or like today, at 5am, then she goes back to sleep) and one at bedtime. Help! How do I get rid of these?

Baby Wearing

allardr — Thu, 19 Sep 2013 15:39:10 +0000

Ok so right now we're just TTC but I was wondering, when I get pregnant can I still wear LO (obviously asking just as long as my belly will let me size wise) I wear her to walk the dogs since strollers & dogs do not work for us. I know you're not supposed to lift heavy things but obviously I'll still be picking up and carrying LO so is baby wearing any different? She's only like 18lbs and it's for no more than half hour increments. Any second time moms have experience with this?

Church

drunkindonuts — Sun, 10 Nov 2013 14:54:18 +0000

...or really any public place. I'm finding it really hard and frustrating to take dd anywhere lately. She's loud, throws food (or anything she has in hand), and just doesn't behave in general. H and I took her to church last night (admittedly the first time in awhile) and it didn't work out AT ALL. People were staring, especially this older women who was actually scowling at me. I can feel her eyes burning into my skin just thinking about it. We needed up walking out before the second reading. :/ our church doesn't have a children's room or nursery or anything like that, that I'm aware of. I think I'm going to call over just to make sure. What do you guys do with church, or eating dinner out? Or is my child the only trainwreck haha

Things I really wish I hadn't taught my kid

alrighthamilton — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 16:36:58 +0000

One is where her eyes are. She is now poking everyone unexpectedly in the eyeballs as the hold her, asking adorably, "eye?" The other is "belly." She has taken to pulling my shirt up, exposing my soft, pasty belly and happily saying, "belly!" She did this the other day when we had people over. She has also started pulling down my and my husband's pants while we are standing. Admittedly, we do wear yoga pants and track pants way too much, but the other day my husband was standing in his boxer briefs after we had awoken, and Kate ran up and pulled them down to his ankles. He just happened to be standing in front of our picture window at the time. Anything you regret teaching them?

Car Seat Expiration Dates

Maizey06 — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 17:15:53 +0000

Anyone have good articles or research they could share about the justification of car seat expiration dates?

My brother and SIL are due with their first baby in April and my brother feels they are made up by the manufacturers to make more money. He said he is not going to comply by it because it is stupid. He is a really smart guy and money is not an issue so I do not understand why he will not follow these guidelines.

Time change

JulieMarie21 — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 03:33:40 +0000

I haven't seen a thread on this recently, but I haven't been online much lately so I'm sorry if this has been overdone. In spring, LO took about a week to get back on her normal schedule, all by her own doing because I was trying to prevent it. Now a week after DST and LO is waking at the ass crack of dawn still and wanting to go to bed really early, despite that her meals and nap times have remained the same. H And I haven't been this exhausted in awhile! How are all the other A12 babes adjusting?

WFD this week?

rp-chicago-mom — Mon, 11 Nov 2013 00:54:12 +0000

SIL is here so we haven't shopped yet but here is my theory on our menu. We usually start on Sunday but since she's here, we ate out tonight.

Mon We want to have a nice at home dinner with SIL since the kids are restauranted out. Stuffed leg of lamb, roasted brussels sprouts, roasted potatoes, chocolate cupcakes with strawberry frosting. They taste like neapolitan ice cream

Tue Lamb tikka masala (sort of) over basmati rice, red pepper shallot curry

Wed Chicken noodle soup, homemade bread

Thu Leftover soup and bread

Fri chicken pot pie (the secret to my chicken broth is to boil more chicken than needed for soup and use the rest in something else)

Sat Out at Nando's. It's a meat filled week, I see. That is not typical. I must be feeling anemic.

Help us choose (PIP)

drunkindonuts — Sun, 10 Nov 2013 16:06:32 +0000

Yep, I never post and this is my second post today. It's snowing/raining and we're all having a lazy day. Our family photos came in yesterday and we're trying to decide on a picture to use for our Christmas cards. What do you guys think?

I hope they aren't huge! Thanks in advance!

KEfam5 - Elfster

MPJR91910 — Thu, 02 May 2013 10:06:33 +0000

I disappeared from TB for a long time, and just now saw your thank you post from back in February! You are so very welcome, and I'm so glad that they made it to you!!

**Edit - Changed title because it looked like I was saying that you were late in sending something, which is not at all what I am trying to say.

WDIBT?!: Haircare

NeneCakies — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 14:48:38 +0000

Today's Item: WEN with special guest, Turbie Twist My hair sucks. Fine, straight, cowlicky, and frizzy all at once. I've tortured my hair with pink foam rollers, a perm, curling irons, flat irons, color, highlights and all types of mousse, hairspray, and serums. Except for one magical year at 29 when it totally behaved, I can usually count on flat dry staticky locks ending up in a ponytail every day. But perhaps I'm wrong and it's not my hair that sucks, it's my shampoo! Yes, yes that's the ticket. Find the holy grail of shampoos and my life, er hair, for hair is not life (or is it?!), will change for-eva! Remember ads for this product? Mezmorizing testimonials! I'm entranced by the possibilities! But I'm a kid with no money. I don't think I've ever tried this stuff personally but friends have debunked its hair healing powers. So the quest continues, and the allure of Wen becomes too much to resist. And hey I'm an adult with money! I didn't order from the site or call the number because they required a subscription and I never trust they will cancel a subscription. I suspect it will be like when Chandler tried to quit the gym! So I order from a distributor on Amazon. Could it have been a knock off? Perhaps. I tried it anyway. I was NOT amazed. You have to use so much product which is crazy to me. It didn't make my hair worse but I certainly did not get smooth bouncy humidity proof hair. My MIL uses it too and her hair is not exactly red carpet ready either. We do have softened well water though which is still hard on hair so maybe it was just too big a challenge for Wen. So now I use cheap Dove shampoo, switching it up every now and then to avoid buildup. Then I wrap my wet head in a Turbie Twist which is a small towel for your head. It is supposed to be super absorbent to cut down drying time and while I haven't really found that to be true, I do like that I don't have to balance a full size towel on my head while applying make up. That's all I have to say about that so it didn't deserve it's own review. Verdict: Wen is a really expensive meh shampoo for me but is actually an excellent shaving cream Your thoughts? Any styling tools out there worth the hype? Please help my stupid head.

Winter gear

jesslovesreg — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 16:25:58 +0000

Yep I'm just a lurker here but I need some advice. As a Texan I have no idea what gear is necessary for little ones in upstate NY winters. So far dd has a fleece hoodie, hat, and mittens, and I'm shopping around for coats and shoes. Can y'all recommend exact brands/types of coats, boots, and anything else you must have to survive up here? We want to play in the snow a few times but mostly we will just be running to and from the car, maybe a few walks in the stroller...