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Wwyd???
I live a state over from my family. I like to visit but where I stay at families house my grandma smokes inside. When I come to visit she smokes in the garage and airs out the house 2 days before with fans and windows open. I really hate the smoke but its for 4 days and nights. Would you still go with 2 kids? My dd is going to be 11 weeks when I go. Ds is 2. I love going and they're so great to me and my kiddos. I just feel bad about second hand smoke. I've gone 4 times since ds was born but never when he was this small. Tia
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Re: Wwyd???
Same here. What about a hotel, would that hurt her feelings?
I could not stomach the stale smoke. I can even tell when I am in a hotel room that used to be a smoking room. Can you make up an allergy or something and just stay in a hotel so it doesn't hurt her feelings?
There's no one else's house to stay at?
I'm sorry, that's frustrating, it sounds like you really want to go and seeing everyone would be fun for you....
With an 11-week old, no, I would not stay with a smoker. Studies have shown the dangers of second- and third-hand smoke, and airing out the house two days before arrival is just not enough to protect your LO.
I come from a family of smokers, so I sympathize with how difficult this conversation is. Tell your family that the pediatrician has advised you to avoid second- and third-hand smoke around your children, and send them a link with more information. If you make your pediatrician the bad guy, it helps the decision seem like less of a personal judgement.
Two days is nowhere near enough and I wouldn't be able to stand the smell. Just rent a hotel room.
SCANDAL!
I agree.
Thirdhand smoke is a big problem too. It's in the walls, curtains, bed sheets, towels. Not only could I not stomach it, but it's just plain bad for you and everyone else. And I say this as a former smoker.
https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/third-hand-smoke/AN01985
You have a grandmother in her 60s??? Wow! My grandmother would have been 98! Hell, my mother was 67 when she passed away in June. You guys are young!!
I need to sit down in my rocking chair. I feel old.
To answer your question, NO. My son doesn't even visit homes of smokers and when smokers visit us, they dont smoke during their visit.
Second and even third hand smoke can be harmful and it stinks.
Is there another family member you can stay with? Or even split a hotel room with?
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Ok ladies
I talked to my mom and I am going to go her house 3 hours away. If family wants to come they can come visit there. My mom smokes but she is great about it, only after ds goes to bed at night and showers in the morning and changes clothes before ds gets up. So I am going to do that. I want to go to grannys but I just don't feel good about it. I have gone with ds when he was 2 but dd is so little. I don't even like it with ds. So I think I am done doing that. Thank you for the input. My granny would not pay or help pay for a hotel. I forgot my brother has an appt and offered me adn the kids to stay. I may take that route but then still they have big get togethers at grannys. Texas heat is too much to stay outside with the kids all the day while we visit. So we shall see. For now I think my moms is where I will go and hope some will visit.