April 2013 Moms
JordynLeighx3
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Why why why!
JordynLeighx3
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Must people voice their obnoxious opinions out loud!
I really am usually not one to care much about people judging me. I know it's a part of life and it comes with the territory of being a mom. In fact, I feel that I'm judged more now than ever.
But really, JUST because I'm 22 people feel the need to voice their opinion about me being a mother. And it'd be one thing if they said "you're so young" well duh I know. I knew I would get this. But when I'm holding my babies, and comforting them people feel the need to ask whose they are and how do I do it by myself because they're just assuming I'm a single mom and on a tight budget.
I mean really do I have to attach each baby to my boob for people to believe that they are indeed BOTH mine!
Yes. I'm young. I planned my babies, don't ask me how my parents took it.
Ugh, people!
Sorry for this long vent I just don't think some people think that I'm capable of being a mom simply because of age and they definitely think it was an accident. And sometimes that just sucks.
I really am usually not one to care much about people judging me. I know it's a part of life and it comes with the territory of being a mom. In fact, I feel that I'm judged more now than ever.
But really, JUST because I'm 22 people feel the need to voice their opinion about me being a mother. And it'd be one thing if they said "you're so young" well duh I know. I knew I would get this. But when I'm holding my babies, and comforting them people feel the need to ask whose they are and how do I do it by myself because they're just assuming I'm a single mom and on a tight budget.
I mean really do I have to attach each baby to my boob for people to believe that they are indeed BOTH mine!
Yes. I'm young. I planned my babies, don't ask me how my parents took it.
Ugh, people!
Sorry for this long vent I just don't think some people think that I'm capable of being a mom simply because of age and they definitely think it was an accident. And sometimes that just sucks.
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Re: Why why why!
Uh, ya. When said that I have a 3 month old with my bf a stranger said, "Wow, already have kids? Well, I guess you'll be more careful next time, huh?"
I also get the most hate-filled judgemental stares from older women when I'm out with my baby. It's probably because of my tattoos and dreadlocks. I smile back bc it's SO obvious and they turn their nose up and walk away. That's ok, judge me for the way I like to wear my hair or decorate my body, it will ruin your character and make mine stronger. My son will love and accept everyone no matter what they look like.
I get approached by children all the time, they are so curious, it's adorable. But the adults I have problems with.
I'm 25 and still look very young... When I was getting my nails done before my wedding two years ago the nail technician thought she had the wrong client because her client was a bride to be. She thought I was 18!
I get funny looks sometimes and I always feel compelled to show that I have my engagement and wedding rings on. I just think its not the norm to have a baby in your early or mid 20s anymore. There are a lot of career oriented woman who establish their careers before starting a family.
Just ignore! You are an amazing woman and Mom!!
The best mothers I know were 16 and not married, age shouldn't be a problem when maturity is there. Not saying 16 is the best time for a baby, but they got pregnant, and worked through the hardships. Now that 16 year old is 52 and that baby is a grown woman who has five of her own. My mom had me at 22, she had my sister 10 months before and we were super preemies ( my sister was born at 24 weeks, I was born at 28 weeks). She had to deal with a disabled baby whike taking care of me who had minor issues.
Young women can make it... they can teach a thing or two to older parents sometimes. I helped raise all 5 of my cousins, but like everyone told me it is different with your own. It is true, I learn things every day still.
DH and I got married young at 22 and 24. When we moved to the east coast my co workers couldn't believe that I was married. All we heard was "Wow, you are so young to be married." It was so frustrating to hear this. Who the f cares? So what if I found the person I want to spend the rest of my life with early? And who cares that we wanted to make it legal? You'd have thought we were 14 and 16. And we also got the whole, what do your parents think of this? Which is funny because mine were married at 22 and 21 and MILs first marriage was when she was 19.
Yes i'll take 2 of those shirts please! One for me and DH. And a onesie for DD. lol!
I say get those shirts printed asap...makes great for keepsakes and will shut people up big time.
I was married at 19. My kids were born the years I was 20, 22, 24 & 33. I am still with H #1. We endured years of judgmental bs. I'm getting it now from people who know us because "don't you know by now how that happens?" (Yes, that's why there is a 9 year gap. We planned this based on our ability to care for another child) and from strangers who freak after hearing that Phoebe is #4 not #1 "are you Catholic or Mormon? Are you going to be another Duggar family?" (No to all, not that its any of your business!!)
People always have uniformed opinions about things that are none of their business.
You SHOULD make that t-shirt.
And also, I'm abotu to be 36 and I'm so exhausted from everyday life and adding a child on top of that made it even more exhuasting. I WISH I'd had my babies at 22. :-)
TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption!
Last ditch FET resulted in BFP, and identical twin girls!
I get a lot of the same judginess and people asking me if my baby was planned, just on the opposite end of the spectrum. I am 42 and some people think that is too old to have a baby. The heck with 'em!
Over-40 parents...what we lack in vigor, we make up for with cunning.