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brittas
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xp: bonding in the hospital
brittas
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Hospital BirthHello ladies- long time lurker here with a bonding question:I will be delivering at the hospital again, and I know they like to initially clean the baby up, swaddle and hand them back to mommy right after birth. And then about a half hour later they take the baby away to the nursery and give them more of a scrub. I have been reading the Attachment Parenting book and want to make sure I get that hour of bonding right after birth, so do I let them clean off baby and ask for her back unswaddled-- then ask for the more thorough bath to be delayed for a while? With DS I just went with the flow and didn't really have a plan after he was born. I just assumed that the hospital procedures were fine. I have no idea what to expect this time around now that I have a much cleared idea of what I want for our labor and birth (and time afterwards). Any insight into natural birth and ensuring the right amount if time for the initial bonding in a hospital will be much appreciated!TIA!
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Re: xp: bonding in the hospital
My hospital already had the policy of skin to skin first, but you can make it clear to your doctor/midwife that is what you'd like to happen. I also had my husband go with the baby to the nursery for his first bath.
My baby had a low heart rate at the end of delivery so they ended up checking him and cleaning him up a little and doing the footprints while I got stitched up, but it was in the room and my husband was next to him the whole time. Then they brought him over for the "breast crawl".
Well, first of all: is that your only hospital choice? I understand if it is (one hospital does all deliveries in my city), but if it isn't it's a bad choice. Go somewhere else, where they're more up to date in their practices.
If you must stay there, then just don't give up your baby. Talk to your doctor about what you want. Talk to your DH about what you want. And then just say "in a few minutes" when they want to do things. If baby is well, they can do the basics on your chest and there is nothing that can't wait an hour. You don't need to send your baby to the nursery at all if you'd rather keep him/her with you. You don't need to do a bath until you want to do it - waiting a few hours or longer is better for body temperature anyway.
My hospital is more progressive and happily let me cuddle and nurse my baby as long as I wanted before they did their thing.
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I would not be OK with them taking the baby to the nursery at any point. The only time they took DS from me was to take his weight in the middle of the night, and I went down the hall with them, and to do a hearing test on day 2, and DH went and waited outside the room for that.
I don't see any reason why they can't do a bath in the same room as you after an hour or so, or however long you want, of bonding. Many hospitals are like this now and I would shop around if that's an option for you if they do give you flack.
DS, May 2011
When DD2 was born, we specified the above, plus delayed cord clamping and delayed shots/erythromycin. She came out and was plopped onto my belly. The nurse put a blanket over her and hat on, but that was it. State law required that she have her vitamin K and eye treatment done within an hour of birth; the nurse came in at the hour, gave her the stuff while she was in my arms, then left us alone. She didn't get weighed until three hours after birth and didn't get a bath until about 18 hours later.
Just turn down the hard core bath. It really isn't necessary and it is better for baby to retain that white cheesy looking stuff (vernix) - it has a lot of immunological benefits. Any weighing and measuring can be done by your bedside. There is really no reason a perfectly healthy baby should leave your side while at the hospital! As far as swaddling, it is helpful to have a blanket over baby, but you do want skin to skin contact as you try to breastfeed.
I have had two water births using Hypnobabies and basically bring baby right to my chest after they are all the way out... start trying to nurse baby after a few minutes... with my birth in April, we didn't cut the cord for two hours, so we got the placenta into a bowl after it came out and moved to the bed. My midwife almost gave me pitocin that time, I had forgotten to get Motherswort to help stop the bleeding (I used that after child #1). Honestly, this birth should be about what you want. As long as nothing is going wrong, you should be able to call the shots. Just make sure your Dr. support that and you have cleared anything you may want to do with them. Hospital protocol is just that - it is what they have set up as "the norm." You certainly don't have to follow it!
I am really surprised that it's not hospital policy to place baby directly onto your chest for immediate skin to skin. Over the past few years, there has been a big push for this and many hospitals make a big deal about the benefits of having immediate skin to skin with mom. They may have actually changed their policy since your first birth.
If they haven't, I would make sure they know to put baby directly onto you. Make sure your OB and nurses know. Put it into your birth plan.
Both of my girls, we did skin to skin for about 2 hours. Everything was done at my bedside. In fact with DD2, the hospital recommended delaying the bath completely for several days. She didn't get a bath until she was almost a week old.
We had DS1 in the hospital and refused any sort of bath. One nurse kept bringing it up the next day, telling me how great it would be for the grandparents to watch it through the window while I napped, and finally we told her to drop it. In her mind, he was covered in toxic waste because of the vernix and meconium. While the meconium part wasn't great, it is good for vernix to stay on the skin. Since we had no intention of anyone else handling him, we didn't care what she thought. He ended up having his first bath when we were home when he was 3-4 days old.
As for immediate skin-to-skin, if all is well, I'd ask for them to just place baby on you with cord still attached and not take him away--even across the room--until you are ready. With DS2 (out-of-the-hospital birth), that was hours which likely will not fly in a hospital, but at least 15-30 minutes seems reasonable to me.
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