Hi everyone, I'm new here. My husband and I were pregnant with our third and lost the baby on Sunday. I was between 10-11 weeks and I was supposed to have my first appointment this week, and I had no idea it was coming until I started spotting last Friday. It finally came to an end Sunday afternoon, a natural miscarriage. Miniature labor, I felt my water break and had contractions and everything. It was awful, and I have nowhere to really express how I feel. We are so heartbroken. We buried the baby last night, named her (because we thought it was a girl) Hannah Joy.
I feel like crap, and feel depressed. I thought everything was fine... I feel like it was somehow my fault even though it couldn't have been. I was using a midwife this time around and she has been wonderful, checking up on me and trying to help me through it. She thinks I have low progesterone, due to my really short luteal phase and recent weight loss. Anyone else have low progesterone and have tips on what to do? She recommended a cream later on if we get pregnant again. Sorry for the rambling, I'm just so overwhelmed and don't know what to do. This is the worst, and I'm sorry for all of your losses as well.
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Hiya,
You're feeling the worse of it right now. It will get easier, but you're still in the very early stages of grieving. I think we kind of forget that it is grieving & that, of course, takes time to heal. I am so sorry for your loss. I completely understand.
Progesterone can certainly guard against future loss if low progesterone is a problem. Your Doc can put you on it around the 4 week mark even if you're not sure if you're pregnant yet, just in case. You should talk with him/her & know what your options are. Some women are just naturally low in progesterone even if nothing is wrong with the baby. Not having high enough progesterone can cause you to m/c.
It is nothing that you have, or haven't done, although I understand it's a hard concept to fully comprehend. Allow yourself the tears & time to heal.
Hugs xx
I just had a D and C on Friday, so my loss is very new as well. It is nice that this board exists with people that really understand what you're going through. I hope you find some comfort here.
BFP 06/05/2013 | EDD 02/10/2014 | D&C 07/12/2013
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. The bloodwork that I had right before the miscarriage was confirmed reflected low projesterone, so I did a lot of internet research on it. My doctor explained that low progesterone could be an indication of an oncoming miscarriage, and not the actual cause of the miscarriage. At least for me, this seemed to be true. Here is a link to other symptoms of low progesterone, none of which applied to me:
https://www.naturalfertilityandwellness.com/symptoms-of-low-progesterone/
My doctor told me that the next time that I am pregnant, that she will do bloodwork as soon as I get a BFP to monitor the progesterone from the very beginning as an extra precaution but does not think that was the cause of the miscarriage.
Hugs to you... I can't imagine the pain of burying such a little baby.
Married DH 9/30/2011 - TTC #1 since 11/2012
BFP 5/30/2013 EDD 2/8/2014 M/C blighted ovum 7/5/2013 8 weeks 3 days
BFP 11/16/2013 Beautiful, perfect heartbeat 12/9/2013 EDD 7/31/2014 Please be our rainbow baby!
BFP 5/19/2013. MC 7/2/2013 (9w6d) with est. loss at 8w. Miso 7/3/2013 and emergency D & C 7/6/2013.
BFP#2 11/6/2013. CP 11/14/2013.
BFP #3 12/13/2013. Beta #1 @ 15dpo- 239. Progesterone 27. Beta #2 @17dpo - 90. CP 12/21/2013
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