We told our parents and siblings about the pregnancy today. Because of my job, I have to tell my boss this week, and it's likely that my coworkers will figure out I'm pregnant (I have to switch to different duties because my job is hazardous). Once people at work find out, I can't guarantee that someone won't say something on Facebook...so it made sense to tell them now. We told them this early last time as well (for the same reasons).
My mom's response? "Oh. Well. That's nice." FMIL? "Great." FFIL? "Are you sure this time?" ?!?!?!?
Not the responses we were hoping for.
Our sisters, on the other hand, were both ecstatic.
Anyone else get an underwhelming response when telling family about a pregnancy after a loss?
Re: Underwhelming response?
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They are starting to come around now at 20 weeks!
Hang in there!!!
TTC Since Summer 2011
BFP #1 11/5/11 EDD 7/22/12 MC 11/14/11
PGAL/PAL Always Welcome
-My step-daughter is 12 years old.
-BFP #1 on 9/2/12, D&C 10/18/12 no heartbeat on US @ 10 weeks.
-BFP #2 on 1/7/13, R was born on 9/22/13 via C-Section
BFP #1 4/10/12 D&C 6/5/12@ 12.5wks EDD 12/17/12
BFP #2 9/10/12 CP 9/19/12@ 5.5wks EDD 5/21/13
BFP# 3 12/3/12...Lukas James born 8/15/13
BFP# 4 8/4/14 EDD 4/13/15
M/MC at 9w4d 5/23/12.
DS1- 8/2013
DS2- 11/2015 (Second round IUI)
DD- 9/2017
Baby #4 Due 5/10/20 TEAM GREEN
My FIL could care less. He and his wife live an hour and a half away and he hasn't really ever been there for DH.
BFP #1 12/29/10 EDD 08/29/11 Blighted Ovum 02/09/11 D&C 02/11/11
Clomid 50mg BFP #2 09/21/11 EDD 05/29/11 Chemical Pregnancy 10/4/11
BFP #3 4/19/13 Beta1- 106 Beta2- 524 Beta3- 3500 EDD 12/22/13 LO born 12/31/13
So my mom sent me an e-card (?!?) that said that she IS excited, she just wasn't expecting it so soon after my return from Afghanistan (?!?!) She knew that delaying TTC again because of the deployment was a cause of stress for me, and I've been home over a month....so....yeah.
I think you're right that they are just worried about us suffering another loss. We're worried about that too, but keep reminding ourselves that they are two separate events. But they weren't really terribly supportive or understanding when we were going through the loss in the first place...
And we told them before we had even confirmed at the obs. So it was great.
I do understand that they were hurt my mom drove me to the hospital for my first mc but I think your parents should realize you need support not more doubt. Because we all know we Pgals more then enough doubting.