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Would this bother you?
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I go back to work in 4 weeks. Today I get a text from a few coworkers, letting me know that my temp has rearranged my entire desk today and put up a bunch of personal things (pictures, etc). Why would she do this 4 weeks before I return? She also told me coworker that she "secretly" hopes I decide to become a SAHM and not come back.
How should I handle this? Should I just ignore it and just put stuff back when I return? It's just frustrating, because the last thing I feel like doing while sorting through a zillion emails and trying to figure out this whole pumping at work thing is also trying to figure out where she's put all my stuff...great.
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Re: Would this bother you?
It's one thing to put up pictures, but to rearrange your desk? That's rude.
However, there is nothing to really "do" about it.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
This.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
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I agree. Honestly, it would bother me a LOT, but objectively there is not anything to be concerned about other than she's rude and a bit nutso.
Seeing as it bothers me if my blinds aren't the same level or if I can tell someone changed something...yes...but that's my OCD.
In all honesty, yes, that is rude. I wouldn't be upset about her comments, because maybe she just likes your job and needs a full time gig...but definitely would about her moving stuff. You know...come in with new pics of your LO and rearrange anyway.
Oh he// no!
Still VERY presumptuous of her to rearrange your stuff, but I wonder if that might be why she now, only 4 weeks out, did this.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Right -- and she may be planning to move them back before OP's return. 4 weeks is still a long time and if she's trying to do a good job, having stuff in the places where it makes sense to her isn't crazy.
Also agree with the PP who said of course she hopes you decide to stay home -- that would mean she gets a permanent job without displacing anyone! Rude would be "I hope they realize I'm doing a better job than OP and let me keep this position and move her to the mail room when she gets back."
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October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Thanks for the perspective everyone. I am annoyed, but like most everyone said, I'll just bring back my pictures and make it my own space again. I am nervous that I won't be able to find the crap she moved around, but I guess in time it will get back to where it belongs. I work for a major micro manager that is really serious about deadlines and whatnot- so I'm concerned that not having my "system" in place is going to make efficiency difficult, but hopefully my boss will be understanding and give me a little time to "get back in the game".
To the pp that said maybe she thought I wasn't planning to come back because I took my pics down and stuff- I'm not really sure why I did that, it just felt like I should take my things home when I was going to be gone for 3 months. But you'd better believe I'll put a bunch of pictures of my girls up when I return
Maybe she has been trying to make your system work for her and it just isn't anymore - so in order to do a good job for the next 4 weeks she moved some things around.
It really isn't that big of a deal.
When I did long term sub jobs, I always rearranged a few things to make it work for me. I did however move things back before I left to make sure they fit the needs of the returning teacher.
Oh and of course she s hoping you are not coming back. She is a temp, most likely looking for a permanent job.
I really wouldn't worry about it. When you go back- you are going to need to do some re-organizing, no matter how she left it.
Dude, you should see my classroom sometimes just after a day of being gone and having a sub. Many times it isn't pretty. But, that's kind of the way the cookie crumbles when you have someone else in your space.
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I guess my bad...this is why I'm glad no one has any business in my space or messing around in my files in the first place...because I am very particular. And it would frustrate me if someone temporary came in and decided to change my filing system. IT's hard enough getting caught up on everything when you come back after a while...but to not be able to find things too...I just do, but that's me...like I said, rearrange your desk anyway...which apparently wasn't the case.
I'd let it go.
Its only your desk when you are there working.
Ha- I was thinking the same thing, why did someone text you to tattle about this? Weird.
My opinion is the same as others- she's a temp/part time person who wants more hours, can you blame her for hoping you don't come back so she can continue w/ the additional hours? It isn't personal about you, she just wants a full time job maybe. At my last job there was a person who was rather verbal about wanting a part of my job, it wasn't about me, it was about wanting that specific role...and when I left, she got it...but I never felt like they were going to take it away from me or something when I still worked there.
As for personal items, I think she's entitled to have a few things to make her area more pleasant/'hers', it's not like they're a permanent part of your desk that won't leave with her. Rearranging--- how big is your desk that you won't be able to find things??? I'm confused about this. The only thing I could see being a pain would be a full overhaul of a filing system if you are talking about a filing cabinet but that seems kind of hard to believe. What exactly do you think you won't be able to find in a desk?
Yeah I guess I don't know what type of rearranging she did. I have a lot of files and a really specific way of organizing things. I'm an admin assistant for an extremely busy client and when I came on board a year and a half ago there was no system whatsoever, it took me months to get it to the point it's at now.
I see now that I overreacted and you guys are right, the coworkers that texted me probably shouldn't have, that was pretty stupid.
If your "system" was so important, did you explain or leave details on why it should be kept that way?