November 2012 Moms
BabyMakes 3
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SAHM and DH after work
BabyMakes 3
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What is it like in your house when DH comes home from work? Does he immediately take over and play, bath, and do bedtime or whichever evening ritual you have? Or does he relax in some way? Are you happy with your arrangement?
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Re: SAHM and DH after work
When DH comes home he makes dinner while I take a relaxing bath. He gives LO a bath after we sit and play a bit. I nurse and rock her to sleep and then I usually go to sleep around 9. He'll stay up to do work, or to work on some personal projects.
I'm very lucky with my arrangement. DH is very helpful.
DH is the SAH parent. But I'm "on" from the minute I walk in the door. I really wouldn't have it any other way. The evenings are my favorite part of the day.
I get off the train around 6:00 and then we get home and I give F his solids, play for a bit, give him his bath, get him dressed for bed, then he has his last bottle and goes down around 7:30.
During this time, DH cooks or picks up dinner. So, we eat when F goes to sleep.
Then we do whatever needs to be done around the house, spend some time together, maybe watch some tv or something.
Then I go back to work for an hour or two (it's been more like 3 or 4 lately, sigggggh) before I go to sleep.
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
Our situation is reversed. DH is a SAHD, while I work full time. He watches DS during the day. I come home for lunch and nurse DS while DH makes me lunch. When I get home from work, I take over with DS. I give him his bath, play with him, read him his story, and put him to bed.
DH does a lot of the housework, but in evenings, either one of us will make dinner and clean up. We each do our own laundry. DH mostly does DS's laundry.
I also assume DS duty for the weekend or any time I have off work. DH gets a break, and I get to spend time w/ DS, so we both get exactly what we want. Our arrangement works great for us. We never really discussed it, it just sort of happened this way and now it's routine.
"A new baby is like the beginning of all things--wonder, hope, a dream of possibilities."
DH comes home and either cooks or plays with DS while I cook. Then I nurse DS and DH takes him up for a bath. I put him in his PJs and we lay on his nursery floor (all 3 of us) and read stories with cooper the bear. DS goes to sleep and DH and I snuggle in the gazebo in the backyard with tea and catch up.
On weekends I sleep in while DH gets up with DS and takes him grocery shopping or for a walk. He feeds him breakfast and brings him up for nursing a couple hours later. It's our trade off since I wake up for his 5am feed (he goes back down til 7 or 8). It took 9 years of figuring each other out and DH is super thoughtful and a very hands on dad.
when DH gets home he changes, has a snack and we both take care of LO. I usually cook during the week while he plays with her and then we both give her a bath and I usually put her down.
Last night I went swimming from 6-8 so he put her down....
This is pretty much us too, Im a SAHM and when he gets home I try and have dinner ready but if the baby is needing my "cooking time" He gets it and either DH or myself will fix something once he gets home, or even just have a snack/ light meal instead. I usually give all the baby care but DH sometimes does some, if not he is usually tidying things up. He takes the night feeding if there is one most of the time also.
Sometimes I wish he did a little more, and here lately he has been. I went to the store with my sister and he took care of A. (He's only happend like twice and once was not pretty when I got home, last time it was very nice
. ) plus I was sick almost all day yesterday and he took care of him like a pro. ( baby slept when I did lol)