My H just had it with Joaquin, who is 7. Which is why I'm up at nearly midnight. Eating whoppers and chips and salsa.
It actually went really, really well. Our kids are pretty sheltered when it comes to sex stuff. Well, sexualized stuff, anyway. They already know almost everything about baby stuff, which is a really good lead in to the rest of it. They are just sheltered when it comes to sex on tvs and movies, etc. H said it wasn't really awkward at all. He used a book to help.
I talked to Avalin tonight, too, but we just skimmed the surface. She's not ready for the whole bazinga yet.
MAH BEHBEES. I feel so old.
Re: "The Talk"
I need to know how your dad thought you were getting your first period at 18.
I appreciated how open my parents were with us about sex. It was normal dinner conversation. I was never tempted to go experiment, and they didn't build it up as the be all to end all, so when I finally did have it, there was no letdown afterwards.
Haha Bpaws! Funny story.
H and I didn't get "the talk" when we were little. We knew we wanted to start communication early with our kids.
I've been thinking it's getting to be time for a while, maybe a few weeks? I had ordered a few books and they came in the mail a few days ago. I told H this evening he was up to bat and he just took over.
Kids are aware of the sensations they get even from a young age, and I was picking up on a bit of that recently. I felt compelled to go ahead and open up some honest dialog now so if/when they have more questions, they'll have an open door to come to us.
Joaquin is very informed now.
Avalin is still only 5 so we're waiting another year or two before going into all the details.
We got the first two of a series. This one for A: https://www.amazon.com/The-Story-Gods-Design-Book/dp/1600060137/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1372310115&sr=8-2&keywords=before+i+was+born
And this one for J: https://www.amazon.com/Before-Was-Born-Gods-Design/dp/1600060145/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y
They are based on Christian principles but are not prudish. I really like them! Having the book to use as reference and a rough draft of what you're going to talk about was really nice.
That's my hope too.
H never got the talk, he found out about sex through porn when he was 14.
I never got the talk either. Talking about it with my mom now, she says she tried but I was always like "ew, no, ew!" LOL!
I am dreading the day with Christian... Its coming though. He talks about kissing all. the. time!!
Mom of 2 monkeys and 1 on the way!
Christian12/06, Liam 08/12, Monkey #3 10/10
lol, well that is one way to have the sex talk.
Since they haven't been exposed the the perverted side of sex J was really chill and curious about it, not giggly or weirded out by it. Like I said, they are really sheltered when it comes to that stuff. Sheltered from the media aspect of it. It's been really important to me to maintain their innocence as long as possible because of some really crappy stuff that went on when dh and I were kids.
He is very mature. Avalin, at 5, is less so, but that's why we decided to just skim the surface with her to give her a foundation. We'll revisit in a year or so.
I really hope our kids will turn out differently than we did while we were in our youth. We were both promiscuous and our understanding about sex was way off base.
Taking it into our own hands....I don't ever want to assume anything about my kids. It's hard.
It was awesome to be able to give H the reigns with Joaquin, Janni. I really feel for single mamas who have to have the sex talk with their sons. That has to be really difficult.
Mom of 2 monkeys and 1 on the way!
Christian12/06, Liam 08/12, Monkey #3 10/10
I didn't really get the sex talk. When I was in second grade my mom borrowed a book from the library that explained puberty and periods for girls. That's about all I got and that sex was "bad" and not to do it till I was married. Not really any explanation there except that to have sex before I was married was a sin. It's no wonder that I was curious about it and high school health class is where I actually learned about sex.