Hello,
My name is Gisa and I'm an early announcer.
I announced as soon as I found out with all three of my pregnancies and every time I see someone side-eye another person for announcing early I get pissed. I am comfortable announcing before 12 weeks and it doesn't make me shitttty or irresponsible. I'm not setting myself up for something bad to happen. There is no shame in announcing early. That may be a UO.
Re: Confessions of an early announcer
DS #2 - 4/2/14
I understand why people wait, I did with my first, but I don't think there is a right or a wrong time to announce. It should be based on your comfort level.
Married 11/27/09 and TTC right away
Dx: Complete septate uterus with cervical duplication, endometrial polyps, PCOS, endometriosis, hypo thyroid, luteal phase defect
4 uterus surgeries to correct my complete septum and to remove polyps and 2 years of seeing the RE, medicated cycles and IUIs
Baby 1 and 2: BFP 3/3/11 with 2 babies EDD 11/1/11, M/C 4/6/11
Baby #3: 8/11 pregnant EDD 4/27/11 and m/c:(
Baby #4: 10/12/11 BFP! EDD 6/16/12m/c 10/26/11
Baby #5: 3/13/12 BFP! EDD 11/25/12 ANOTHER m/c
Baby #6: 2/14/13- BFP! EDD 10/24/13, CP 2/19/13
Baby #7: 3/15/13- BFP! EDD 11/27/13, another CP
Baby #8. BFP 5/19/13 EDD 1/22/14. 8 was not our lucky number
4th septum resection on 5/31/13.
Baby #9: 6/29/13 BFP. C section scheduled for March 5th!
My miracle baby was born March 5 at 9:33am. He was 8 lbs 12.5 oz and 21.25 inches long!
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I am a private person by nature so announcing early doesn't even occur to me but I don't care if others do it. I really don't like attention, no matter how well-intentioned. Having had a prior loss I felt uncomfortable when co-workers I wasn't close to had to know because I was out for several days after surgery so I knew from my own experience I didn't want to announce early with any subsequent pregnancies. I almost felt bad for the male co-workers who were trying to express concern but didn't know what to say, lol.
I do understand the concern some people express to FTMs...just more as a, think it through before you do it, are you sure you will be able to handle "un-telling" everyone if you do have a loss? If you think it will be devastating and you don't want people coming up to you months later asking about your pregnancy because they missed the memo that you had a loss, then maybe wait to tell. If you're comfortable with that, then by all means tell whoever you want! Everyone has different comfort levels.
I don't personally think it's being ashamed about having a loss, it's knowing one's own ability to cope with grief. Some people take it much harder than others. Others are fine being open and honest about everything.
This.
::sits on the early couch::
I, too, announce early. I've told everyone already. And, I've had a 10 week miscarriage before ::shrugs:: I like to tell the world I'm pregnant
When we found out, we couldn't hold it in!! I also enjoy my vino too so people would know something's up.
My DH told everyone, and I was fine with it; seeing him so happy and proud warmed my heart :x
Married my love 6/11/11 | MMC 10/11/11 | Eliza Frances born 9/18/12 | Rhett Garland born 2/24/14
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Kari~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~
There are no wrong answers-this is your baby and I think you should announce the second you want to!
Looks like it started in July...
G born 10/25/12 | H born 3/25/14
TTC#3 since 7/2015
Early loss 12/2015 most likely due to low progesterone
Began medicated cycles (Femara/Ovidrel/Endometrin) with TI 1/2016
BFP 3/22, EDD 12/4/16 ~ It's a GIRL!