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"Fat Baby" Comments....
andieb0316
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Anyone else get annoyed or just plain angry if/when people call their baby fat? My son is not quite 5 months, he is FF, unfortunately I couldn't produce enough, I was heart broken over it, and I know babies who are FF are going to be slightly heavier than BF babies but my son is not huge! He's not covered in rolls, he has cheeks, and thighs, he's a baby... he's going to. Anyways I am so sick of people saying "Oh my goodness what a Fat Baby!!" WTH! Or comparing him to a child his age or older and saying how huge he is compared to them. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong even though he is completely healthy, happy, and within the 50th- 75th percentile for his weight. I'm from the south and the older women are notorious for doing this, I just can't stand it, I think it is so rude. Anyone else have this issue and how do you handle the comments?
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Re: "Fat Baby" Comments....
I haven't dealt with fat baby comments but when DS was a little younger I dealt with a LOT of, "He's so small!" comments. Was I feeding him enough? Maybe I should give him formula or cereal. Ugh! So annoying.I would just say that he's tall and skinny like his daddy and move on. It always kinda bugged me a bit, especially one woman who (after I told her the tall thing) lifted the blanket off his lap to look at his legs as if I was lying.
Now that he's getting so much taller and starting to kinda fill out to match it I'm getting the exact opposite.... "How old is he? 7-9 months? 5 months! Wow! He's going to be a basketball player!" Not as annoying because there's no unwanted advice tagged to it, but still come on people... every baby grows at a different pace. FF or BF every baby is different.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with with these comments. My best advice is to try to just shrug it off. People making comments either had babies that grew differently than yours or are just plain rude.
Some days we hear, "He's so fat."
Some days we hear, "He's so tiny."
I think that unless you are in the middle of it yourself, you have no idea what a normal range for babies look like.
I don't have this problem with DD, I say she's chubby all time but I mean it in a cute way like a baby should be.
Everyone always says to me she's not chubby, but I've seen her finally get some chub so I'm excited about it cause I know she's really getting enough food. My dd is in the 33 for weight but the 60th for length. So I get a lot of comments about how big she is too, people think she's big for her age just because she has long legs when really, she's not at all
People are stupid, they just say stuff to say it
That's rude. Who says that?!
DD is a chunka and I love it. DS was a skinny little thing. They both have been FF and both have similar eating styles, which tends to be on the lower side of normal. They're just built differently.
Babies aren't fat. They have adorable baby chub. I'm angry at these people for you.
And FWIW, no one has called DD fat. I would serious have to bust out a WTF on them if they did.
If you don't want to WTF? them back (because, well, that's probably not the most polite thing
) I think I would just say something like "yes, DS is healthy and perfect and we just love him to bits" and leave it at that.
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This. My baby is in the 40th percentile and I always hear how huge he is. I just smile and nod. I've come to realize people have no idea what they're talking about half the time.
If anyone was to ever say what a chunk she was in a bad way I would make a big deal to say that she is HEALTHY and HAPPY and that's all that matters. If your LO is well fed then you're doing a good job. That's all that matters :
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I get similar comments, but I think our fat babies are gorgeous! And baby fat really is different than fat in adulthood and plays (or at least played) an important function in infant survival. No one thinks a skinny puppy or kitten is cute for a reason.
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Those eyes!!! Your little girl is gorgeous!
I honestly think these comments are meant to be complimentary! Fat babies are healthy babies! I'm so effing proud of the rolls my son sports. (He's EBF.) We were on a walk the other day and saw a girl at a park who was walking around and talking and I SWEAR my son is bigger than her. Why is this a bad thing? PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT SIZES!
My brother's son is 5 months older than mine, and he is HUGE. He is solid, and he is already half the size of his tiny mother. I hope they haven't minded me commenting on his size because I think his largeness is AWESOME.
These are healthy babies who will start to slender-down once they start walking and crawling.
Generally my response to those who say my baby is fat is, "I know! Look at these rolls! Aren't they adorable!?"
Lurker here. I am from the south too. I take it as a term of endearment. Especially the old ladies. My son is FF too due to BF complications. His teachers at daycare call him porkchop. I don't mind, as long as they don't say it so much that he thinks that is his name. Once these babies start walking all that 'fat' will be gone.