Im reposting this from the working moms board for some advice
So my son has been bitten 3 times at daycare in the past 3 months and it is starting to bother me. I typed an email to the Director at the daycare but I am wondering if I am overreacting. Can you read it and tell me your thoughts or any suggestions?
Any thoughts?
Re: Day care and biting
My opinion is it's no big deal. Both the kids have been bitten at daycare. Older LO has also bit a couple times. He was bitten by the same child a couple times. One time was fairly rough. I chalk it up to kids being kids and I wouldn't go to the director about it, but that's just me.
~*Jenna*~
TTC since November 2009.
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You can send the notice just so they're aware/you think it's excessive, but don't be surprised if they don't say much. They can't really.
Also, don't be upset when they don't do much about it either. I used to work in a daycare room with the 18 months to 2 year olds and while we'd watch them like hawks biting still went down every day. It's what kids do and it's hard to be fast enough to stop them.
My kid goes to a home daycare that's smaller than a center and she still gets bit constantly. On the good side, at least she knows it hurts, so she's only ever bit once.
So my son gets bitten - a lot. His absolute best friend in the daycare is a biter. Daycare can't say who is doing the biting, but I first put it together when his dad and I were talking and he mentioned that they were having a problem with the kid biting. And then DH saw it when they were playing this week after school.
Realistically, I know the daycare is doing everything in their power to prevent it. And I know they talk to the kids about not biting. And it seems to occur when the kids are fighting over toys, and I know daycare puts away the toys when the kids get crazy over them. But I also see that it doesn't upset my son nearly as much as it upsets my husband. Because this is his best friend - it doesn't seem to keep him from playing with the kid or avoiding him at all. He makes a big deal about it - "Bite, owie" but it seems to be more for attention than anything else. And as one of my DCPs pointed out, when she tries to separate they don't want to be separated, which makes her job harder. They love each other. Biting and all.