Today at the mall I ran into my ex's friend. We were chit chatting and I said how I just had a baby. She tells me my ex had twins and him and the mother have a rocky relationship (no longer together). Those poor kids. Thank god I was smart about bc. I could not imagine if that had been me.
I really do believe everything happens for a reason. I never had an ex that I thought was worthy of being the father of my children. I would not even discuss marriage or having kids with any of them. When I met DH my whole outlook changed. My exes are still the same old lazy POS that they always were. I hear it all the time from people who know them. I am thankful and blessed that I have what I have. Could have been a nightmare.
As they say, "The most important choice a person makes is whom they reproduce with." B/c with marriage you can always divorce, roommates can move, boyfriends can leave, but when you genetically tie yourself to someone... you are tied with them for f-ing life.
Re: Holy crap, that could have been me.
OMG. I think this all the time when I hear about ex's lives.
I was engaged twice before DH, both times to schmucks... and they both knocked up the first girl they met when I left !! CLOSE calls. Lol.