Hey, I'm pretty sure others have does this, but I figured I would post a forum for moms to be that are in their 2nd trimester to vent how they feel, such as labor jitters, family stress, anxiety, pregancy problems and things going wrong. Feed back and comforting is most welcome. PLEASE DO NOT JUDGE, if giving feedback PLEASE GIVE POSITIVE VIBES, PLEASE REFRAIN FROM NASTY REMARKS.
Re: What's bothering you? (NO JUDGING)
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Finally found a solution, sleeping on the futon-- no pain! amazing sleep!- but I want to sleep in my bed with my husband, lol.
BFP 3/30/14. EDD 12/4/14
Jennypolkadots- I think the job offer for your husband sounds like a great opportunity for your family. It may take some adjustments getting used to the new routine but hopefully your husband is still able to go and support you at appts and what not. I really shouldn't complain that my husband doesn't go to mine when in reality he cant. His job doesn't allow personal time off during the work week unless it's life or death. He is off weekends but that isn't helpful for appts. I'm sure if he were able he would come. As for the shower maybe your sister doesn't understand the importance of it to you. Maybe like you said a good phone conversation would be best, that way she can understand where your coming from.
His sister is also pregnant and having a girl, so his whole family has been gushing over them this whole time, which honestly is cool with me...I don't like the attention stuff anyways, but from the start we couldn't be more opposite. Like his mom and sister have to have the best and most expensive everything...you know, like the 400$ crib bedding set, or the 500$ stroller/seat combo with speakers, iPhone connection, cup holders, or 40$ an outfit, the baby spa/jacuzzi tub, etc...and will go on occasional social media rants because no one will buy the stuff from her registry, talking about how selfish everyone is and how no one must care. (Really?!) We have four months to go and the only thing we will need is little stuff and a car seat come baby time because we are cool with hand me downs and things (it's all going to be thrown up, pooped, and peed on anyways, right?!) so everyone on my side has just been passing so much along. What gets me though is his mom...doesn't work. His sister and her husband...don't work. They mooch off everyone. But we both have been working, and plan to keep working because we know we have a baby who needs us.
His mom and two small kids she is raising were living with us up until a couple months ago when she took off for a weekend to visit friends, and they never came back, and decided they were just going to live there now. We had to move all their stuff out ourselves, paying for the uhaul and everything, plus cover their share of the bills. Did I mention how bad they trashed the house before they left, and that she abandoned three of their pets here with us? She had been posting online all these things she was buying his sister's baby, even when she lived here, and wanted nothing to do with our baby, but then she couldn't get food or gas for her and the two kids, so we would have to give her money. Then she would tell his sister about how worthless and useless I am, how I never did anything around the house or paid for anything, and how I had been using everyone the whole time. His sister would then start all kinds of arguments and issues, and it all got so bad at one point, I almost left. Even now, his sister and her husband still try to create issues.
We both just switched to better jobs, making better money, better hours, and benefits which is great, and now we finally have the place to ourselves. Things with us couldn't be better! Now, she's started suddenly, out of nowhere after five months, taking an interest in our baby, hoping we will give her more money and everything. So, now I've gotten where I dread when she calls at all, and I get really upset over every little thing, even if she's just asking about the baby. She's always wanting ultrasound pictures so she can share them on Facebook, or she's bragging about things she's bought the baby, but asking us for money behind the scenes. All to get social media attention. Now, the big push is she hates the middle name because that was one of her ex boyfriend's names like 20 years ago, and she WILL NOT call the baby its name. I'm trying desperately to respect that she's his mom, but I've had all I can t
You're going to call your sister and tell her that you're upset she won't plan and gift you a shower (they're to welcome you to motherhood, FYI). I'd wait a couple of days before doing something like that because it will come off very greedy.