So, we're moving and my aunt/godmother has been offering for weeks to come help. We weren't taking her up on it b/c we really aren't sure we're organized enough to be able to give her a project to do and not just have her hanging around asking questions and being more in the way. But, then she suggested she could help pack/organize our kitchen. Since we need whatever help we can get at this point, we're taking her up on it.
My mom suggested I should offer her gas money. I think this is TOTALLY WEIRD. She's financially secure, she's been offering to help, she wants to come, etc I think it's super weird to pay for gas. It's not like she's in high school. It's not the money, I just think it's weird. I am totally willing to admit I might be wrong on this. WDYT? Is it a nice gesture or weird to offer gas money? She's driving 2 hours here and 2 hours home.
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I think offering gas is a bit weird but I think you need to definitely offer food at least. Either take her out to lunch/dinner after or provide food.
After the fact you can send a nice thank you card and if you want, maybe throw in a gift card to her favorite store or for starbucks but even that is not necessary.
Team it's weird.
Ditto PP-- take her out to dinner or buy her a nice bottle of wine.
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I'd buy her lunch or dinner or a nice scented candle later as a thank you for helping. I'm with you on the idea that gas money to an adult is weird.
I agree with PP that offering gas money is kind of odd, but I think your mom is getting at the fact that you should do something nice for her.
She would probably rather just have some time with you. I would take her out for a nice quiet dinner, just the two of you and just tell her how much you appreciate her help while you are there.
If she's consistently been offering, and I'm assuming she knows where you live so it's not like the drive is a big surprise, then yea it would be very awkward to say "here's some gas money". She obviously wants to help you and is aware that it means a long drive.
Ditto PPs, feed her the day of, and send a really nice thank you note.