getting "passed around" at holiday functions

far_more_than_rubies · December 2008

DH's giant (30+ people) family Christmas is next Saturday and I have to go alone because he is working. Many of the women in his family (including MIL) fight tol hold DS whenever we see them. DS is a very easy going baby, but I can just tell that he hates being passed around. What are your tips/best lines for avoiding this at such a function?

Mrs-J · December 2008

I would just tell everyone that it's too much excitement for your DS and you would rather be the one holding him.

copaceticcrack · December 2008

I don't think there really IS anything you can say. DS normally falls asleep in the middle of being passed around and I enjoy the break!

BecauseICan · December 2008

^ or put him in a sling/bjorn.

BecauseICan · December 2008

copaceticcrack:
I don't think there really IS anything you can say. DS normally falls asleep in the middle of being passed around and I enjoy the break!

Of course there is. You say 'no'. If he doesn't handle it well, she needs to speak up. They aren't going home with her DS, she is. DH and I have a 'no pass the baby' rule for the holidays--and it goes for both sets of families, so there is no playing favorites, and no crabby baby at home in the middle of the night.

chalmette · December 2008

Can you wear him in a sling or wrap?

Pacheco825 · December 2008

You can jsut be like I miss my baby and then take him for a little bit. Or be like oh its time to feed him I am going to go to a quiet place. Thats what I do when I want my DS back

LucyPevensie · December 2008

you could say "he hates being passed around."

septbaby2008 · December 2008

I totally agree with Becauseican....you have to deal with the baby early in the morning and thru out the night...

kje1977 · December 2008

I agree with "wearing" the baby in a sling or a Bjorn. Or, you could always say you're holding onto the baby because you're worried about cold + flu season. We got lucky at Thanksgiving--DS fell asleep in his carseat on the way there, and we were able to just carry him around in his seat. If anyone asked to hold him, we just said we didn't want to wake him.