GTKY: Would you want to know?

starlight0412 · July 2013

Just curious..when you get pregnant do you plan on finding out the sex right away or being surprised at delivery. I was thinking about this the other day because DH says he wants to be surprised. Being the impatient person that I am, I just about fell over when he said that. I couldn't see myself waiting that long. To me knowing the sex of your baby is so important. Ofcourse technology has only made this possible in recent years, so I know that women have done it before but I just..couldn't. Lol. What about you? Would you want to know?

tealowl · July 2013

I'm not going to find out the sex, we don't have a need too. It'll be a fun surprise and I can plan for a baby without knowing if it has a penis or a vagina.

GoaliesWife123 · July 2013

DW and I (if we're lucky enough to get pregnant) will be waiting until delivery. We have seen people reveal gender and then they are bombarded with pink or blue crap, judgments on name choices, etc.

We won't force our kid to wear pink or blue, regardless of gender

C0602t · July 2013

It will be our first child so we will find out ASAP! I always said if I had 3, a girl and a boy already, I'd be surprised with the last. My husband wants to be surprised with all our children but I just can't!!! My best friend is 21 weeks pregnant and she's waiting until the birth. I am planning her shower so it's just pink AND blue! She swears it's a boy, but I think it's just because she already has a girl. She was going to do a gender reveal party but I convinced her that if you're going to wait you may as well wait the whole time for a truly bigger reveal!

Spookster · July 2013

I did with DD, I thought about going team green this next time around but I think the curiosity will get to me.

Spookster · July 2013

C0602t:
It will be our first child so we will find out ASAP! I always said if I had 3, a girl and a boy already, I'd be surprised with the last. My husband wants to be surprised with all our children but I just can't!!! My best friend is 21 weeks pregnant and she's waiting until the birth. I am planning her shower so it's just pink AND blue! She swears it's a boy, but I think it's just because she already has a girl. She was going to do a gender reveal party but I convinced her that if you're going to wait you may as well wait the whole time for a truly bigger reveal!

I bought DD duck themed everything before I knew she was a she. Yellows and greens.

beckynsean11 · July 2013

I'd like to say we're going to wait. But I honestly won't be able to answer until I'm actually pregnant.

EmilyA724 · July 2013

I'm such a planner that I definitely want to find out. It will also help narrow name choices, which is nice. Plus I think it'll give us something to look forward to mid-way through and help break up the wait a bit.

CiescaLove · July 2013

I have found out with both pregnancies so we both think it would be nice to be team green for the next one, especially since he or she will be our last. But I guess we will see how that works out when the time comes.

Milagros315 · July 2013

We will probably find out early if we can. I think I'll be too excited to wait!

crwel1048 · July 2013

MeatandBandP:
I will be surprised when I get pregnant and I will be surprised at 20 weeks when I find out the sex. I don't think its any less of a surprise if you find out at 20 weeks rather then when the baby is coming.
Plus, I'm anal and I want to be prepared.

This exactly. We found out with DS too.

bumpuser9343355 · July 2013

I will find out for sure. I'm not a very patient person, I don't think I could pass up the opportunity to find out!

dana2die4 · July 2013

If it were up to my DH, we would have waited until delivery to find out. But due to the fact, I am the most impatient person ever, we actually paid to find out early. This next go around, I will also pay to find out early lol.

Palmtrees09 · July 2013

My DH and I think we want to wait till the baby is born. But who knows! We don't have any kids yet so we don't know for sure how we're going to act/think once we finally get that BFP! :]

mmb248 · July 2013

I want to know. I don't think I'm going to be any more surprised at 40 weeks than I will be at 20 weeks. But mainly, I have definite plans for a nursery based on sex, so I can't start decorating the nursery until I know!

Girl:

Perfect blue nursery for girl

Boy:

Alligator nursery blue, green, and white

mrskelly731 · July 2013

We did not find out when we had DD and will not find out with any future children. We knew from the beginning we wanted a big family so we knew we wanted gender neutral stuff either way. Might as well reuse anything we can. It was the best thing ever to hear 'it's a girl' from DH right before I held her.

chickpea912 · July 2013

With our first, I decided to let DH have the choice about whether or not we found out the sex, since I felt like I had a certain intimacy with what was going on (obviously), and I wanted him to have something. He decided he wanted to know - felt like it would just make some things easier. I was fine with whatever his decision was.

If we get pg again, who knows. I guess we'll probably find out since we did the first time?

elizabethb3 · July 2013

GoaliesWife123:
DW and I (if we're lucky enough to get pregnant) will be waiting until delivery. We have seen people reveal gender and then they are bombarded with pink or blue crap, judgments on name choices, etc.
We won't force our kid to wear pink or blue, regardless of gender

You make a very good point! I would not want boatloads of pink or blue crap!

Rejufsovelem · July 2013

I am too much of a planner not to find out. We found out with DS and I will with the next one. A lot of people say, "wait, its a great surprise!" Well its still a surprise on you 20th week of pregnancy.

elizabethb3 · July 2013

I always said I would wait, but who am I kidding, I'm a planner! I agree that the surprise is going to be great no matter when it happens.

miniray · July 2013

For DS1 I couldn't wait to find out. 20 weeks seemed like forever and I wanted to know NOW. I thought about going team green for #2 but I know myself and I'll want to find out asap.

karmajupiter · July 2013

We found out with DS and plan on doing so the next time around.

sunlavender · July 2013

I want to know, DH doesn't. We'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

mandacann · July 2013

MeatandBandP:
I will be surprised when I get pregnant and I will be surprised at 20 weeks when I find out the sex. I don't think its any less of a surprise if you find out at 20 weeks rather then when the baby is coming.
Plus, I'm anal and I want to be prepared.

This is exactly how I feel.

lookame3639 · July 2013

Since its my fiance first child he wants tonknow the gender and I do too. I want my mom and my son in the room when the gender is revealed and well all have a special moment together. I kentioned maybe doing a gender reveal with everyone and fiance was against it

MrsRML · July 2013

DH and I definitely want to know. It's still a "surprise", just a little sooner. IMO, it's easier to prepare and get an idea of who your LO is :

Rocknroll64 · July 2013

We are team green for now! That might change, we don't know yet.

mrs_tacos · July 2013

We're going to find out because we want to know and we can. I like the idea of going ahead and calling the baby their name in utero, and DH thinks it will help him feel more bonded and a part of the experience.

But if baby is being difficult about showing the goods during the ultra sounds that are covered by my insurance, I'm not going to sweat it. We live in a loft, so there won't be a nursery to plan, and we're going to be crazy in love with baby either way.

kramja01 · July 2013

I plan on finding out. I don't have any great reason, other than it will help us narrow down names.

Pintobean39 · July 2013

I don't want to know but my DH wants to know. He can read the ultrasounds and can't keep a secret so I don't think I have a choice.

The way I look at it..... It will be such a blessing to have a child I don't care what it is. I already have the nursery picked out. It's grey and yellow. I love antiques so I was thinking incorporating lots of linen and lambs. My MIL is an interior designer and she's going to help me decorate it.

coopsbaby · July 2013

I found out with ds and dd1, but with dd2 the tech wouldn't tell us. She apparently had very strong feelings that people should be surprised. I still hate her.

I do not do well with suspense at all. I want to know asap, and dh does too, so it works for us. It doesn't really change anything, I tend to go pretty gender neutral with clothes, decor, etc. I just want to know.

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Clarinet35 · July 2013

We will definitely find out. I'm a surprise spoiling kind of gal when it comes to presents and secrets and whatnot, so there's no way I could keep this wait that long!

Kris2011RN · July 2013

With DS I couldn't wait to find out. When I get pregnant again I don't want to find out the sex, DH does. We will probably find out.

ErikaLynn75 · July 2013

I think we'll find out, because the curiosity will get the best of me. But we will probably keep it to ourselves for a while. It will be our first, and from my experience with my friends/cousins baby showers, if everyone knows what you're having you get a bunch of cute little outfits, but if it's a mystery then people will get you the more practical things on your registry. I'm thinking of doing a gender-reveal cake at the shower... But whenever I start thinking about it I force myself to stop because we've only been TTC a month and that's getting way too far ahead of myself...

thatmissamanda · July 2013

I am up in the air about this actually. Originally I had thought I was going to wait the whole 9 months and be surprised, but now that my best friend is pregnant I am so impatient to find out what it will be so I can't imagine waiting for my own! It would be great to have a surprise, but it also would be nice not to have a bunch of gender neutral stuff. I guess we will see when the time comes whether I have patience

SweetTea420 · July 2013

We will be finding out the sex. I don't think I could stand not knowing.

MinaE01 · July 2013

I was Team Green for DS and I wouldn't have it any other way. The excitement of knowing that we were about to find out if we were having a boy or girl helped counteract the frightening experience of delivering almost 2 months early. I totally understand wanting to know, though.

AmyC925 · July 2013

Team sneaky. I want to know and dh doesn't. He told me the reason he didn't want to know is so he can announce it after the birth to our families. I want to get gender specific stuff since we're OAD. Sneaky is the best compromise for us.