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NBR: DS getting bullied at daycare
Gknauff79
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Mobile: DS getting bullied at daycareI'm at a total loss and so extremely sad. DS, who is 4, has been throwing major tantrums about going to daycare for about a week now.nbsp; By this I mean kicking, punching, all out screaming sessions.nbsp; He finally told DH today that there are a group of kids making fun of him, about what he wears, what he says, even telling him he stinks, and refusing to play with him.nbsp; DH noticed this morning when he dropped him off that he tried to sit around a table, and the kids refused.nbsp; P is the sweetest little boy on the planet, and very non confrontational.nbsp; My heart is breaking for my son, and DH is pissed.nbsp; I am not sure what to do. I don't want to have the teacher defend him, because he will be picked on even worse, but I can't let this go on. nbsp; Anyone have any experience or advice on this?nbsp; My apologies for the novel.
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Re: NBR: DS getting bullied at daycare
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I am sorry your son, and you, are dealing with this. Kids can be so cruel sometimes. It really is sad!
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I was tormented in early elementary school for having curly hair, so kids will find the slightest thing different and use it against another kid. In my case the teachers flat out denied what was going on even though my neighbors witnessed it. From then on I was pegged as the problem. Honestly, if it was my child I'd probably look at other arrangements. If they are really watching the kids then they know and they are just looking the other way.
I'm sorry to hear that your sweet little guy is having a hard time.
While I know that almost all of us could say that we were made fun of in school, and that it ultimately probably made us stronger, I really feel that this behavior needs to be addressed with the teachers and supervisors. I know that he is young, but the school/daycare and parents need to become involved and have those conversations with their children NOW when they will listen.
The reason is this: bullying is worse now than when we were kids.
Oh sure, kids will have confrontation, and resolving conflict is a part of learning to grow up. However, what we are seeing in our schools now is that the bullying that we had growing up doesn't exist anymore. Why we might have had mean notes written, and names called on the playground, today's kids get tormented 24/7 via the internet and cellphones. When I was in elementary school, I might have a fight with my friends at school, but then it got left at school at the end of the day. If someone wanted to call and talk to me they had to call my house and speak to my mother. Now, children can use the internet to hide behind bullying and there is an idea that they aren't accountable. So the kids are never allowed to escape the bullying.
In my area last year three teenagers committed suicide due to bullying....and as a pediatric nurse in the hospital I see many more who try.
I don't mean to turn this into a novel, and know that he is young, but I feel strongly that the parents need to become involved now. And if you discuss it with the teacher and the behavior gets worse, ask to have a meeting with the supervisor of the center and the parents of the kids before you change classrooms. Schools can't afford to take bullying with a shrug and a blase attitude anymore.
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If my kid was the one being the bully, I'd want to know. I hope the dcp addresses it with their parents.
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