I've been fortunate enough to have a mom and MIL who have watched him all the way up till he's almost six months but I can't expect them to keep doing it. MIL works at a school for MRDD kids and she goes back at the end of August. She's hoping to retire in December but that's up in the air. My mom says it's too much to watch him five days a week which I completely understand. My grandfather passed away in March so she's also taking care of my grandmother.
So that leaves me looking for child care. I want to cry. I don't like the idea of leaving him with complete strangers. I feel like a crappy mom because I can't stay home with him We absolutely need both our incomes because (long story short: my husband screwed up his mom's credit from when he went to college so he has to buy her a condo in our name when she retires - she will be making the payments. She just doesn't have the credit so it has to be in our name).
Also did I mention my car is about to take a s hit? Insert tears here.
I guess this is just a vent because there's really no good advice for this
Re: Looks like he's going to day care :(
Sorry didn't mean to insinuate one is a bad mom for choosing to work. I'm just overwhelmed right now.
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
I will check into something like that. Thanks!
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
I'm going to agree with PP who says that sending their kids to daycare makes them a crappy mom is a pet peeve. My kid is in daycare. I am NOT a crappy mom.
While part of me wanted to be able to stay home and take care of DD, it wasn't realistic for our family. DD has been in daycare for almost two months now. At the end of the day, she's well taken care of, she's happy, and I feel like she gets way better care than she would have with family watching her. Our family isn't near by, so it was never an option, but either of our parents would more likely have the TV on all day and interact almost minimally with her. At daycare, there's so much going on, and someone is ALWAYS interacting with the kids. At the end of the day, I feel like this is a MUCH better option.
Maybe try switching your mindset. It's not the end of the world. Spend some time making sure your DCP is a great fit and that you KNOW he's in a great environment and getting the next best thing to being with mom.
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
Please do not view my post as taking a dump on working moms. I've got mad respect for us working mommys. It ain't easy.
DS born: February 2013
TTC #2: Nov. 14
Chemical pregnancy 09/16/15
BFP: 12/25/15 EDD: 09/04/16
This. When I was 6 months old my mom found a SAHM who watched other children in her home. She had a daughter 2.5 years older to me, and they became my second family. Even though she went back to work when my brother (2 years younger than me) went to kindergarten, we are great friends with the family to this day. I consider her daughter to be my sister.
On the flip side, during the summers after that woman went back to work my parents tried other in-home providers and none of them were as fantastic. I think it's important to really take your time in choosing someone and make sure they're a great fit no matter what route (in-home or daycare) you choose to do. If you do in-home, please make sure they are licensed. As in - ask to see their license.
BFP1: DD1 born April 2011 at 34w1d via unplanned c/s due to HELLP, DVT 1 week PP
BFP3: DD2 born Feb 2013 at 38w4d via unplanned RCS due to uterine dehiscence
I feel you, momma. It was very hard to cope with the idea of sending my DS to daycare too, even though I knew there was really no other option. I kept holding on to hope that we would figure something out, but it's just not in the cards for us right now.
I'm sure he will do great. We started my DS last month, and he's too young for separation anxiety, so he is happy as a clam even without mommy and daddy!