Baby Names
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"Stealing" family names?
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My MIL's cousin has four kids, and three of their names are on our list- Thomas (which we will almost definitely use, it's my grandmother's maiden name and we love it), Charlotte, and Louisa. I don't think it would be THAT big of a deal to use one of the same names, but would it be strange if we used more than one? I'm in love with Louisa if we have a girl, maybe even as a MN.
If it matters, they live in the same city (really close to us, actually), but we don't see them super often, maybe every few months at a grad party or casual family thing. It's not like they'll be running around together at Christmas or anything though.
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Re: "Stealing" family names?
It might be weird to use more than one as FNs. Thomas as a FN and Louisa as a MN would probably be OK.
And it would only be weird to use both because they live near by and you see them. I have no idea what my MIL's cousin's kids are named, so I have no idea if I have copied them...
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This. I also think Thomas and Charlotte are pretty popular, common names, Louisa not as much...so that one may get more of a side eye.
I believe MIL's cousin's kids are far enough away in family terms that I wouldn't even care!
I don't even know my MIL's cousin's kids. Well, wait a minute, my husband knows my mom's cousin's kids and I still don't think it would matter. We see them a 3 times a year and live in the same town! Granted, they are all high school graduates.
Thanks for the replies. My thoughts were that one (Thomas or Louisa) would be okay, but not both. Or all three... really don't think I could ever do that. Haha. My H and I joked about it, though. "Hey, cool names... we're going to use them too." Anyway, guess we'll see what happens. I fall in and out of love with names these days so it probably won't matter anyway!
And to PP who said I worded it weird, I don't know, the whole 'first/second cousins' or 'cousin once removed' thing confuses me. The woman is my husband's mom's cousin, so that's what I said. I don't know why it's strange.
The children would be your husband's second cousins. Their children and your children would be third cousins to one another.
Evidently, I was supposed to be named Ashley, but a month before I was born, my second cousin Ashley was born. My name became one of the many 1980s variations on "Lindsay." I have never met the Ashley who was born before me and took my name, but apparently my dad liked her mother, his cousin, enough to not step on her toes.
I'm watching all our friends gobble up the short list of names I've loved forever, so I definitely understand your frustrations. I think if you're not going to spend a ton of time with these people and the kids aren't going to be the same age, you can get by with 1-2 first names and maybe using another as a middle name.