popping back for some WWYD advice on #2
PhillyGal34
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As most of you know, E was due on 8/5 but was born at 31 weeks. it was scary to say the least. Soon after DH said he didn't want any more kids because it was all so scary for him. He's come around and agreed that he wants another child.
I have my yearly appt today. I am going to talk to the head of our high risk about what our chances of another preemie are and if anything can be done to lessen them. DH misunderstood and thought I was getting my mirena out and I just got an email saying " OK does this mean we can start trying for another soon??" apparently he is super excited to try again.
Here is the issue. There is a chance we will have another preemie... a good chance. Knowing that I would like to try for a summer baby so that even if they are early they will be born in the spring and not in the flu/RSV season. We got pregnant the first month we tried last time and we may not be that lucky this time but I'm hopeful that it will not take long and even if it is a few months we will still be ok time wise. I KNOW that we cannot plan everything but I need to try for my own sanity!
So my questions are:
1. if you got pregnant quickly the first time, was it the same the next time?
2. if your DH was ready before you, how did you find a happy medium or get him to agree to wait?
I can't talk to many friends IRL because we don't want anyone to know when we may be trying again. I don't want that pressure.
ETA- I still lurk here but don't get on the bump a lot these days. I'm working 60-70 hours a week, have E and everything else in our lives... so I try to pop in but don't get to often... I didn't bail though!
Re: popping back for some WWYD advice on #2
When my SIL was pregnant with her first, she had a lot of problems. She had a miserable pregnancy from the start, then got Pre E, and we almost lost her because of HELLP syndrome. My nephew was very premature. He's now 5 or 6 , he's a small guy, and has lots of allergies. Otherwise, he's a healthy, very normal kid.
Her 2nd and 3rd pregnancies were fine. She just had to keep an eye on her blood pressure , and go on bed rest a little earlier. I'm pretty sure the other 2 were full term.
My point is, not every pregnancy is the same.
Understandably she was gun shy when it came to having another baby. She got pregnant the first month of trying and had a healthy baby boy at 37 weeks. She had a great team of doctors the first time around. She was also able to meet with her primary doctor for her second pregnancy who reassured her that all was well for that pregnancy.
I totally realize that everyone is unique but hopefully your second will be uneventful!
If you're not on the same page yet with your h I would definitely talk it out and reassure him that you do want another but maybe meet in the middle time wise?
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEEEEN?????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AND YOU TOO, PHILLY!!!!!!
I feel all warm and reconnected. I hope both of you have been doing well. Stick around!
SCANDAL!
3 kids home for the summer
I've been lurking but it's been so long since I've posted I feel weird jumping back in.
Dh and I are going to talk about it after the little guy goes to bed. I know he will end up being ok with waiting because we won try until we are both ready and it's only 10 more months so it's not forever!!
Thanks ladies!
Bbj I'll try to step out of lurking more often. I don't even know half the people on here anymore!!