So I was at my mom's birthday celebration and this old lady came to me and asked how far along I was. I told her (at the time) 6 months. She looked at me with a shocking/judgemental face and said: "oh my... I think that baby is waaay too small. Because when I was 5 months pregnant, I was at least THIS MUCH", and started stretching her arm over to show me how much bigger she was then.
Now, what is the purpose of such remarks? Do people think they are helping?
Re: Weight and size of belly - unwelcome advice, grrrr
I was in a wedding last week and the bride's SIL looked at me and said,"I had no idea you were pregnant. You're really small for 7 months."
I'm not a small woman, but I'm definitely pregnant. I was wearing a snug cotton maternity top at the time and it was pretty obvious. None of those comments ever help. Please...tell me I'm glowing.. :-)
Great just what I want to hear...
Our little lightbulb is on the way!
12 weeks 3 days
TTC since Oct 2011
Me: 33, hypothyroidism since 14, cleared all HSG, US, Pre-pregnancy panel tests.
Hubby: 36, testicular Ca, chemo April-May 2012.
Natural cycle IUI #1 with trigger and Progesterone Suppositories (Jun 2012) Neg
Natural Cycle IUI #2 with trigger and Progesterone Suppositories (Jul 2012) NEG
Aug 2012 - break due to needing a girls' weekend in Cape Cod
Natural Cycle IUI #3 with trigger and prednisone (Sep 2012) NEGATIVE
Switched fertility clinics - forced break Oct 2012
Natural Cycle IUI #4 (Nov 2012) no trigger, no progesterone, no prednisone (Nov 2012) - Neg
1st round Clomid Cycle IUI #5 (Dec 2012) - POS
People tell me all the time "I'm carrying really well" most of the time I literally have to bite my tongue cause LO has been sitting on my spine since about 20 weeks.... And I'm sure they mean well but I really hate hearing that.... and " oh you don't even look pregnant from behind." I'm like REALLY ...just hush....
8 weeks....possibly 6 left..... come on September!!!
I think people just like making conversation and the easiest way to do so is with comparisons of themselves during their pregnancies or by stating their own expectations/observations. Everyone thinks how they looked or felt was normal and everyone should measure up to that, in my experience.
It makes me laugh most of the time because I can just remind myself that people really have no idea what they're talking about. For example, around 22 weeks, in the same weekend, I had one friend tell me I look bigger than she expected, and another tell me I seemed small and must be carrying really well. So I tend to shrug off what people say. But I can see why it's frustrating when they say things that worry you.
The thing that DOES annoy me, which I didn't expect, is that since we're team green, everyone and their dog has an opinion about whether it's a boy or a girl. I'm starting to think my husband and I are the only ones who don't have a "for sure feeling" one way or the other like everyone else in our lives. I don't know why it sometimes annoys me, but I think it's just the complete confidence that our baby is a girl (which is what most people seem to think). What if he isn't? Huh? They'll see. Haha.
BFP #1- 9/16/2012 MMC- 10/24/2012 (8.5 weeks, baby measured 6 weeks 1 day with no heartbeat) D&C-10/30/2012 BFP #2- 12/23/2012 Due 9/5/2013 Please be our rainbow baby!
THIS. We are team green also and everyone is so confident about it being a boy or girl. The other day my SIL texted me a picture of pink booties she bought, becuase she's "so sure" it's a girl. I don't know why it annoys me, but it does. Just like you, it seems like DH and I are the only two who aren't 100% confident about the gender...which I like to think is a sign of intelligence. Nobody is psychic!