Close friends, who have struggled with infertility, are pregnant. We've known this since right before we lost our babies (they told us privately that IVF worked) but they just announced on facebook, so now the world knows.
I'm not sure if I'm having a difficult time handling that they're pregnant or if it's the way they announced. They had a picture that says "And then there were three"...and I know that that means the two of them and their baby, but for a moment I thought "they're having triplets?!?!?!" And I got very sad and angry - WE were having triplets - not them! Even though that isn't what they're saying, I was still hurt!
I know I shouldn't feel this way - I don't WANT to feel this way - but I don't know how to be happy for them right now...
On the positive side, I've finally called a therapist today. Thanks for letting me vent...
Re: How to deal with pregnant friends...
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Big hugs sweetie. Finding out others are pregnant, regardless of the situation is difficult. It's ok to not be happy for them now. It's definitely scary when you start having thoughts you normally wouldn't have but when it comes down to it, you have to do what's best for you and there's no rule that says you have to be happy for anyone.
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I think we have all been in your place...and I for one still struggle with this A LOT. One of DH's friends and his wife had an etopic when we lost bunny so we kind of all grieved together...they also had a lot of trouble getting pregnant in the first place...they called last week to tell us that they were pregnant and due when my most recent loss would be due. UGHHH....needless to say I ugly cried for about 2 hours in the dark. I hate not being happy for people but it just makes me want to scream. I guess when it comes down to it I just don't understand why our good news hasn't happened yet.
Good for you on calling a therapist...mine has helped me sooooo much.
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Thanks, ladies. And sorry for posting about a topic that has already been posted about so much - just needed a place to vent.
It's just so hard because I WANT to be happy for them. I also want to be happy for my cousin who just had her twins that while they came early, are doing fine! (we were pregnant together and due around the same time...) but I think I'm going to have to take them off my newsfeed on facebook because I'm not sure I can stand the constant updates on the babies and the pregnancy.
So I'm not crazy/the only one if I block their posts!
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