If you live in the same town or area as your immediate family or extended family- how often do you spend time with them? Once a week? Once a month? Do you plan regular visits or just do random things together when you can?
I live in the same city as my mom, dad, and older brother. DS and I are currently staying with my dad so we see him pretty often, but my mom and brother both live about 20-25 minutes away. They both complain that we don't see each other enough, but honestly a few times a month is plenty for me. I don't mind seeing my dad everyday, because it's usually just a few minutes in the morning. It's important to me that W have a relationship with them, but if I don't set some boundaries they will want to hang out all the time and we won't have any time to ourselves. I'm curious to hear what other families who live close together do.
Re: Question for those who live near family
It's different for us because my parents and ILs switch off watching LO every week.
Prior to children or when I was on maternity leave it was about once a month with ILs and once every week or two with my parents. Although with my parents it was just usually me doing something with my mom like shopping. Else it would be dinner maybe once a month with DH and them.
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My ILs live close (like 10 mins drive). We usually see them weekly.
We live very close to both sides of our family. MIL watches our kids 1 day a week and my mom 1 afternoon a week. Outside of that we see each other usually 1 other time a week. If we dont I usually plan a reason or invite IL's to the park with us or something, sometimes just stop by to say hi. I should add we have a very outspoken toddler who specifically requests them so we really dont have a choice!
We live about 30 minutes from my ILs but we see them about once every month and a half which is plenty for me. We are too busy and with DH's schedule we can't get together often.
We live like 3 hours from my family and they come up about once a month to visit which I love!
We live 3 minutes from my parents and about 10 from my IL's. I see my parents probably every other day with DS. DH works long days now, so it takes a bit of pressure off me and DS can play with his cousins.
We see IL's for sure every Sunday usually for lunch after church and some days in between. DH works on the farm which is located at their house so he sees them probably every day and I go when over once a week to see MIL and bring DS over. DH will bring him over sometimes too and I'll stay home.
We live within 10 miles of both my family and DHs family.
With my family it kind of just happens. Sometimes its so hectic for both of us we see each other like once a month. Sometimes its 2 or 3 times a week.
With DHs family I try to keep it to almost never or nonexistent. It works out to be like once every 6 months, maaaybe.
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