How happy is your one-year old?
yepyepsms
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For the last month my son has just been a crab and seems to have gotten worse in the last two weeks. He either cries or whines 98% of the time and truly feel I am not exaggerating. We try everything...water, milk, food, cuddles, toys, books, different rooms, outside, inside, stroller ride, acting silly. It will work for maybe a minute then he is back to crying or fake crying/whining. This usually involves full body planking as well.
He is sleeping normal and enough (12 at night, 2 hrs of naps on avg), not sick, eating and drinking well. Everything is seemingly normal except his mood. He did get his bottom molars about two weeks ago so I thought it was that but even now that they are in he hasn't become happier. Also, he is happy at daycare and only seems to be unhappy at home and on the weekends.
I brought this up at my 1-yr appt with our pedi and she just explained it is the age and can be many things that he doesn't know how to express and according to his check up didn't feel there were any areas of concern with his health or development. She did say that I should come back/call in a couple of weeks if things don't seem to improve and we could talk again.
Long story short..I'm a FTM...is this normal/just the age? Or does this seem off to you? Something obvious I am missing here? Frankly, I am becoming depressed and anxious about it and feel guilty because a lot of the time I don't enjoy my son and feel like a bad mom. I don't take it out on him, but find myself down, anxious and snappy with my DH as a result.
Re: How happy is your one-year old?
I agree. My LO was pretty cranky at home for a few months. The molars took forever to come through! Also we went through an "I don't want to eat" phase... due to teething.
Young children cry about EVERYTHING and it doesn't end for a very long time. First, it's because they can't properly communicate their needs and then become frustrated when you can't figure out what they want in that millisecond. Then, it's because they want what they want now, now, NOW! Right now with our 3 y/o every little thing warrants a meltdown. "I don't want to wear that shiiiiiiirt!" "But I want to talk louuuuuuuud!"
So what I'm trying to say is don't freak out too much. The toddler phase has serious ups and downs. During the weekday your DS is super stimulated at DC and he's being taught to share, self-control, etc. Once he gets home for the day he needs to unwind and let go and that usually results in meltdowns. Also keep in mind that we all are at our worst with the people we love because we know that no matter what they will still love us regardless of our behavior. Your child trusts that you love him despite the fact that he always seems pissed off.
I'm relieved to read that I'm not the only one who experienced this around the 1 year mark. The past month or so has been really hard. Full of crying, whining and tantrums. My son has been clingier and much less independent than he usually is. I'm attributing most of it to Wonder Weeks, but he also learned how to walk and I believe his molars are working their way up.
That said, this past week has been much better. There's still a bit of crankiness, but he seems mostly back to normal with the exception of the sleep issue mentioned in my post above. Hopefully it's just a normal phase and things will chill out for a little while.
those molars are no joke, I bet that has something to do with it. My son was a mess when he got them and they took forever to come in.
also keep in mind, toddlers are always the worst behaved for their moms. It drives me nuts that our babysitter and anyone else who watches him goes on and on that he is so good and never whines, etc. and for me I have days with him where he whines alllllllllll day long.
Hang in there, this too shall pass!!
DS is only 11 months but he has been like that for 10 days now, so I'm glad to know i'm not alone. He seems perfectly happy at DC and I watch him all the time on webcam, but as soon as we get home, he is super cranky. He is ok for the first 30 minutes of dinner and still likes his bath; but otherwise he is whining. It is driving me insane! And like you, I feel guilty that I kind of dread the weekends.
We try to set up play dates and go to new places on the weekends - usually that helps.
all this, except no walking here yet. He seems to act up even more when I'm at work in the evening and he is home with DH. We had a pedi appointment on Thursday and they said his premolars are probably working their way up because his gums looked swollen. I also wondered about a Wonder Weeks leap and sure enough, when I read about this age, the children and actions described sounded just like DS. So you're definitely not alone!
this, exactly!
Polyp removed/hypothyriod 6/2011
7/2011 IUI#1 w/ 150 Follistim/Ovidrel trigger BFN
8/2011 IUI#2 w/225 Follistim/Ovidrel trigger BFN
10/2011 IUI#3 w/300 Follistim/Ovidrel trigger (BFP)
beta #1: 195 beta#2: 502
7/2013 Back to RE because my uterus is OLD
LO had a couple pretty bad weeks just recently. This week, he went back to his happy self. He had 5 teeth coming in, including a molar! They just showed up one day! I guess that kind of explained why he would be so cranky. I don't know if that was the only reason why he was so unhappy but he is fine now. Hoping it will pass soon for you too.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018