Trouble
ToAoShesha
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My LO always sleeps in her swing and I know it is something we need to deal with sooner rather than later. So at this weeks appointment I discussed it with the pediatrician and asked for a smooth way (not CIO) to help transition her to the crib. After discussing our bed time routine, which ends by being nursed to sleep. My pedi stated that my LO does not know how to put herself to sleep that she is always been put to sleep while nursing to moving. She recommended the book "baby wise" I have not gotten it yet but when I googled it to find prices all that came up was controversy about it. I figured I could get it and take what I want from it.
Well now I am sitting here at nap time and every time pop her off my breast (when she is asleep) she wakes up and is upset searching for it. So I tried holding her off and soothing her, it doesn't work. So I am holding her in tears that my baby cannot put herself to sleep and it is my fault.
Anyone have any tips or book recommendations? I feel like she is still so young but the longer I wait the harder it will be. Full on CIO is not an option, getting a magic suit is not an option and I just posted how she breaks out of her swaddle in 20 minutes and wakes herself up (so although I swaddle it is not a solution either)
I have so many bad habits for her I have to break and I thought I was doing the right thing by soothing her this whole time 
She only sleeps when moving, she falls asleep on my boob and now I have learned she cannot put herself to sleep
Please help me
Re: Trouble
I read Babywise. I had heard all the bad stuff, but then my SIL told me that it was what she and my brother had used to sleep train their (perfect) 5 year old and 2 year old. so I read it.
I think that, like anything else, you have to take it with a grain of salt. Obviously if you baby is hungry, you are going to feed your baby, and not wait until they are "supposed" to eat. Similar with sleeping. You're not going to wake them up just so they are only sleeping during the times they are "supposed" to be.
You have to decide what feels right to you -- it is a personal decision and what is right for one mom is not right for all. Bottom line is do whatever is best for YOUR family - and don't let anybody make you feel bad about that.
I found the "eat, play, sleep" method very helpful in getting through month 2 of life with my LO -- it allowed me to have a little bit more of a life, because I knew SORT OF when he was going to need/want to eat, and that he'd probably fall asleep abotu 30 minutes after that
I should add, however, that my little guy is a pretty good sleeper and transitioned to his crib at 8 weeks with no issues.
Good luck -- honestly, I read the book thinking 'what on earth is so controversial about this?!"
This may not be what you want to hear, but maybe youe baby is just not ready to learn to fall asleep on her own yet. She won't nurse to sleep forever. Does she ever come off the boob herself? That's a starting point. And as for sleeping in the swing, we are thrilled because we finally got our son to START sleeping in the swing about two weeks ago. Before that he would only sleep on or immediately next to us. So it's all relative. Why not just give your baby a little more time? Supposedly babies cannot selfsoothe before four months anyway. I think many problems people have with their babies come from trying to get them to do certain things before they are ready. You haven't wrecked your baby, honest!
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.
Thankfully mine sleeps nights in her PNP fine but she will only nap in her swing. I fear this is partly why I can't get out of the house and expect her to nap in her cars eat.
Ive tried her RNP, PNP swaddle, white noise, nothing helps so for sanity I keep giving in and letting her swing.
Why are you fighting it? Your baby is TELLING you she needs movement to sleep. It's NORMAL for babies to need help to sleep. Stop putting pressure on them. They cannot self soothe
I don't fight with her....she fights falling asleep. She doesn't nap well....never has. She will almost fall asleep and wake herself up...continuously. I walk her, rock her, etc to help her fall asleep.
Even if your baby is 8 months old and you still nurse her to sleep, who cares. You do what works for you. You're doing a good job!!